When I have sex with my wife if I don't finish before about 10 minutes I have a really hard time finishing if I finish at all. We try different positions and oral but after 10 minutes it seems to be a problem. The problem is my wife and I want it to go more then 10 min say 30min or so. But if I don't ejaculate early which I usually prevent from occurring we could go over an hour and I wouldn't be able to ejaculate most of the time. We often have to have a quickie an hour after having sex so I can release a load otherwise I stay really horny.
So I'm just wondering after 10 minutes do I just become de-sensitized or something? If that's the case what can I do to re-sensitize?
Sometimes after making love for a while it feels like I'm gonna orgasm (you know the whole spasms and everything but I don't ejaculate) I'm still fully erect, horny and nothing came out. It's not like I released a few times earlier in the day so is this a dry orgasm? Could this part of the issue and if so how? I've also tried warming lubes but they don't seem to help.
Btw I'm uncircumcised, 25, fit, healthy and am not on any medications.
Thank you
Well, if you follow The Program, found elsewhere in this forum, she should be having orgasms before you enter her and therefore 10 minutes should be fine. If you desire more activity, just rehydrate and do it all over again!
Do the math:
she has at least 3 orgasms per while you have the 1 so if you two enjoy each other three times that night, she'll have had at least 9 while you'll have had 3. Sounds like a good evening in.
You can have orgasms without also ejaculating - the two are separate things. Men usually have to practice before they can achieve 'dry orgasms'.
To re-sensitize yourself, have her do The Program on you. She can use her claws to great effect.
what are these dry orgasms you speak of EEK? what i think of what one would be it is me orgasming the 4th or 5th time and nothing comes out. that can hurt because the muscles are fatigued. is this what your talking about EEK?
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;268699]Well, if you follow The Program, found elsewhere in this forum, she should be having orgasms before you enter her and therefore 10 minutes should be fine. If you desire more activity, just rehydrate and do it all over again!
Do the math:
she has at least 3 orgasms per while you have the 1 so if you two enjoy each other three times that night, she'll have had at least 9 while you'll have had 3. Sounds like a good evening in.
You can have orgasms without also ejaculating - the two are separate things. Men usually have to practice before they can achieve 'dry orgasms'.
To re-sensitize yourself, have her do The Program on you. She can use her claws to great effect.[/QUOTE]
Thanks for the reply. I'm new here so where would I find this program. The other thing is I sometime do get my wife to orgasm by oral and manual stimulation during foreplay. It's nice if she can orgasm during sex early on but
I also find my orgasms unsatisfying if I ejaculate too fast. I have had dry orgasms in the past on occasion but not recently. Although it wasn't so much from practice.
Thank you again
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Big, a dry orgasm is simply that--an orgasm with no ejaculate. It doesn't HAVE to be a multi-orgasm to be dry. T had a time or two when we were first together that this happened. Brandye can be more medical about it, but it often has to do with the'switch' not flipping over to the ejaculate 'valve' inside. With T, we decided that in order to avoid it, I need to not be playing with his balls at ejaculation time-something seems to get confused.
huh i would not even know how to accomplish that.
Well we've never had it happen on purpose...in all honesty we do our best to AVOID it. First time it happened he was so let down by not feeling the shot let loose, I thought he was going to go into tears right in front of me. It's worth noting that at that point we were pretty new to each other sexually, and hadn't yet mastered the intricacies of working together to finish him. We got it done a few minutes later, but I've not seen him that distressed before or since.
Among my lovers is a man who has practiced edge play since he was 15 yrs old and he finds it most enjoyable to orgasm without ejaculating since this means he can continue and continue and continue. He's truly multi-orgasmic.
But for those who aren't, being unable to orgasm (wet or dry) is a problem that lies either in your head or in your body - mental or physical - so go see a urologist first to mke sure everything is in perfect working order. For those who do not know, a urologist is to a man what a gynecologist is to a woman.
Thank you very much to Eek and all the others who responded. We tried the program for the first time this weekend. It took the whole evening, it was amazing and very enjoyable. Its probably going take a while to re-sensitize me but it was a good start and I was able to get my wife to orgasm several times each round so everybody is happy. We'll definitely be continuing this program with a 2nd try tonight.
Thank you again