[FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3]My best guess would just be performance anxiety. You just need to relax and not be so worried. [/SIZE][/FONT]

Yup! What he said.

The cure is simple, the implementation is a bit more difficult. Quite simply, stop worrying. When you can do this the cure will work.

I recommend letting your girlfriend roll the condom on. She can "play" while doing the deed and keep you hard.

Had this happen with my bf at first. It can get to feel like a vicious cycle if you let it. You worry about it happening, which perpetuates it happening, which perpetuates the worry. I know its hard to think of this way but you truly do need to find a way to just relax about it. One thing we did find that helped was not do do oral in our foreplay, as we both love it so much that penetration can seem like a 'back off' if you take my meaning.

Okay - try this: lie back and let her do all of the work - all you have to do is to FEEL & ENJOY. Let your mind take a break. Just stop thinking. Let the sensory inputs roll on through you.

If all of the above doesn't work, take some time off from sex.

Two weeks or so. Don't even masturbate. Just go out on dates with your girl friend, have a good time, make out a little bit, but don't go past that.

Then, when you're really horny and having fun with her, have a glass of wine and go at it. Take your time with foreplay, though.

You say you think about your past when you put the condom on, what past is that? The past that you have gone limp or something else? If it is the "something else" then you may need to work though that issue. If it is just you going limp, well, if it happens, just start over again. Take a few steps back and work up to another erection. Try to relax and let her put it on you. Maybe that will help. :)

Everytime me and my boyfriend are about to have sex he doesnt get hard anymore, and he always used to qet hard really easily, and im 13, hes 14. we were thinking about gettinq viagra, to keep it up, but we dont really want to go up to our parents asking them to get it for us, since its over the counter, (needs to be perscribed by a doctor.) before we are about to have sex he is completley hard and gets excited but as soon as the condom goes on BAM it goes down. I also want birth control but my mom would flip out if i told her i was having sex... any advice?

Yea stop having sex and wait till his testicles descend and your breast are more than developed. I am all for sex, but at that age its ridiculous. You guys arent even finished growing yet, and if you get prego it will really really really wreak havoc on your body.

Viagra isnt meant for little kids. Its meant for older adults who have trouble keeping it up or even getting it up in the first place.

Ducy is a bit graphic, although, I do agree with his message. The two of you are children and are mainly driven by raging hormones. Sex in any form feels good, yet until a girl and boy are much older and have matured emotionally and intellectually--as well as physically, it is a good idea to limit your explorations to something less than intercourse.

Ducy is correct. A young teenage girl's body may appear to be that of an adult, however, there is much left to mature that takes several more years. Making a mistake or being irresponsible or just giving in to impulses is a not so pleasant way to get more than the girl into trouble. For openers, her body and skeletal structures are not fully developed and having to deal with the birth of a baby can be a problem.

Teens of all ages are looking for information and often do not receive it from parents or school. One of the purposes of this site is to help people acquire information so with this in mind, I recommend that the two of you read this article:

I'm Ready for SEX! (or am I?) I really want to do it.

This same thing happened to me with my ex, which is why she is my ex. We would do foreplay and I was hard when I put it inside her but as soon as I got in, it would go down and stay down. She and I both would try to get it back and nothing would work. I even came with it still semi-soft trying to get it hard again a couple times. This eventually after a couple months killed our relationship and I haven't had sex since.

WEll you should try to relax,,as you are an adult then I suggest that you take one Xanax (it is an anti-stress pill)..That will make sure that you wont be carried by emotions and will be hard..Or you could try breathing and thinking about sex and **** on everything else..Do a little like Steve Stifler in Amrican Pie (inside your mind) ..Its some sort of Brain masturbation..You feel confident and it wont be long until "Your friend" will be up..And dont worry its just psychological and nothing more.....It happens to a lot of people...and if you take a Xanax pill ,one or two time the other times it will be teh placebo effect and you will feel comfortable without it..

And QUEENSARAh8 ,,**** that. you are too young to have sex.I am 14 my girlfriend is 14 too but we dont have in plan to have sex..Its to ****in early and I am not a Wussy.I am like 6' tall and have 6'' penis but I respect her and she respects me and we disscused about this and decided to wait a little bit..hell its too early

Queen - go to your nearest Planned Parenthood and ask for help. Your boyfriend is simply nervous and unsure to the point where he cannot keep his erection - it happens. Performance anxiety is its name and you will see it every now and again. It is excellent that you are using condoms - continue to do so.

It is unwise and unhealthy to use pills for purposes other than those for which they were meant. It it much better for him to calm down and relax. You might be ready for sex but it seems he may not be. Do not stress. Males are not machines and a little kindness from you can go a long way.

Marlind - you might be of the opinion that 13/14 is too young but that is not your call to make for anyone but yourself.

Hey there masturbatin' dude, just one thing. Be sure to masturbate correctly.

I have learned in my medium term life that there is a wrong way to masturbate. Generally, even the learned folks hereabouts don't talk about that.

Simply put, do jerk off, do not rub your penis into things to get off. It is unhelpful for the purposes of having sex with an actual member of the opposite (and likely same) sex.

See here for more information: http://www.healthystrokes.com/

Otherwise, beat that meat all you like. It's better than television. Also, remember that real life sex is not quite like in the pornos. There are similarities, but real life is quite a bit different. Youporn is more realistic generally (with real amateurs), but not always.

Cheerio whackin' dude!
:)

If she's using the phrase 'over the counter' in the OPPOSITE way from how it is defined, (and by the way Queen, you are, OTC means you do NOT need a script, and yes, Viagra and BCPs DO require one) she's too young by a long shot. And don't even get me started on a 14yo thinking he needs friggin Viagra.

[QUOTE=lnt1103;218169] And don't even get me started on a 14yo thinking he needs friggin Viagra.[/QUOTE]
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like a old,old,old,old chump
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reminds me when One of the girls of the playboy mansion said the Heffner didnt need Viagra

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The kid's just nervous - no medication or special diet needed.