You feel rejected because your not experienced.

Guys know their own trigger points. I've had sex for 2 hours unable to get off...I start to jerk myself off and its over in a few seconds. He most likely has spent countless hours masturbating and is therefore used to his own touch.

More often then not, this will clear up within the first 100 or so sessions lol.

Just relax, have fun, enjoy the fact that he has this stamina now, because as he gets more accustomed to the feel, he will be able to cum easier.

Ducy's being a little facetious about the 100 session thing. But he does have a point that it may take some time. You might consider having him show you his self-HJ techniques so you can learn to finish him that way without his help.

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[QUOTE=sexyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy;273737][COLOR="blue">hii i havent been with my boyfriend long, the sex is pretty average, but im hoping this will improve with time.[/COLOR]

Relationships are partnerships and this holds true for the sexual aspect, also. As such our interactions are not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other that is important. If the two of you are caring and concerned about how best to make love, and are committed to working on your relationship, then "this will improve with time", no doubt.

[COLOR="blue">the other night, we was making out and things got really hot, but we wasnt able to have sex due to us staying over at his grandmothers lol so i was giving him a hand job then started to massage his balls, then he took over and started to give himself a handjob, the next minute he had cum everywhere. yet we have been having sex for weeks and he has only cum once![/COLOR]

By "sex" do you mean having intercourse, or having orgasms from oral and/or a hand job {Foreplay)?
If you mean not being able to have intercourse, is this because of squeaky bed springs, the two of you becoming rather vocal, etc.? When he climaxed that one time, was this a result of Foreplay activities or intercourse? Just curious. Please clarify because your answers will help us provide the proper information for you.

[COLOR="blue">feel rejected that he can do that in about a minute! why is this, any ideas? before anyone says, i am not inexperienced.**[/COLOR]:D:D[/QUOTE]

Please read this article:
HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:

Please read this article, next:
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

Please understand that you have nothing to fear, nor being rejected. Why? Because guys can very easily separate the resulting orgasms from masturbation from those of making love. Women on the other hand find trying to do so more of a breech to their psyche. Guys can make passionate love with their partner and an hour later masturbate. If and when a woman discovers he has just masturbated after being in her arms an hour beforehand, and she does not understand why, she can have her feelings hurt and feel rejected. Nothing is further from the truth.

Orgasms fill three needs for men:
1. Enjoyment and self pleasuring
2. The relief of pent up stress that can build up one or more times a day
3. The outward expression of the love each has for the other.

Men can and often do masturbate much more frequently than women. That the couple just made love and a while later he masturbates is an entirely different scenario. One has nothing to do with the other except for the obvious conclusion of each.

** The reason your boyfriend or any man can reach the brink of a climax in minutes by his own hand yet have trouble doing so with yours is simply a matter of communication, feedback, and technique. While we understand the general mechanics involved in stroking a penis or fingering a clitoris, the fact is each of us develop techniques that are individually unique. If the partner does not stimulate his/her partner in exactly the way s/he has become accustomed to, then an orgasm is ether not forthcoming or will be more difficult to achieve. This is explained in the article, above.

The key to your success is for each of you to take your partner's fingers in yours and move them in accordance to what works for each of you. Do so over and over until each of you learns the other person's technique in conjunction with the feedback on how you are responding and for what you need now/next.

Lastly, I believe that your boyfriend may have demonstrated poor form when he took over and brought about his own climax; however, this happens frequently with partners who are very experienced and/or who want change, or who are having difficulty achieving a climax and cannot stand the tension any longer. So, no harm, no foul. He should have explained why he wanted to do what he did, and had he, the event should not offend or hurt your feelings. In such a situation, again, just continue to stimulate him, perhaps squeezing a testicle as he is about to climax, rimming the anus, or, massaging the prostate--all designed to produce exquisite pleasure and jump start an elusive orgasm as explained in this third article:

"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.

I recommend that the two of you read each of the articles listed in the Index, a couple of times, together or separately, discuss what each of you has learned, and add the information to what each of you already knows. Knowledge is empowering. Next, practice, practice, practice. And while doing so, give each other feedback.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

-doc

Lol yes I was just being a little generous with the number. It was only about 30 or so sex sessions. But that was sex. If were talking about oral I have yet to reach that point lol

time is essence take your time and learn his pros and cons in the game and pleasure of sex from both sides. I agree with ducy though because the fact that your inexpereinced with that individual, again haven't been together long enough to know what each one likes and what triggers each other. You know doc, when we ask for personal advice i love your way of giving information from the website or google or something lol i think its funny in a way..lol

While it was 'poor form' to take over, you should not feel rejected or consider yourself 'found wanting' in technique. IT wasn't the ideal situation at the time anyway. Write it off.

Usually the first sex you have with someone is the worst sex you will have with someone - because you two don't 'know' each other yet. Just relax and take the time to explore and get to 'know' your partner.

I strongly encourage you to find, read, and then do The Program, a sticky post found elsewhere in the forum. Take the lead and see where it takes you.