I remember coming here when I was worried about sex and stuff years back.. and I know a few give good advice and I think the same people are here as they were before.
Anyways, my situation is is that during orgasm.. I no longer feel that.. amazing lightheaded type feeling.. The.. after glow.. is gone. I ejacilulate just fine.. it still feels good and all leading up to it but I get no tingling anymore. Im 21, healthy and have never had a problem like this. Masturbation is how I found out, but I have tried waiting.. edging didn't help either.. I've done something sexual with another person and it had the same result of not feeling the release after. Its really scary to feel this change.. and makes me worry how I will feel when I see my girlfriend again.
Ia there any advice I can get or anything I can do? I would see a doctor but im military and it'd be a bit awkward to try to set that up. Its really worrying me though
How often are you masturbating these days? How many times per session, generally?
What you may try is to hold off and abstain for as long as possible (read: days) prior to making love, and see if "resetting" your system by doing this helps.
OK, masturbation arrives at ejaculation. No interaction involved; no real foreplay; no lingering and avoiding the wet-spot. "Auto-erogenous" is a very descriptive term. I can, as a woman, have a perfectly satisfactory orgasm on my own but it in no way replaces what I am fantasizing about.
Your anhedonia could be simply described as you are bored with doing it yourself. Back to the response that given the real thing, you will be back on track.
Well.. maybe you're right. I don't mean to argue at all I'm just having a hard time explaining what I mean. I also jsut feel the ejaculation and the orgasm is very very weak.. Would your idea start randomly? Even though it's been just fine for years?
I mean.. I may have been doing it more often recently when this started.. but even so.. it's been like a month or so and it just isn't the same anymore. I just simply feel a little bit of a build up like right before the orgasm and then when that's gone I just feel myself ejaculate and that's it. It just feels off.. like there isn't really any orgasm.
I guess the term Ejaculatory Anhedonia makes sense too.. after I finally looked at enough to find a term for it. I may be completely wrong, that's just another way I can explain it I suppose.
I guess I'll just stop altogether and hope for the best when I see my girl in a week, but I'd love to hear your opinions after you've read this post. And adding to this post.. after I read yours a few times it does make sense.. I just worry that if masturbation was a 5 and sex was a 10, and now masturbation is closer to a 1 then sex will be way lower as well. ...If that makes sense.
Sorry to become clinical with such a romantic notion but that "amazing lightheaded type feeling" is created by a decrease of blood flow to the brain. You are better off without it. Perhaps you are now better hydrated or have been improving your muscle tone.
The after glow is a result of relaxation. All orgasms are the result of release of muscle tension (myotonia) and relaxation of those same muscles. In the male, especially, there is a release of endorphins, the little droplets of happiness, from the pituitary gland. Endorphins result in a feeling of happiness and well being and are high after exercise, orgasm and a few other activities.
Assuming that you are experiencing these symptoms through masturbation, perhaps it is just going too quickly. Something that is done simply to dump excess semen is not as stimulating or satisfying as making love with a partner. My suspicion that when your ejaculate is going where it is intended, you will be over this problem.
Orgasm intensity begins and ends in the brain. Some can simply relieve pressure while others can be mind-blowing. If it's new, it's more likely to feel more intense by itself through masturbation without any additional mental stimulation. If you're masturbating simply for a release and not because you're incredibly turned on at the thought of something, then a lack of intensity would be quite normal. If you're simply not turned on at the thought of anything, perhaps try finding the cause of this. Low hormone levels could cause sexual apathy, though not very likely at your age.