Hi, my girlfriend and I have recently begun performing various sexual activities. However, for quite a while, I have noticed, it takes me a very long time to reach orgasm, so that often handjobs etc.. just end in failure. I can reach orgasm by myself, and sometimes during sex, but I would like to be able to do it much sooner and without having to worry about the possibility of failing, which kinds of turns off both our sex drives. What could I do to help make myself orgasm sooner? Sometimes it feels as though I am almost there, but then it just kind of dies away, and other times, if it goes on long enough the feeling kind of dies away as well. Any advice on what my girlfriend and I can do to fix this would be wonderful.

Thanks!