[SIZE="1"]Well, my boyfriend and I decided that we are ready for sex, but, between parents and their supervision, it's been tough trying to find a place to do it in. Sometimes we are left alone, and that's given us time to do plenty of other fun activities ;) , but, it's not a guarantee.
I want to have a back-up location. The back of his car is a fair and comfortable possibility, but, then there's the issue of where to park and not get caught.
We've already eliminated:
- My driveway, obviously. What would my mom think if we said that we were going out to eat and never left?
- Any park. There are a lot of them, but the police watch all of them like hawks.
Oh, also, while it is my first time, it isn't his. While the idea of my only first time being in a backseat is a little unpleasant, I'd be willing if there were no other options.
I know that none of you live where I do, so you can't be specific. but, at the same time, I'd love some advice.
Help if you can, and thanks in advance.
EDIT.
The idea of a hotel room has already been explored, and deemed a little expensive. I think that he would pay, but, at the same time, I don't know how comfortable he is with doing so.
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Be creative. What if said you were going skiing for the day? And rented a hotel room instead? I would avoid your driveway at all costs, you never know who will drive up or have to get milk from the store unexpectedly. As far as parks, hmmm. Well, I remember so long ago (at night) going into a parking lot getting in the back of my bf's bronco. Well, the police pulled up and we were naked, I rolled myself up in the rug in the back and he looked like a pervert in the back of his truck alone & naked. Needless to say, the police thought he was disturbed, he's lucky he did not get arrested . So, I can say aviod those public areas. What if you said you were going to the mall shopping for the afternoon (on a weekend) and rented a room?
[SIZE="1">Oh, I forgot to put that in my first post. :x
I'll go add it now.
The idea of a hotel room has already been explored, and deemed a little expensive. I think that he would pay, but, at the same time, I don't know how comfortable he is with doing so.
As far as excuses go, we would probably just say that we were going out to eat somewhere, and, depending on how long we were gone, say that there was a waiting list or something.
And I'd DEFINITELY like to avoid awkward situations like the one that you and your boyfriend suffered..[/SIZE]
Yea the backseat of a car...wondering if you'll be caught.. isn't really the best environment for you to be relaxed your first time.
Hotels aren't THAT expensive.... I mean if you are old enough to get one... you should be able to afford a decent one.
Or if you split the cost... that's even less...like a decent hotel down the road is $60... thats a night out dinner/movie/snacks.... that's $60 easy!
[SIZE="1">In all honesty, I love the idea of a hotel room. But, after talking to him about it, it's decisively not an option.
Expense isn't really so much the problem, it's the fact that we would have to check back out the next day, and neither of us are able to stay the night or return the next day to check out.
I wish this all wasn't such a hassle. It seems like this should be something spontaneous and easy, not scheduled...[/SIZE]
I agree w/Demon, a room is not expensive at all--the price of a dinner out. About being out for dinner as your excuse, it's kind of hard to explain what happened to your hair when it's all messed up (if you were just out for dinner)! Maybe you went rollerskating or iceskating? See my theme? You were outside or doing something which may explain how long you were gone and why you look not as tidy as when you left the house. I remember once my mother said to me "do you think you could fix the back of your hair, what happened to it?"...glad she never asked anymore!
If you both want to do this, he has to get comfortable w/finding a nice place (a room) not just you! Have him get the room earlier in the day, so you both ar not standing there awkwardly renting it and wasting your time And don't park the car out where the whole town will see it.
You check out of the room at the end of the evening. Not in the morning, your parents will wonder where you went for dinner! Do either of you have an empty house for a few hours or a friend who will let you use thier apartment? Just clean it up before you leave!!!
[SIZE="1">I'm not trying to make excuses for him, but, at the same time, there's really not much he can do. He doesn't live where I do, nowhere close actually, and I'm not allowed to stay the night at his house.
So, basically, it's up to me to find a location for us...
As for the friends thing, most of my friends are either COMPLETELY uncomfortable with the idea of sharing their house for this purpose, or they don't have a house of their own to share.
It's a awful situation.
I want to thank everyone for posting advice and suggestions, too. I appreciate it.[/SIZE]
Good luck and remember "when there is a will there is a way"...
[SIZE="1">I just thought that I would post one last time.
It turns out, I got to go down to his school this weekend, and we did it there. It didn't hurt at all, at first, then a twinge, but then it was ok.
Thanks for all of the help and support. :) [/SIZE]