I am 7" X 5.5". My wife has been with 6 other guys b4 me. Ladies, what is the chance she was with a guy substantially larger than me? She says she does not remember. :)
Fri, 01/23/2009 - 09:13
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Larger penis
Approximately 68.4% that she meet some one larger, define substantially. However, the real question is, why do you care?
Do a google search on penis size and you will find tables showing the distribution of size in various studies.
Again, why is it that men get hung up on these things. Size is the last thing we women care about.
I'm not a girl, but if she's not telling you that you're her biggest she's probably seen bigger. Ladies, if you're smart and your man isn't so small that it's impossible for him to have been your biggest tell him he is.
My wife and I took some pictures once, I told her I like the one of her stroking my cock because her hands are small and it makes me look big. She said "bigger isn't always better", to which I said "thanks, but that's not really a compliment". She asked why, I explained to her that it told me she'd had bigger. To which she could have said any number of things that would have made me feel good. Instead she just said, "sometimes it can be painful".
Should it matter? NO! Does it? Yes. Sorry ladies, that's how we're wired. Couple that with the fact that I seem to want sex far more than she does and where does my mind go? Right back to the comment she made that said to me (though it's clearly not what she said) that I'm small....or at least smaller than someone else she had sex with that in my mind must have been better than me and therefore she isn't interested in me.
Does any of this make sense? Of course not, but that's where my mind goes. There are other issues in our sex life that are completely fucking me up in the head but this doesn't help. My first experience relayed to me the conversation that took place with her friends. With a very big smile she said they asked how big I was and she just responded "NICE". Now that is non-committal but makes me feel good. Ladies do please take note of this. You can help your relationship and make your man feel much better simply based on how you answer something.
Sorry, I got a little off topic but needed some catharsis.
Why do I care...? Who knows...ego I guess. LOL I told her if someone was significantly bigger than me should would be able to feel it. She said, well I dont remember that so they must not have been bigger She also said that being a teenager sex was never about sex, nor did she pay any attention to penis size. She was young, naive and just looking for attention. She had horrible self-esteem issues and had no real father figure. I think porn has ingrained mens minds to think that everyone has a 9" penis. This is of course not the case.
[QUOTE=Brandye;232849]Do a google search on penis size and you will find tables showing the distribution of size in various studies.
Again, why is it that men get hung up on these things. Size is the last thing we women care about.[/QUOTE]
For Boys Only- A Matter of Size (Regarding your penis)
http://www.the-penis.com/size1.html
Ethnicity chart
Average range chart
The inside of the vagina has no nerves so "feel" is more a sense of fullness, not dimensions. This being the case, a penis in the range considered "average" should be fulfilling. That is all that is important.
Doc, I understand you're point and I understand all the other points. My point is simply this, sometimes we as guys need a little ego boost. A little something to say that we are somehow special in bed.
I know my wife loves me, hopefully more than she's ever loved anyone else, and that makes it better for her. I would like to hear, however juvenile my desire for this might be, that I'm better. Or that my dick hits her in spots nobody else has ever hit. Or something. Just as she wants to hear that she's beautiful, that I'm constantly turned on by her etc.
Why is it expected that guys will work at turning a women on, will tell them all the things she wants/needs to hear but when someone asks for the converse it's just the foolish male ego? I'm not saying my fear/feelings/ or self perceived shortcomings are rational but that doesn't make them any less of an issue.
when we were younger we all played with micromachines and toy trucks dreaming of playing with bigger toys... we looked at skyscrapers and were wowed... lets face it, guys like the things they play with big.
no man buys a pistol and marvels at it, we buy assault rifles and drool. no man likes playing with a miniture pencil, they like playing with a long thick sharpy.
EDIT: lets face it, men dont really grow up, we just get bigger toys :)
I watch porn, so to make my boyfriend feel better (i'm not saying i have to, i'm just saying it makes me feel good to give him a little ego boost) I will send him texts or IMs about how I just watched something that made me laugh because the guy's penis was so thin, or how thick billy's is compared to the other guy (because he doesn't care about length as much as thickness since he's found out that's really what matters).
It's nice to boost them up like that because making your significant other feel good usually leads to their reciprocation of that goooooodness.
It is a wise woman who strokes both a penis and a Fragile Male Ego.
It is a wise man who strokes both a woman's emotions and psyche.
Being a great lover involves romance and seeing to each others emotional needs.
If a man desires to be a great lover, it is in learning that love has more to do with these things than penis size, particularly when you consider that much of the world's male population are on the lower side of what is considered "normal".
Too many of the posts we read daily are from guys wanting to be better and more accomplished "mechanics" when what they really need to do is understand that sex is more mental than physical. If there are lessons to be learned here, I'd say these are the most critical, yet most ignored and misunderstood.
How many of you reading over my shoulder have looked at the list of articles in the Index and absorbed the information in these articles? EEK, Brandye, and I penned these in order to help make living and loving much easier and more rewarding than it may have been for the older members of our community when we were all first starting out.