I always hate it when people say that they "lost" their virginity.  It always conjurs an image of someone ransacking their house, screaming, "Where did it go?!?!  I swear my virginity was on the kitchen table last night!"

But as to actually answer the question at hand: I gave up my virginity at 18 to my boyfriend.  He was sixteen, and also a virgin.

I remeber my parents were going out of town for the day, as was my sister.  So I had the entire house to myself.  I brought him over, we relaxed in the idea of privacy (both of us had families who DON'T LEAVE the HOUSE), and before we knew it the clothes were coming off in my bed, and we were goin at it. I was hoping it wouldn't hurt, but it did.  Like hell.  Oh, well.  At least he was kind and went slow.  

If I regret anything about it: I would have clued him into the pain I was experiencing.  A simple ouch would have done the trick, I think. Also, I would have budgeted more time for cuddling afterwards.  It was one of those things where you look at the clock and tilt your head to the side, saying "That can't be right."

It certainly wasn't my best, but it was memorable nevertheless.

If you want to believe or not, i cannot force you. But I am still virgin at 40. Part of this was due to circumstance and the rest of it by choice. Looking for the first time experience. May have found one so i plan to wait until june to see if she would be willing. if not i'll have to see about losing it elsewhere.

I was 15, he was 16, though we waited for 2 years before that happened.

What I regret most was that I started so early and stayed with him for so long.  If/when I have kids, I would prefer they not be "exclusive" with one person for so long.  I was with him on and off for 10 years, from the time I was 13.  Don't get me wrong, we broke up now and again and both experienced other people.

I regret that I didn't know how to say, "NO" to men and sex.  My parents didn't teach me anything about sex, but I guess a lot of parents don't.  I would like to be different than that with my children.

I think my age was too young.  People that age aren't able to deal with the feelings and emotions that go along with a sexual relationship, as much as they think they are.  I'm only speaking from experience here.  It puts way too much pressure on a person.  Anyway, that's just my opinion!

at age 17 to my boyfriend . im glad we did it but im glad we waited a while too coz i think i might have freaked if we hadnt. i love him so much and im glad it was with him:)

Lost my virginity at 22 to my husband on our wedding night 3 years ago It was weird I didnt know what to expect but the same time I did. It hurt but not for long. And its only gotten better

I was 16, and I recently turned 17. I lost my virginity with my current girlfriend of 7 months. She's had sex with 1 other person when she was really young.

no. you aren't jumping the gun, we've all said it at least ONCE.. lol at the very least.. so don't worry about it

Lost it when I was 16, to my current girlfriend.
It just sort of happened...we were kinda drunk, and things just happened. I don't regret it at all, because I plan to spend the rest of my life with this girl, and she truly is my best friend.
That being said, I am only 17, and perhaps it sound like Im jumping the gun in saying Im gonna spend the rest of my life with her, but I truly beleive this is the case.

I was 19 and lost it at my parents' house on Thanksgiving to the guy I eventually married.

My parents had a finished basement and my boyfriend and I used to go down there and watch movies and fool around. We finally did it on Thanksgiving and it hurt like CRAZY! I regretted it that night because we didn't use protection and I stupidly asked him how many women he had been with (which was like 14). I was on birth control because of painful cramps, but was so scared I was going to catch something because I was young and only partially informed of such things.

But then I was a maniac and loved it and he simmered down once he got it and did not want to do it nearly as much as I did. Which sucked. But oh well. Now he's my ex husband.

I don't really regret it now. Just that first night I was scared and it was weird.

I lost my Virginity when i was... umm i think 11 1/2 or twelve one of those and the girl was 12, we were in sixth grade, and i remember having sex like every night, and i am not shitting you... plus we lived like 6 houses down from one another, which made for LONG nights... gee that was crazy... she would just wear a bath robe, and walk to my house, and  lightly knock on the door and then...

lets not get into detail i tell you i had a great endurance as a 6th grader into Junior High, i joined the Track Team lol. that was a good season, i broke the 100 meter track record at Mount S.A.C.
The only thing that bit about is that we got got RED-HANDED, basically dad came home early and she was still on top... wow... i still get the chills...

I lost it this year the day before Thanksgiving...I'm 16 and it was with my 19 year old b/f...I don't regret a thing about it...it was great (well with the expection of it hurting like hell)

my first time was about a year ago, when i was 18. It came toward the beginning of a recently ended year long relationship. I still don't know whether i regret it or not. I go back and forth. I think i was close enough to her and in love enough with her that i could say it was worth it, but if i ever meet someone that takes "purity" seriously, it will be a disappointment for them.

Didnt lose it yet but i wish i could have.
I was with a girl who i really loved i still cant get her out of my mind after 4 mounths. But yea we were toghter for 1 1/2 years.
She loved me too but we decided that it was to risky and that we could wait till we were older . I was happy with that.
But yea we are apart now and she is seeing a man who is known for his sexual ways.
I know hes a horny dick but she was on rebound and he got her. I am sared that she lost ehr verginity to a guy who doesnt even care for her at ALL , when i loved her soo soo much.
I still belive in the waioting thing , but if it was eather me or him that was going to be her first i would have done things a bit diffrent.
It makes me real sad but yea.

I feel like I lost it too young.

I lost mine when I was 14, about 3 weeks away from being 15. The guy meant nothing to me really, and we were drunk. I was not completely sure I even wanted to, but this guy was extremely attractive, and he just put me into this trance where I would have done anything to win him over.

He basically used me, and it was a painful, sickening experience.. but I can't take it back, so I just live with it.

[QUOTE=Quote (oneNight @ Dec. 09 2004,19:38)]the secret is to be very relaxed which only happens when you really trust the person you're with.[/QUOTE]
I very much beg to differ with that.
I lost it to someone I trusted. I still trust him very much to this day. I could never imagine losing it to anyone else and I chose him to be my first for a reason.

I've always been tight down there. Tampons used to hurt me.
My problem was not lack of trust or relaxation.
It was the fact that I was/am tight and I was not lubed up enough. I didn't know at the time I needed extra lube (since usually, I'm fairly wet down there), but now I know cause it's just one of the things I've learned with time.

A few weeks ago, to my boyfriend of 8 months, we lost it together. (I'm 18, he's 17) No, it didn't hurt at all - the secret is to be very relaxed which only happens when you really trust the person you're with. I regret it because we were both planning to wait till we got married, but other than that it was good.

im 14, turning 15 tomarrow, i lost mine about 2 weeks ago. i lost it to someone i only knew for a week. i met him at a party and i really started liking him. we went to a hotel the next week and we ended up having sex. now i have all of these feelings for him but we dont talk very much. i regret it for those reasons, but i dont regret it because of how i felt or feel about him now.

Alspals69, You seem very nice. Kath

Hmm i was 13.. and i don't regret it.. he was my first bf... we were together a year and something before we did it... and meh LOL i still love him to this day wonder how he is. but yip... thats my story

I lost my virginity at 17 and (apparently unlike anyone else here) I DO regret it. I lost it while drunk to someone who I didn't care for at all simply because I wanted to experience sex.
I didn't hold the 'sanctity' of sex in very high regard at the time. To me it was something that felt really nice, physically, that's all.
I actually ended up going out with the girl, eventhough I didn't like her simply because I was so confused and had no idea what to do.
At least I wasn't a complete idiot. I wore a condom, and lukily, once I managed to break up with her, didn't have to see her 9 months later.
I just turned 20 and have been with the girl of my dreams for 2 years. Yep, that's right. If I had just waited a couple months I could have lost my virginity to the most perfect girl in the world. Guys, if you're a virgin and you're reading this, don't think that the sanctity of virginity 'only applies to women' like I did. If you have an ounce of sensitivity in you, you'll regret blowing it.

i lost it about 4 months ago to my boyfriend

I lost it at 17 to my now ex-boyfriend. Of course I don't regret it, we were together for 9 months afterwards. Other than him, I just recently had sex with my new boyfriend for the first time. And I'll definitely never regret that either. I actually took his virginity, which was a little weird, but kinda cool...

I lost my virginity when i was 19. I was kinda shy at the time and icertainly didn't believe that any girl could fancy me. It was really suprise when a girl asked me out and later asked me to have sex with her too. In fact i was so shy i actually said no at first.

It was made easier because she was on top and did all the work. The main problem was not cuming too soon.

Well it worked out OK, not fantastic thefirst time, but it got a lot better!!

With my first proper boyfriend, who i had been with for about 4months, and known for many years. In my bed at my house. Only a tiny bit of pain, just slow and steady (and protected)

I was 15 he was 16 (same school year)

No regrets really... obviously in an ideal world i would have been a virgin till i was with my present man, but when you are young you are full of hormones and the need to try new things...

It was 2 months before I turned 16. The guy was 22. We both worked in the same mall and I had a huge crush on him. He asked me out, got me drunk (first time in my life) and did me on the living room floor of his apartment.

Even in my almost black out state of mind I remember the blinding pain of it. When I told him on the way home that I had been a virgin and he hurt me. He denied that and said he would know a virgin if he had one.

Do I regret it? Of course I do. I snuck behind my parents back to go out with this man and I paid a high for price for it.

[QUOTE=Quote (DMC87 @ Sep. 10 2004,20:32)]Haven't lost it yet, still waiting for miss Right.

A side note, the legal age is 16 for both males and females in the UK its not some kind of gender related thing.[/QUOTE]
I'm 29 now and when I was at school we were told it was 16 for girls and legally undefined for boys. The reason behind it being potential damage to female growth in girls under 16, which would not happen in boys under 16. There was even a guest speaker from some Christian Youth Foundation who said this.

I can believe that UK society would want people to believe that it was 16 for both genders.

Still, if it's changed then it's changed. Doesn't affect me at any rate.

Cheers,

Ringo

I gave up my virginity a few months ago at 17 to my boyfriend of 5 months. He too is 17 but he was not a virgin. I do not regret it at all and I am very happy we decided to take the next step in our relationship.

I was 15 at the time and it was a spur of the moment kind of thing, I ran away from home and this guy was right there by my side and we wound up having sex.

Do I regret it, No but I do wish that I would've waited for my first love. (my b/f now)

I was almost 17 when I lost my virginity to my (now ex) boyfriend of then 3 months. I don't regret it, I cared a lot about the lad, and the sex was okay by my standards.

I wish we would've picked a better time to do it, though. My mom walked in.

Easier to break it to her, I guess. Hahaha.

i was 22, almost 23.
my first was a guy i had met online. we'd been talking for years and i finally came down to FL to visit him. we practically jumped eachother as soon as we got to my hotel.
i don't regret it b/c i loved him and i still do. he has been my one and only and we've been living together for over 3 years.

Haven't lost it yet, still waiting for miss Right.

A side note, the legal age is 16 for both males and females in the UK its not some kind of gender related thing.

I was 15 (legal for guys in the UK, not sure elsewhere in the world - here the age limit is 16, and that's only for girls.)

I don't regret anything. I was in love after all. I'd known her a long time and I'm still in contact with her.

Cheers,

Ringo

[QUOTE=Quote (Jracer @ Sep. 09 2004,15:31)]...even at my age...[/QUOTE]
Hey, you're still a young guy... even if you wait until your son is 21. You could still wind up being someone's "great catch".

It may sound smarmy to compliment someone on doing what should be done, but I think you deserve high honors for seeing to your responsibility. Not many people- especially fathers- would. Anyone would be lucky to have such a person in their life.

Take care.

I lost my virginity at the end of this past June. It was with my girlfriend of one month at the time (almost 4 months now). We're both 18. I still don't regret it, and even if we did ever break up, I wouldn't regret it. Because I know I genuinly care about her, and she genuinly cares about me. We had been friends for four years before we started going out, and that has made us closer than most people early on in our relationship.

Uhh maybe yes maybe no on the orgy part. Those years were spent full time with my kid so I dont feel as if I lost anything really. It was worth more than gold to raise him solo and no giant orgy would even come close to that. Hand works and even at my age I can still do a complete loop down that way.

As for my kid... Well I will let him speak for himself but he sure has good taste!

JR

Jracer, you are one incredible guy.

I hope when your son is "of age" you have one heck of an orgy! It sounds like you deserve it!

[QUOTE=Quote (LadyOfLucidDepths @ Sep. 08 2004,21:05)]wow you havent had sex in that long?[/QUOTE]
Nope, for me it was more important to raise my kid besides I had my hand or if I had the energy I could do some back exercises LOL! Looking back I wouldnt trade all the best sex in the world over having my kid!

JR

wow you havent had sex in that long?

In a legit manner? My first and only time with a girl was 9 months before my son was born. Needless to say I was very stupid at 16 years old and still in school. I did however take being dad as a serious thing and raised my son without his mother, she was catholic and her mother was close to killing me! After 17 years I still say that was the best mistake I ever made!

Now if you count mutual friends... geez I think I was 9 maybe?!

serious side of JR

I always hate this question...lol.  It depends on what you think losing your virginity means... at least in my case.  

I lost my virginity to a girl in college at age 18.  It was a one shot (no pun intended) deal... I liked her alright, but I knew after that, it just wasn't for me.  I mean, I could have married this girl, but I would never have been completely satisfied.  It wouldn't have been fair to me, and it sure as heck wouldn't have been fair to her.

I really feel like I lost my virginity at 22 to a guy that I met while at a lake.  I fell hard and fast.  They say the first is always the best and the worst.  It was for me.  The sex was incredible... like WOW! lol  Of course, the flipside is that you never get that innocence back... the believing that all love lasts forever.  I'd still have done it though....

I lost it when I was 22. I'm now 23. It in fact hasn't even been a year since I lost it.

And no, I don't regret it. I don't regret any of the things I've done with him. I'm not gonna get into the discussion of my "relationship", but for those of who know the story, he doesn't regret any of it either.
He is pretty much my (best) friend above any and everything else, and he knows that, and I'm very happy to have given it to him and he was very happy to take it so to speak.

But lost is a perfectly acceptable form to use. One of the zillion and one definitions of "lost" is "to rid oneself of". Another one is "No longer in existence; vanished".

Mine was recent, lol that's probably why I'm here to ask if anyone's tore a condom before an if it could actually go by unnoticed. I check the condom usually after sex - stretch it a lil and push the cum around (sounds disgusting I kno but it really does give me a lot more calm mind, especially after the first time. Her period was like 2weeks late an we both got really worried. I had just turned 17 at the time.

I feel in a way guilty about it but then again not becuase I love my girlfriend (a year older than me) and our friends think I care for her more than she does me, I was more guilty because she seemed to be a devoted christian (father of a priest) and ok not exactly going there, kinda controversial but we had been going out for around a year and a half and I didn't feel like I had really pressured her, it was pretty even. Anyway, I don't regret it and won't, it was a real special thing; somethign I can't describe.

What position did you guys lose it in?

I'm just curious - most people lose it in missionary, right?

It was about a year and a half ago, when I was 18. It was with my current boyfriend who I have known for about 5 years, and have been "with" for about 2 and a half of those years. We now live together, and basically have no plans on separating, ever! =P

Anyway, as I said I was 18 and he was 19. It was of course my first time with a guy, and his first time with a girl... What's so funny about it though, is that - well I guess you could say we were both a bit adventurous with someone of the same sex, before we had ever met each other. So yeah, it was each our first times with someone of the *opposite* sex. Weird I know... But I have since then pretty much lost all interest in same-sex sex, and so has he. I still find some girls to be pretty sexy and I can get turned on by one, although I don't have any thoughts of ever wanting to do stuff with one.

Ever since we met each other, we have been of course been totally exclusive to one another. It's kind of strange to think that I may possibly never be with another guy other than him... But what can you do? I fell in love with him and only him, and it's not like I could help that we met so young, you know? I don't at all regret our first time together, because it was definitely special. =)