Exercise and diet.

I'm really not trying to be an ass, and I know you said besides the obvious, but regardless. I've just over the last 6 months lost 56lbs myself. All the bullshit that the skinny people say like "you'll feel better" or "you'll get more energy" is EXACTLY RIGHT! All I did was take out soda, cut my portions back 1/3 to 1/2, and started jogging. I started where a slow jog for 45 seconds felt like I was DYING, and now I can go 14 miles.

Beyond the obvious health benefits, there's very much a sexual side to it as well. First, you'll find positions and methods will be easier to do. Second there's stamina. Both the movement kind and the "guy" kind. It builds the confidence and self esteem that really affect how I (at least) perform.

Last, you'll find he has more penis in there than you see. Even for my 50, I'd guess it made about an inch difference. Depending on how he carries his weight (ie. all belly, vs full body) you could be surprised.

Worse comes to worst, you'll have a new experience, working together for both of your benefit. It'll give you some more hobbies, and more things to talk about. Who wouldn't want that?

I'm sure others will reply on the sex side. All I can say is just figure out if it's his size, or both your weight that's getting in the way. I'm sure there are positions that minimize these detriments.

Take care... :)

"Unable to penetrate" needs more explication. Obesity, especially with both partners, can be a major issue with sex. Old timers have heard my rants on this, so I shall not repeat. Both tummies and both sets of thighs really get in the way.

The other issue is whether or not either of you is experiencing resistance to penetration. That would bring a different set of issues into the problem.

There are no quick and easy solutions because each couple needs to find their own "best" positions. This is especially true with any special issues such as obesity. You both lack agility in adjusting to one another's bodies. That said, you may find more success in your being on top with him in a semi-reclining position. In the meantime (until you establish there are no other issues or until you each regain some semblance of conditioning), you can each practice your oral and digital skills. To avoid offending or embarrassing him, give him a good blowjob or handjob and then ask for him to do the same with you. This will, at least, relieve sexual tensions for each of you until you get the rest sorted out.

And, reread Firmus post above this. He gives some good insight including your husband gaining more "useable" length. Getting folds of fat out of the way adds the inch (or more!) Firmus alludes to.

CAUTION -before either of you do anything - get checked out by your doctor.

Next: if cleared for diet and exercise- WALK. Yes, walking is quite enough to begin with. Start slowly and then increase a slow stroll to a brisk working walk BEFORE you attempt to jog/run - your knees will thank you. If you can talk and exercise at the same time then, and only then, should you increase the 'level of difficulty'.

Remove all 'junk food' from your house and do not buy more. Fresh meats, fresh veges, fresh fruit, fresh dairy - nothing 'pre-prepared' or in a box. Cut down on portion size - you'd be surprised but you really can live well on one meal a day (I've done this for years) if that meal consists of all food groups and is made from only the best of ingredients and freshest foods.

As for sex make him comfy on his side maneuvering to expose the most penis, then lying on your back, put your rump right up against his crotch and insert penis. A mild rocking motion will result in caressing your G--Spot. Easy on the knees and on the back and will not tire either of you out. Yes, I am speaking with experience here. Oral and manual are very nice - oral with manual is nice too but, for me, penetration sex is the best. BTW - all of my men are 'not slender' but each gives very good 'value'.

You can do this!