I'm sixteen years old, and my boyfriend {of five months} is nineteen. We're both virgins and we've decided to wait until I am seventeen before we have sex.
Actually, it's his idea, I just don't want to push him toward anything.
We only see each other every few weeks, because his university is a few hours away from our hometown {and my high school}.
The last time he was home {last weekend} we were making out and both getting pretty hot, and even though we both wanted to, we didn't have sex. Instead, I started giving him a handjob.
The problem is that I can't seem to get my him to climax when I give him a handjob. Instead I resorted to a blowjob, which I was scared s***less to do because I'd never done it before. While I was worried about my teeth and accidently biting him, he said all he could feel were my lips, tongue, and tongue ring. He came, somewhat quickly, every time, and said he'd enjoyed it. {He wouldn't have known if I was bad anyway, as he'd never had one.}
He told me once that neither one of his exes had been able to get him off with a handjob {and that's why they'd broken up}, and even he can't masturbate "traditionally" but instead he dry-humps something like a pillow. Haha, or me, when we're making out.
Isn't there anything I can do to get him to come without giving head? I don't mind it, I actually thought it was fun, but I'd like to get him to climax just once without involving oral. You know, before we have sex.
I turn seventeen in two months, but I'm going to see him a few times before and we might end up in that situation again, especially with my junior prom coming up. Any suggestions for something I could try to do?


When you are giving him a handjob are you using any sort of lube?
I have found out that I can cum much faster when a lube is applied.
Also it is wierd that he can't masturbate himself by hand....
Why would he break up with his ex's b/c they could not get him to orgasm with a hand job? It seems especially odd since he cannot do it himself. Just an observation on my behalf.
Anyway, if he cannot do it himself it's a pretty hard feat to expect you to do. Have you tried to use lube? Maybe since he can orgasm with a BJ he needs the lubrication? While you try it, try a gentle touch and see how he reacts have him give you some feedback.
Get some lubricant and try that, I prefer the KY warming since it gives a warm sensation but if you try to give him a BJ it tastes pretty nasty (the lube) and it's available in your local grocery store or pharmacy. I don't like the flavored ones since they are pretty sticky.
[QUOTE=sera300;172800]Why would he break up with his ex's b/c they could not get him to orgasm with a hand job?[/QUOTE]
Other way around.
Apparently neither of them felt like he was a proper guy, like he couldn't climax or something.
I dunno, it was something he was really nervous about when we started getting more into the physical stuff, me dumping him because he didn't climax.
Thanks for the tips. I'll keep them in mind.
I agree with them completely! Id like to add one thing though... when you give him a handjob or he masturbates... do you just do it in one way? maybe mix it up a little bit, try different techniques... again, ask for feedback, see if you discovery something that he didnt know hed like!
Also, if you dont feel like using lube (for whatever reason... like too embarassed to buy it) try using water at first? i find that water helps me as a lube
well he may not like the feel of himself giving him hand, use lube and you can also talk dirty to him