In a month my fiance gets out of Marine basic training. On that day it will have been 93 days since the last time that we kissed, made love, everything. I want to make his first night back a memorable one but there are a few obstacles in my way.
Namely, I'm feeling a little uncertain of what he'll really want to do. I'm not a guy so I'm not sure if a man would rather have a romantic evening with his fiance after 13 weeks of constant stress or if he'd prefer to just crash and sleep for the next 24 hours. However I am also trying to figure out how to handle the fact that we'll be crashing with his mother. :eek:
So I'm wondering if anyone had been in a similar situation or just feels that they have some help to offer because I could really use it.
I'm also having problems deciding how I'm going to about getting the point across that I have missed him like crazy without being overly aggressive. I mean, is it passe to offer to show someone just how much you've missed them as you're undoing their belt? And how do guys like discovering the little black satin panties underneath a woman's clothes?
I would appreciate your opinions on this matter. :)
How about a couple nights in a hotel room?? before you go see mom?
psychologically guys want different kinds of sex depending on what's going on in their lives at the moment - it would seem your guy is going to be releasing alot stress
look for him to kinda tell you what he wants
if he seems like he wants you like you want him - let him be the aggressor and you be his prize
if he does seem a little tired - try some 'stress-free-effortless' sex - if he's on the couch, strip for him and get on top and do the work yourself while he enjoys the show - win/win!
good luck - hope it helps!
While a hotel room would be nice, there's the difficulty of he's only going to be home for 10 days and his family has a lot of stuff planned for him. Even if he and I were to do some bonding at my place it wouldn't really work as I go to college an hour away from where his family is at. Sex isn't worth depriving his family of him when he's only going to be home for a week and a half.
I'll remain open to the possibility that anything could happen... I failed to mention that I've made the offer that if he gets through basic, anything goes. What's the likelihood a man wouldn't collect on that bribery?
lol - if it were my bf - SLIM to NONE
Darn. I knew I would regret it because he will make me keep my word.
Just when I got him to stop asking for me to talk dirty in French, now I have given him the chance to have me do whatever his perverted little mind thinks up.
Well, it should be interesting to say the least.
Does anyone else have any suggestions???
you left me some good advice so I'll try to help........
I was in the same situation with my boyfriend (now husband) when we first met when we were 18. He joined the British Marines to escape the unemployment. I was so proud of him that I told him the same as you did - if you get through the training, anything goes............
We didn't have the problem of staying at the parents, but after his passing out parade we stayed in a hotel and just had the most amazing sex. He never made any demands or requests - just gave me a damn good seeing too!!
What I am trying to say is that when you see him - tell him that you've missed him and that you love him and he will find his way to those black satin panties......... He's a Marine now - Improvise, Adapt And Overcome!!
The first thing he'll want to do is sex then he'll want the romance and lots of it! But he'll not want to go out for dinner so have it all there on stand-by. Yes, been there and have done this too.
How is your Marine getting home? Is he taking a bus, plane, or is someone picking him up and driving him home? My thought is that the motel is still a good idea, just use it for a couple of hours or so and move on. Regardless of how he arrives, you can always be the one to pick him up and explain away the delay as just being slow and taking some time to reconnect. If you are not the one to pick him up, then when you do plan to spend some time together, get the room and just use it for a few hours and move on as mentioned.
When I picked my BF up from the airport when he finally came home after being gone for five months, I was in the same situation - we had to go straight to his parents house for a big family welcome-home party.
My best advice- don't overplan anything. When the time comes, it will fly by and you will end up doing what feels natural.
When he first came out of the gates at the airport there was a ton of stuff going on, we had to get his bags, he had friends with him that he had flown over with. All I got was a quick kiss and then we had to go find the car and pack it up and everything. Once we were alone in the car, he really greeted me passionately, LOL.
We ended up pulling over at a rest stop on the highway on the way home and having sex in my car! Was it romantic? No. Was it great? Yes. Did I plan for that to happen - not at all. It was definitely crazy and fun. We talked the rest of the drive home, when we got to his parents house it was hectic with family and everything and we didn't have a lot of time to spend together just the two of us. Then after dinner he was exhausted and wanted to pass out and go to sleep.
You can never tell what's going to happen so just go into it with no expectations. Just think about how happy you are to see him again and let nature take it's course the rest of the way.
Okay here are some more details to describe just how complicated the scenario will be:
I am going to Parris Island (a 12 hour car ride) with his mother and his grandparents to see him graduate.
We'll be there for 2 days and 2 nights but I will be sharing a hotel room with his mother (yikes!) while he'll still be on the Island in the barracks.
The day that he actually graduates, we'll be doing another 12 hour car ride to get back to his mother's place with him.
Now you see, I have no idea how that's going to work because his mother thinks that he's a virgin (seriously) and I don't think he's told her about his plans to marry me (an easy enough secret to keep when I don't wear a ring).
Thus, I'm not being too optimistic about having many opportunities to pick up where we left off.
I actually think that the only way I'm going to get to spend much time alone with him is if he comes to see me but I'm not sure how that's going to work out.
I think I'm SOL.
So what you all are saying in your silence is that I am sh*t out of luck.
Come on now no need to get your hopes down!! Just think of that feeling you will get seeing him again. There isnt much you can do with the situation you are in unless somehow he can come visit you wherever you are. If everything has worked out amazing for you 2 so far then this time will be no different and you'll find a way to get your lovin in!:)
Sassy,
I agree with suggestions made by both EvilKitten and the good doc on 30 October. Your urges will be his (!) and the lacy panties will do everything you ever dreamed they should - just the feel of them if you can only "feel each other" will be enough to set him on fire, promise of later fun! Positively find time and space for wild sex together, then leave yourself time for the romance, both equally required.
My best suggestion : Do NOT under any circumstance drive the 12-hr back with the inlaws!!! Rent a car with your boyfriend, turn the 12-hr drive into a 15-hr experience by leaving still earlier than planned, with a stopover in a motel as suggested by the Doc (no doubt preferably closer to your starting point than to arrival...), and then you'll have the rest of the trip to talk, cajole, listen to music, enjoy a snack (and even silence!) and do all the things that "together" couples normally enjoy in each other's company.
Been myself in long distance relationships for a long time and have found that my gf's and my own expectations were most always very much in sync! :D
I appreciate the suggestion to bring him back on my own, but it's not really plausible as niether of us drive. It shouldn't be too bad though. I can fake car sickness if it gets really bad and dope up on dramamine and be out the entire time- meaning I'd also be well rested for becoming reacquainted with my Sweetie Pie.
I was also curious about how men feel about having sex in their family home. Is that taboo or not? I have a lot of privacy at my college place. Does that mean that I am going to have a horny Marine crashing with me?
I really appreciate all the help you guys are giving me!
I wouldn't say its taboo, the thing is just with everyone around the possibilities of getting caught in the act greatly increase. But I'm pretty sure if you have a little bit of alone time and a horny marine, that last thing you will be thinking about is doing it in your family home.
How about a long dark mac, boots and sexy under and then just open up and show him ! then go somewhere quiet
Thanks for all the suggestions.
I just wanted to give an update. It's down to 14 days till I see him again. I got a letter from him today. It was a little cryptic but he suggested that we could go out to dinner with a friend of mine and her boyfriend to celebrate my birthday... "Or we could just sit back and relax while catching up on things."
Am I imagining the possibility of an inuendo there???
The hour approaches- we are leaving for South Carolina bright and early tomorrow morning, so I won't be around for a few days. Hopefully, things go well. Wish me luck!
Have a wonderful time w/your sweetie!!!