My girlfrined and I have recently met after both comming through distressin divorces. We have a fantastic sex life, but both feel we would like to turn up the heat a bit and discover new territoty that we never experienced before.
She has mentioned she would like to try anal sex. I am willing, but dont have any experience in this and we are scared that we could do this wrong and not have an enjoyable experience, thereby killing any chance we have for this to be very stimulating going forward.
Any expert advice here for us??
Heatles are you asking about bondage or anal sex? There are several posts her about anal sex, you should read thrtough them. If you want to know about bondage I will be glad to give you some ideas and some how to links.
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Please look at the list of articles in the Index. The articles are rich with helpful information. Here is one that addresses your concerns:
"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
Although written with the man in mind, the techniques for anal/sphincter stimulation also pertain to the couple.
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.
Hang on, hang on - have you quite mastered sex or are you two just leaping to kink prematurely? I have known it to happen which is why I ask. Sex ONLY becomes boring when one isn't terribly good at it. Then people bring in lingerie, role-play, kink, etc. in a vain effort to rekindle what needs more than rekindling.
Please find and read the two sticky posts entitled The Program and Body Worship. Follow them.
Superb sex is a practice of nuance and subtlety with each person delighting their partner(s). If you pay attention - there is absolutely no way sex could be boring because it is different each and every time even with the same partner(s) as the dynamics between you change over time.
If you aren't exciting her to the point where even the slightest breath of wind against her skin is enough to give her an orgasm, you're not doing it well enough. If her lightly removing lint from your suitcoat sleeve doesn't make you groan with remembered pleasure and anticipatory delight, then you're both not doing it well enough.
Explore what you have and master your skills before moving onward.
haha, its funny because just the other night my partner and I were discussing how easy we are to please in bed, as in neither of us are really into anything particularly kinky (we've experimented with light tying with ropes, it was fun but not something we find necessary to do on a regular basis) He made the comment "I feel like if you're having to do stuff like bringing in a donkey into it..you just aren't doing it right the normal way..er, maybe a donkey is an exagerrated example..but still" lol
Precisely, raez, precisely.