[QUOTE=a-regular-joe;275912]We have kids so she says that could be a reason i am fast. For awhile we had to have quickies,but foreplays is 69 with her rimming and some prostate. Then when she has cummed we have intercourse no postion is the same. One time doggy,or i am on top etc.Thanks and have a nice day[/QUOTE]
Why don't you find a babysitter. Than take a short trip out of town for dinner, dancing, later go parking for some making out, and than go find a good motel. That way you will be able to take your time and enjoy each other a lot longer...it could be as simple as doing something different, like relaxing together without worrying about anything...like rushing to work..making love should never be like a work place, so why rush it...enjoy each other

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> i cant last when we have sex. I can last about 3mins the most or so it seems.

Here is an article for the two of you to read. I recommend mastering the exercise described. It can be fun as well as rewarding. Also, use the Squeeze technique.

> I want to last at least 15 mins after foreplay.

Many women have reported that if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes they become SORE, bored, and tired. This is something the two of you need to provide feedback {verbal or non-verbal) to each other about.

If you want to prolong intercourse, the two of you can pause the proceedings and return to making out for a few minutes before continuing stroking. This method will permit a couple to prolong lovemaking for as long as desired--and within reason. You can remain coupled or not while continuing to make out as you choose.

As for your question about how long guys after Foreplay and into intercourse--the time varies because of a variety of reasons, such as:

A. PA {Performance Anxiety)
B. PE {susceptibility to Premature Ejaculation)
C. Nerves including distractions
D. How aroused and excited he has become
E. Whether additional stimulation is accompanying such as Rimming, Prostate massage, squeezing testes, etc.
F. Whether or not he/they are employing any delay techniques
G. What movements a partner makes that inadvertently causes a response that that triggers a climax. Deep seated nerves in the root structure of the penis as well as those of the Glans can cause a man to instantly go beyond the point of no return when he least expects to and does not desire it to happen. Thus, the need to perfect using the Squeeze technique, the exercise technique, pulling out, pausing, etc.

Please understand that making love is not what we do to each other; rather what we do with and for each other in partnership, so it is very important that the two of you work together and communicate using feedback for what you need now/next.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

Good points there Doc
If it is worth it I may add my comments as I have been in the same boat with PE.
I am yet to work out which of those points above is my trigger point
First suspect would be PA but then again PE due to rubbing sensation as I am uncut surfaces as the main culprit so I have been practicing kegel routines as shown by my physiotherapist. To a point it works I manage to hold when I reach PONR by relaxing all my muscles and breathing easily the excitment subsides whilst maintaining a good level of erection of course I lose half an inch of lenght a the same time .but it is a small price to pay:)
Indeed my weakest sexual position is doggy style although I love it the sensation is overpowering for me.
Someone advice me to start edging as a way of containment but I have not done it yet as I not too sure if it is appropiate getting overexcited reaching PONR and not having an orgasm at the end.

You have identified excessive foreplay as as reason that you don't last as long as you would like. There is more to foreplay than genital stimulation. You may want to avoid prolonged direct stimulation (or all direct stimulation) of your penis during foreplay. Another consideration is that you are worrying about how long you last. Three minutes is within the typical range. As dancingdoc2 points out in his answer after about 10 minutes women begin to have lubrication problem and soreness can ensue. Don't allow yourself to be mislead by pornographic movies which involve a lot of stopping and starting during the filming. This is not to say that if you are both able to more than ten minutes that you shouldn't. Try changing positions. Missionary position is the premature ejaculation position for men.:( On the other hand, for many women it is the sure orgasm position:)
Do you loose your erection immediately after ejaculation? If not you can continue thrusting even after ejaculation. Often a few more thrusts is all that it takes to put your partner over the edge.

I also recommend you read dancingdoc2's sticky on the "Squueze Technique."
While you are there scroll down until you find my post on the "Grunt Technique" and try that too.