heres the deal, me and my g-friend have been dating for a few months now. she has never done anything farther than making out. she knows that i have been farther than that. and right now i live in cali. because of school. and she still lives in kansas. she told me she wants to wait to have sex until she is married, and i totally respect her for that. the thing is is that im going back home for a week because of break. and she will be spending the night with me the first night i come home. this will be at my sisters house. i really want to start being more intimate with her but i don't want to freak her out. whats the best way to pursue this??
Fri, 08/18/2006 - 09:58
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a little worried on what to do!
I would just say that you understand her wanting to wait for sex... and that you aren't expecting sex.. but if that she'd be comfortable w/ it.. that you would like to go just one step further and maybe do some touching, fingering, oral, hand jobs, etc... how ever you want to state it.
But initiating these things in no way is you forcing her to go all the way... that you guys can stop at any time.Its just hard b/c sometimes when you initiate those types of acts... its easy to just assume that sex will follow.
Or even when you dont really want too.... you get caught up in the moment... so try to behave yourself! :)
Ask her what the limits are.
I would rent a h/motel room and have more privacy than in someone's home. No matter whether she is a big sister or little sister, does she know that you will be having company over? Moreover, does she know that the company will be sharing the same bed? She may have rules, so you better know what her limits are, also.
If you respect her that much you won't put yourself in those situations