Vivid dreams can be scary. And according to dreamtheory by Jung the dreams that are most vivid reveal it's goal most clearly.

A little background in a nutshell: [INDENT]scientists believe that your brain at night 'copes' with everything you've experienced during the day. This explains why a good night sleep could enhance learning. Because you are not in an active thinking stage, some of this coping is fragmentarily displayed. This you remember as dreams. We all dream several times a night and yet some don't ever remember dreaming.

The idea of (sub)concious comes from Freud. He devided the human psyche into layers: unconcious, subconcious and concious. Unconious layer can never be fully understood. But sometimes those deep rooted urges do come up like bubbles through the subconcious layer. This message becomes deformed in symbols, which appear in dreams and can only be read after carefull scrutinizing. In Freud's theory these were mainly the dark thoughts. His apprentice Jung gave a more positive swing on the theory, in which one could enlighten himself or could enhance selfdevelopment by reading these inner messages, that are not necessarily 'dark'.[/INDENT]

In my opinion: sometimes dreams can provide further insight. Especially when you seem very bizzy in your mind, but you don't yet understand what it is exactly. Most of the times, dreams reflect the fears, thoughts, hopes and dreams that you're already aware of. There are a lot of books on what dreams mean that could guide you through unraffling. But it remains guessing and most of all: personal.

I could start guessing, but that's more about giving direction about how to analyze, than providing answers:
[INDENT]Ask yourself questions, such as: How do you feel in these dreams? Is there anything peculiar about the room you are in (colors, specific items)? Is there anything said? What is your role towards the woman (could be different depending on the woman)? Fe: is she submissive or in control?

Literally: this dream could be about evaluating and reliving your experience, since it probably was important and your brain is still processing. On a bit deeper level: maybe you are having second thoughts about whether you should have done this and whether you have done this with the right person (iow; fear). Or it could be that you see opportunities in the future (iow: hope. the brain simply uses women you know to make it easy). On an even deeper level: it could also be that sex symbolizes something for you, this could be "love" or "a need to possess" or "a need to feel controlled by someone". The women could symbolize specific qualities that you seek or even qualities of yourself. (the brain "borrows" the specific act and the women, but there could be meaning beyond the literal dream).[/INDENT]

Dankovitch, you are the only person that can answer your question. If you're really interested in this; you may want to write dreams down in a diary, asap after you awake with as much detail as you can remember. Analyzing the dreams "as a group" with it's similarities and differences can provide valuable insight as well.

I actually meant Ducy he mentiond lucid dreaming before. I find that an incredible skill the power to do that.

I dunno about soul destroying I never craved love just to get only sex before

Does it end badly in the dreams as well? It could be your subconscious trying to cope with the heart break by getting back at the girls who rejected you (like your recent break up). Kinda like when some guys get heartbroken and they wind up becoming players as a way to cope.

It could also be that you have consistently changing women (and having sex with them) because you probably had very strong feelings for your ex, and by sleeping with these "other women" in your dreams your trying to find someone who will help heal the pain of a bad break up. (Or get rid of the anger behind a bad breakup if you feel more raged than depressed)

I notice since I started having sex I have very vivid sex dream generally following a hard day. Everyday it was with a different girl randing from random girls I remember seeing to girls in videos I have watched. I figure part of it has to do with the fact that I have finally experienced sex and rather than not knowing what sex feels like (so my dream just going through the motion) my body recreates it. From the feeling of skin to skin contact, to the taste of sweat , to even the sounds and smell. Our deepest most carnal instincts are sex...that's probably why my dreams would be so strong

I have sex dreams on a consistant basis as well I never thout much about them just enjoyed them. But in your case maybe its your mind and body reacting to a stimulation you discoverd savourd...then lost. I mean by this that you had sex loved it, your body got used to that sensation. Then the sensation and pleasure were taken away (you stopped having sex). So it may just be your mind reacting to a loss,and simulating it in dreams. If this is right I would do what I do just enjoy it.

Yes definitely enjoy it! And if you learn how to lucid dream you can control them and have amazing times. That's the only reason I was ever able to go 8 months without sex haha

you know how to lucid dream? Thats amazing I wish I could do that I always wanted to learn. But i dont know anyone that knows how to do it.

The thing is that you must learn that sex does not equal love. And love does not equal sex. I have had the best sex of my life with a girl I knew for 10 minutes...and some of the most unsatisfying with girls I love. Once you learn to seperate the two its amazing. But society forces such a stigma on sex out of wedlock and love that it is destroying something amazing.

And lucid dreaming is quiet simple. I haven't mastered it but I have learned how to realize I'm dreaming to the point that I can do it almost every night. The control part is the hardest. I've had dreams where I have managed to control it so an attractive woman will appear. But don't have enough to cause sex. I actually get rejected in my dreams even though I'm self aware haha

> Yes, I loved real sex, but I wish that it would have been real love. The emptiness that you feel when you desire love but just get sex is soul destroying.

How long did this relationship last?

It sounds to me like you invested too much too soon. If true, this is usually what happens when dating begins and ends with the first warm body who expresses an interest in us. Rather than dating casually, and, possibly more than one person at a time, many people nowadays place the proverbial cart before the horse by finding someone to date, declaring that they are boyfriend and girlfriend, and trying to build a relationship. The proper way to go about dating is to find someone you like initially, continue dating with an open relationship instead of closed, building a friendship, then deciding that there is enough commonality to continue dating. "Exclusivity" comes not from declaring that "we" have a closed relationship, but that we simply do not date anybody else. It ends up being the same thing in the end. The difference being that you know going into the relationship that you are compatible instead of trying to make it compatible. There will be far less drama and trauma following the second method.

> I am really struggling to process the events of the last month mentally, especially because she hates me now. I can't take the pain.

Have you read the articles in the Index under the section about dating?

The dating process is designed to be a transitory process in which people go on dates one or more times in order to (a) have fun, (b) learn if there is some initial compatibility with a particular individual, (c) sufficient mutual interest to continue dating, (d) if so, to begin building a friendship, (e) to begin dating openly albeit exclusively (without necessarily declaring exclusivity).

Following this methodology, people can continue to date others (or not) if desired and build up intimacy slowly over time. Going about things the other way means that a couple find some initial interest then decide to become boyfriend/girlfriend and try to build a relationship, first, without ever really getting to know the other person. Now, with a lot of emotions in play, should there be a break up, there will likely be a lot of drama and trauma because too much was invested too soon.

I recommend that you set about dating, again, following a different script.