well after 2 very unsuccessfull attemps, my gf thinks we should try some lube and i agree. I read through some old posts, and ill probably pick up some Astroglide, but as the topic states: Gel or Liquid? we just want something that is effective, but definatly want to avoid messy and akward applications.
she gets very naturally lubricated without too much trouble, but her outer labia are very large, and when i try to enter, its like hitting a wall before i even get inside. i can just get the tip past them by pulling the lips apart with my fingers, but concentrating on all this cause me to loose my erection quickly, which sucks too. She also seems small on the inside, which wont help either.
oh I never thought this was going to be so hard!
anyway...Gel or Liquid? which will last long enough and not be a pain to deal with?
well, right now now neither on of us is experiencing much of anything, as i cant get in...she's too small. We've tried everything but so far nothing has worked.
What ive noticed is after awhile try using the least amount of lube as possible without it being uncomfortable and dry for her or you. It doesnt seem to feel as good for me or my partner when there is an over abundance of lube, Does anyone on her agree with me on that one lol
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Liquid.
I'm not sure astroglide makes a gel, but if they do, I use the liquid form. Very effective.
Everything takes time.
I'm narrow down there and it's taken me a little over a year to be able to get him inside of me. (I should say that in that little over a year time span, we only did it 4 times and only the 4th time was succesful. So it probably wouldn't take that long for most couples.) It took a lot of work with a dildo to be able to get that way too as it took a while to find something as big around as him and about as long as him. (As toy makers seem to thing that the longer you are, the bigger around you have to be and that's not always the case.)
So you know, you could always suggest a toy for her that's around your size. Let her play with it alone and get her used to the feel. This way she can have complete control over it all and if or when it hurts for her, she can stop and try again later without having to deal with getting you up again and ready for the moment.
It'll take some time though.
Sex isn't a quick and easy thing for some people like it is for others. I would know. lol.
As for the too much lube thing, while it can be messy, sometimes it's better to have too much lube.
Even though we had an extra amount of lube this past time, it was well worth it cause everything went in just fine and there was no pain like before. And even though there was lube, I was still a nice tight fit according to him. lol.