I know most people will laugh at this and tell me I am lame. But.... I want that to be the case. I have come this far as a virgin, and I want to only be with one woman.
....laugh......rip me off....so what?
I think that will be awesome, I want that in my life.
I want a wife and a baby girl.
At this point I have no wife, but I want to find her soon and I choose to believe in that, and hope for those things.
If you have some good advice for me then please say something, otherwise I don't care if you think I am a virgin loser.
[QUOTE=johnnymac57;244279]The problems are all in MY head.[/QUOTE]
The only problem in this thread is Captain Idiot.
Johnny, you do NOT have a problem. You have ideals. Stick with them. IF, someday, they happen to change(which while I"m not trying to rain on your parade, they might), that's okay, don't feel guilty. But whatever you decide your 'guns' are, stick to them.
And totally ignore idiots who have nothing of value to say.
Keep it zipped for a while until you find her. Good luck with a noble goal.
Having listened to johnnymac's problems for some time now - YES HE HAS A PROBLEM and THIS is just more of the same.
The man is SCARED on a massive scale. He fears rejection so much that he refuses to even try asking a woman out - let alone asking a woman to marry him and permit him to sire her children.
This newest idea is just another EXCUSE he can hide behind.
People, THIS is exactly why remaining a virgin too long is bad. Women want men who have courage for the simple reason that women want to be able to rely upon him when she needs him. If a man cannot get up the courage to bed a woman, terribly fearsom prospect?, how can she possibly rely upon him to face anything serious?
"Faint heart never won fair maid."
I think it's a great idea.
[QUOTE=johnnymac57;244221]....laugh......rip me off....so what?
I think that will be awesome, I want that in my life.[/QUOTE]
Precisely. You do what you need to do to make your own life work for you. People's issues with it are theirs, not yours.
Go where your heart leads you.
nice tool u got there girls should like it. so whats your problem with girls
I don't see a problem with that. You are not a virgin loser. Life is more than about sex but sadly some people do not realize that.
[QUOTE=captaincrunch;244249]nice tool u got there girls should like it. so whats your problem with girls[/QUOTE]
The problems are all in MY head.
So long as you don't rush into marriage just to have sex, there's not a problem with what you're planing per say. That being said, Kitten seems to have read other post of yours, whereas I haven't. If you are indeed using this as a way to excuse a fear of interacting with women, then yea, it could be a problem for you.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;244357]People, THIS is exactly why remaining a virgin too long is bad.[/QUOTE]
I vaguely remember Johnny but haven't gone back to review his other posts. If you're right about his reasons then I can agree with you here. But those you address are not the only reasons some choose to wait.
If, however, we can take OP at face value as far as reasons, I see no issue with waiting. T and I were both in our late 20's our respective first times. I was his first, he was my third. Sometimes, hindsight, I wish I'd waited for him. If only I'd known at the time that he was only six months down the road.....
Int - it isn't about virginity being bad or good - it is about FEAR of REJECTION preventing you from even TRYING to get a woman - any woman - into bed with you.
I didn't say it was about good or bad....for me anyway. I spent most of my life holding onto the ideal of my husband being my first, my last, and my only. Well, truth be known, in my early dating years, I wanted my husband and I to be EACH OTHER'S. Maybe it was the romance I attached to that idea, who knows. But I gave the 'each other's' one up when my 4 1/2 year boyfriend left me and lost it within 6 months (according to the grapevine). Then at some point I just decided the rest of that ideal wasn't as important to me as I always thought it was.
Don't get me wrong, I've learned a ton, not only about sex but about myself and about life in general, since giving up the virginity-until-marriage ideal. But where that hindsight kicks in is, if this relationship goes where everyone I know including us assumes it's going, T can say that about me. I can't say it about him.
Whereas I was never romantic.
Sex is too marvelous to pass up besides which, my husband would have to be good so I had to get enough experience in so I could make a sound judgment of his capabilities and decide if we were compatible because I planned on thoroughly enjoying him for the rest of his days.
Then there was the question of if he was tough enough to stand the strain of being my husband. Having a 'past' was an excellent tool to test his jeaousy quotient. How's his sense of humor? Can he handle the usual social flirting that goes on when one has an attractive wife? Attractive more to do with having "it" than actual beauty mind you but still.
Having the courage to be yourself as you really are without pretence or games means you will attract and find the persons most suitable for you because you'll either scare, disgust, or bore all the other unsuitable ones.
We have told this to johnny many many many times over many many many threads and STILL he goes on like this quivering rodent cowering in a corner coming up with one excuse after another because he lacks that essential courage to go forth and LIVE HIS LIFE.