I was in a 2 year relationship with a girl, and it fell apart when I went away for 8 months. I wanted to make it work and had no problem staying faithful. For her the old saying "out of sight, out of mind" sums it all up. I came back about a year ago, and wanted her out of my life completely. It was very hard to go through that on my own in a new city, and had a lot of negative feelings towards her for the way she ended it.... We recently ran into each other, and that spark was just there... We got back together, then she dropped the bomb on me... She is leaving to go backpacking in europe for a full year, but wants to make it work this time. I don't know if I can go through that #### again, and can't decide if she is worth trusting. A lot of old feelings (good ones) came back and I am just lost now. Has anyone experienced a situation like this? If so, Please help me figure out what to do...
Wed, 06/13/2001 - 10:58
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Long Distance
how bout trying it a different way this time? she's going away for a year, neither of you really know what's going to happen in that time. why not agree to stay in touch and get together when she gets back, but forget that 'faithful' thing altogether? you never know, you might meet the perfect chick in that time.
dude i fell for u i have a gurl in australia for 11 months i met her during a baseball trip....were both committed so its gunna work so make sure u keep in touch with her thats the best thing.....
Good luck
I've had one long distance relationship...btw london and Sheffield, but it didn't quite work. We're just staying friends for now.
phonesex.
get some cams and chat on netmeeting or some other video program
works like a charm.
I've found that if they do it once, they'll do it again... MJ is right, the fact that you are having doubts sums it up right there...
tried it it sucks
Don't forget what happened the first time. If you think that it can work, and you want to make it work, go for it. if you are doubting the success of the relationship, remember that there are many fish in the sea
IMHO that just does not work, forget it, at least for me, if going to Europe is more important then a relationship with some one, then that relationship is not worth it. I will quit a job, or cancel any trip for a girl if she is going to do the same for me, but in your case it seems that none of you are ready for that commitment. So my advise, let go, and if your paths cross again good, if not, keep your options open.
It can work if you want it to. But if you have any doubts, then I don't think it would work.
long distance?
depends on the distance apart, age and maturity of the people...
the younger the people the less likely it will work.
I am currently 0 / 2 in that department... and from all of my friends, 3 / 25... so the odds aren't good...
Well i've been in enough long distance relationships (10 to be exact) that I can tell you, they can work, but most never do. You have to be especially careful when dealing with this. This goes with any relationship, but more so with long distance. You never know what to expect, and it's very easy to be hurt by it. I've had that happen to me a lot with this. There's a lot of heartless people out there. Only advice anyone could really give about it would be, becareful, don't get too attached too quickly, and talk to them a lot rather than just going by a picture or so saying oh yeah she's hott or whatever. Talk to them for a lengthy period of time. See if they keep their stories consistant and believable.
[QUOTE=Quote (cool macs @ Aug. 27 2002,15:49)]long distance?depends on the distance apart, age and maturity of the people...the younger the people the less likely it will work. I am currently 0 / 2 in that department... and from all of my friends, 3 / 25... so the odds aren't good...[/QUOTE]
I agree completely. Again, my current relationship is long distance..and we're committed to eachother completely. But then, we're both pretty mature for our age, sick of being hurt...have helped eachother as friends through past relationship hurts.. So, we already know eachother as if we were married or something...which to be honest is probably not many years down the road for us.. and I can confidently say that.
THAT is the key, right there. CONFIDENCE. If you guys are confident that the other is honest, that the love is true and pure between you two, and that no ammount of time nor distance is more important or stronger than what you have in eachother (in other words, nothing else makes all the pain 'not worth' all the rest)..then a long distance relationship can work.
I've been in one working long distance relationship..and it's my current one. I've been in two that failed, and it was mostly because the girls' focus were both on pleasing themselves, and not building any kind of love. More power to them..it's their life..not mine anymore. But, from this experiance I can say that it's definately possible..and we need more people who are in working long-distance relationships to speak up so as to break all of the what I like to call "Montel-horror-stories" from situations like this.
Oh, by the way...today marks six months for me and my fiancee.. (I know we're young, but it's going to be a long engagement..)
Hang in there man, NEVER give up hope!! (I'm speaking to myself in this too..but the truth is there none the less)
Peace!!!
-Shugo
My girlfriend is away for training for a national sports team for the bulk of the summer. She left June 26 and doesn't get back until August 23, and there is no way for us to get to see each other until then.
We're communicating using MSN messenger, email, and a phone call every now and then.
My question is, how do we make the best of this situation. We both really miss each other, and I'm counting days until I get to see her again.
Any input is appreciated!
Do not get side tracked! Do you think that a night together will set everyting back to what it was before? If you do not know if you should trust her you probably should not....
How do you feel about her now?
LD relationships CAN work as long as you're both committed to eachother.I see it as any other relationship, distance makes it harder but if you're willing and ready to go the distance, then it shows how seriously you take your relationship and that you are ready to do whatever it takes to make it work.
much luck.
I am having a long distance relationship right now with my b/f..I have not seen him in a month..But we talk every night on the phone he tells me loves me and he wants to marry me all the time.He ain't a cheater..So i don't have to worry about him playin me..I think that a LD relationship can work u just have to be committed to each other
I don't mean to rain on your parade, but long distance relationships do not work. No matter how hard you try, it is not fulfilling and it only makes matters worse.
just keep going with keeping in contact. make sure to make it clear how much you miss her and how much your waiting for her return, because when she gets back, the reunion will be all the more sweet. just make sure to let her know that you love her and that everything will work, if there is any doubt. that is what I did, and my girlfriend and I are happily together
well, i have been to europe twice, and if i had a chance to go back i wouldnt follow the advice to stay for a girlfriend. if it is meant to work out you will be able to endure it. however, in a long distance relationship it takes both parties making the effort to stay together.
the longer you have been together before the distance occurs, usaully the eaiser it is to stay true and together. My girlfriend ad i had been together for 3 years before i went to college. now a year later we've been true to each other and don't take each other for granted as much. Our love may even be stronger now. after the year we can now be together. it also depends on personalities and future goals.