I have been w my gf for almost a year now. she was my first and personally the more comfortable i got w her the easier it was to cum this is my personal opinion but u dont have to listen to me
i wish it took as long as it did b4
those were some good times

> Is it normal for him to take a long long time to ejaculate, or is he just nervous.

There can be several contributing factors. What was said, above, is true. The more comfortable the person is with himself, her, the relationship, and the present surroundings, the easier it will be to relax and climax.

> He has no problem getting hard/horny, but he says that it always takes him a while to ejaculate.

Does it take him a long time and does he struggle when he masturbates at home alone?** If he can masturbate easily then what I believe can fix him is what I often write about with regard to giving each other hand jobs. Here's the deal:

Each of us is responsible for our own orgasms. We do not give them away. All any of us can hope for is to help our partner achieve his/her own by using the correct stroking or fingering technique. We all understand the basic mechanics involved in stroking a penis and fingering a clitoris, however, there is more to it that I call the "Fine Art" of the matter. Shortly after learning to masturbate, each of us quickly develops a method of stimulating ourselves that we rely upon to bring about an orgasm. It becomes a conditioned response of sorts and if we miss the mark either the orgasm will not happen or it will be less than expected.

The fine art of our technique that is unique and specific to each of us can be learned. I recommend that you encourge him to show you how he masturbates. Next, for him to take your hand in his and to guide your movements over one or more sessions until you learn to mimic the motions, rhythms, and pressures he uses. The same holds true for you with him.

Next, give each other feedback on how you are responding to what is being done and for what you may need--now. Feedback can be verbal or non-verbal. Verbal feedback can be words or utterences; non-verbal can be some form of body language, like a squeeze of the hand, etc., that the two of you work out to convey specific meanings. Without feedback all any of us can hope for is a 50/50 chance of getting it right. With something so important, who wants this as a "batting average"? Using arbitrary movements to stroke a penis or clitoris will usually be less successful.

** In addition to learning how to mimic each other's specific technique, is the importance of devoting lots of time to making out in order to build each others anticipation, excitement, and, tension to the brink of an orgasm. This is important for both of you, whether you plan to get each other off by hand and/or mouth, or, with intercourse. Some inexperienced guys have the misconception that the way to peak their excitement when having intercourse is to stroke and stroke and stroke for a long long time. This is just plain wrong.

Stroking maintains a pre-existing high state of arousal brought about by all the kissing and caressing that has gone on before; thrusting peaks this and triggers the orgasm. When intercourse begins, he should be very near the trigger point of his orgasm. A good practice is to bring him nearly to the point of no return then to pause momentarily so that he can loose the immediate sense of urgency just enough so that when you move around in order to get into position he won't loose it.

Most women report that if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes they become tired, bored, and sore. So, whether he uses stroking to build his arousal with prolonged intercourse, or, you devote a much shorter time to it, try concentrating on lots of making out and foreplay (half an hour or more within reason), first and foremost using the stroking technique you have learned to mimic.

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I hope this is of help. Got questions?