My boyfriend and I just started having sex, I was a virgin and he wasn't. Everytime we have sex, its like a marathon session. It's great, but I feel like sometimes I just want it to be over. The other night he had to stop because he was so tired, not because he came. What's the deal? Everytime we have sex it seems like a huge ordeal, just because it lasts so long. I don't want to complain too much, I mean, it is pretty great, but I feel like maybe I'm not pleasing him enough to get him off? Everyone says that it's really fast the first time, but our first time together was definitely an hour. Please help, I don't really know what I'm doing, and I want him to be as pleased as I am.
Mon, 04/26/2004 - 01:14
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Lasting Too Long
My boyfriend and I had that same problem our first time a few weeks ago. It felt great, but it being my first time, it was still painful and eventually it got too sore to continue. We figured it was probably just first-time jitters. He's not a virgin, but he hadn't had sex for a few years. Also, it may have been that the condom we were using was a little too small for him. Could that have contributed at all?
[QUOTE=Quote ]hes never selfish about getting me off - i get plenty of oral and stuff, its just i want a nice long sex session but he doestn seem able to do it with me
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You can always fool around while he recovers from the first time and go again. At least he's not ignoring your needs completely.
Take care.
thnx cheers
well looks like ive already met a helpful person. that link you sent, well he doesnt have trouble keeping an erection and i wouldnt think hes nervous as hes had sex enough times with his ex. hes never selfish about getting me off - i get plenty of oral and stuff, its just i want a nice long sex session but he doestn seem able to do it with me 
thnx for ur help
[QUOTE=Quote (claire @ Sep. 07 2005,08:34)]what am i doing wrong?[/QUOTE]Probably nothing.[QUOTE=Quote ]when i asked him he said that im inexperienced and like it doesnt turn him on enough to go for a long time!![/QUOTE]That's a line of bull if I've ever heard it. The more you turn him on, the quicker he will orgasm (assuming there is nothing medically wrong). Or are you saying that he's not able to keep it up? In that case it's could be performance anxiety or a number of other things that are peobably his problem. Read this thread LINK[QUOTE=Quote ]i was really upset about that.[/QUOTE]Can't blame you there. Tell him you want him to get you off first, then he can have his. It can be more than just straight sex. [QUOTE=Quote ]can anyone give me any advise?[/QUOTE]Sounds like he's being a bit selfish, and making excuses for his short comings.
Look around at other posts and you can get many good ideas and explanations.
Good luck and welcome to the site. There are many helpful people here.
lol i have the complete opposite problem. my guy only goes for like 15 minutes
and its nowhere near long enough for me to orgasm or anything. in his last relationship from what hes told me it sounds like he went for a couple of hours. and it sucks cos before him id only had sex once and i relaly just wanna have a nice long sex session that i can really enjoy but he just doesnt seem able to do it with me. what am i doing wrong? when i asked him he said that im inexperienced and like it doesnt turn him on enough to go for a long time!! i was really upset about that. can anyone give me any advise?
ok am a guy and i would say problem but me and my gf go through the same thing we have sex for like 2 hours at a time and i mean she thinks shes not pleasing me but its not like that at all so i say talk to him cus i mean we talk about it and it helps
Yeah i've heard of that, its a serious problem for some guys.
retarded ejaculation!
hehe i have that...it must be common is there any figures on how many guys have it.
solution i use is...pull out and jack off and spunk over my lady if she lets me lol. it works!
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Yes, just intercourse.
Aah, then try the playing around. Really work him up with a handjob or oral sex, then finish with intercourse. That should help, shall we say, move things along...lol.
Oh, and this is nothing you are doing wrong. Different guys just reacted to different stimulation. Just keep exploring til you find his "buttons". You might try having him show you how he gets off- watch him masturbate, or have him guide your hand. You can do the same for him. Show and tell can be lots of fun!!
I hate to answer your question with a question, but I could use a little more information. What are you doing for all that time? Just intercourse? If that is the case, you could try something to get him closer before you have actual intercourse. Like oral, or a handjob even.