(Sorry for the grammar errors, please forgive my sometimes French writing styles)
Let me be the first to introduce myself. I'm a 17 year-old virgin guy. I'm presently in a relationship with a 16 year-old girl, who is bisexual. Though I'm really lousy at the couple's stuff (she's my first and only girlfriend); she's been sexually active with her last boyfriend (about 9 months ago). I DO have the knowledge about sex, but not the experience. On top of that, to my young eyes, my sexuality is sacred to me, and should only be offered to THE one girl that lights up my dark and lonely heart. She is that girl. So I do want to open myself up to her, but I'm timid about this arousal world. I do love her, I do feel the "tingly" sensation for her. I usually get turned on when she kisses me so gently on the neck, on my chest, when she bites my earlobe and my lower lip and when she executes pressure on my butt (ladies, I DO have a kind of big and round a$$, LOL ;) ).
This very Monday, we got so caught up that we started undressing each other, and during that time, I was sexually aroused and had an erection. But when we found each other under the sheets and kissing, I lost my erection, but do not even know why. While she was continuing of bitting my lower lip and stuff, she wanted to get me hard again, but even though I loved the feeling, I could bring my little "BOB" to bob his head. :p So it felt extremely akward. On top of all that, when I was sexually ready, her 9 year-old little sister entered the house and came running in her room (THANK GOD WE HAD BED SHEETS!). It felt, then again, akward. She left the room to come back 5 minutes after... So I lost my "mood". After that, her father entered the house and her little sister told him that we were in her bed, naked and necking each other. Though he did not say anything (they are a pretty open-minded family) I felt extremely bad. So we got dressed and went upstairs because I had to leave.
Today, Friday, I found myself ALONE THIS TIME with her. We kissed and turned on each other for a couple of hours. In reality, what we could call our "preliminaries" took us almost three hours. Then, we got undressed and stuff. I was turned on while we were kissing, but as before, lost my excitement during the most-exciting part before the intercourse. So we necked about half an hour, and someone comes running in her house (did I say that they don't lock the front door, EVER?) So, it felt akward yet again. So we got dressed and went upstairs to welcome this unwelcomed (to me) visitor.
So that's my story, but here are my questions:
-What could I do to keep my erection right before the intercourse?
-Could it be that these "unlucky" circumstances make me even more timid to live out my sexual experience with her?
-What should I do to keep her in the mood, if I am timid and clumpsy? (she does not like to be dominant but loves to be led by her partner, she's experienced, does not like oral sex nor anal, she LOVES preliminaries, she does not like to "manually" help out her partner)
-Should I rush a bit to pass through the preliminaries faster?
-Do you have any tips on what to try out with her, as this is going to be my First time, and that I love her to much to disappoint her and myself?
Thank you VERY much!
LePuceau (French for the virgin)
Hi...first of all I am sure a few of the guys will jump in at some point to give you their point of view & better advice. I am a woman but can give you some insight from my experiences w/men.
As far as loosing your erection prior to intercourse I could be from nerves, and from lack of petting, kissing, or a lack of her touching you or stimulating you.
The "open door" policy of her home is guaranteed to ruin all romance! Especially with a small child running in or parents!!! It's a real mood killer, find a private area to try.
I think you are very focused on her needs, I think you have to find what feels good to you and she has to participate a bit more to help you feeling good. You call this "preliminaries" but does it include touching/stimulating each other genitals? Kissing parts of each other's bodies?
3 hours of "preliminaries" is a long time and maybe a bit too long. I would be inclined to think if you are aroused and if there is no physical touching it would be difficult to maintain and erection. What I have found with men; kissing goes so far, touching the skin all over his body, kissing his body to keep him enticed and aroused works. Then there is massage, manual/ hand touching, oral, which is part of what helps to keep him aroused prior to intercourse. But it takes all of the above or a combination of these.
I will see if I can find the stickey Doc wrote...read it and it will tell you a great deal more.
I hope in someway this helps. If you have questions, just ask directly. I am not really sure what preliminaries include; therefore, it makes it a bit difficult to give you solid answers. It can be difficult to talk bluntly, but many people will help you if they understand where the stumbling block is.
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