hi everyone. i am 18 and currently in my first sexually-active relationship. luckily for me, my boyfriend has been very patient and understanding when it has come to intercourse, but one thing has really limited it- i am very self conscious of my vagina. i realise that they come in different shapes and sizes, but i am really embarassed about the way the inner lips are visible, and without sounding too melodramatic, every picture of a naked woman i have encountered in magazines shows a neat, pretty one. i always insist on the lights being off when i'm with my boyfriend, and i'm finding this embarassing.
has anyone experienced similar frustrations? any feedback would be really appreciated!
Those women are wearing LOTS of make-up, and have probably undergone surgery to make themselves prettier "down there".
It is normal to be insecure about this; vaginas are ugly. Each is different.
However, I have never met or heard of a guy complain about an ugly vagina, and certainly not someone who is in a relationship with said vagina. I think it's more of a "Oh my god, she's letting me touch her!" thing than anything else.
In the beginning of my relationship, I couldn't figure out how he could love, touch, or taste something that looks so ugly and smells every now and then. But my boyfriend said that he loved it simply because it's a vagina, it's part of me, and because it does such nifty stuff.
If he cares anything for you, and if he's got a brain at all, he will love your body because there is nothing more beautiful than a naked woman.
(besides... it's as pretty now as it ever will be, so you may as well take advantage!)
from a guys point of view i have never seen or thought a vagina was ugly, they do come in different shapes and sizes, but thats what makes them special/individual, to me there is no such thing as an ugly vagina aslong as ya healthy (meaning no visible STDs down there) but really dont worry about it so much, when ppl compare petty and ugly, i think most look at the pubic hair or big/small clits, but most dont mind too much either way.. hairy, shaved (seems most popluar) big clit or small... if he really had a problem then he would say something, tell him how you feel, im sure he would tell you if anythign was wrong, but i bet he has never thought of it as ugly
Speaking as a guy, there is no such thing as an ugly vagina (well, vulva actually). Viva la variety!
Girl, it is what it is and most guys will be more than happy with whatever you have. Turn the lights on low and start looking at him instead of worrying what you look like. If he doesn't run screaming off into the night saying something along the lines of "get away from me you horrible woman!" - then you may assume he finds you delightful!
don't worry he loves you and either way no man will find a vagina/vulva ugly and in any case magazines are all dummied up and have a few "perfect" models in it and do not set the standard as to what is normal
i guess i just have to accept and deal with it, as it is only holding me back. thanks, everyone!