Help! I am still "new" at this. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now. He has shown me many new things, but there are things that I can not do for him. First, I absolutely can NOT and will not let him cum in my mouth. I feel sick at the thought of it. Second, last week after a night on the town, we had sex and he wanted me to finger him anally. I did not want to, but did it anyways. Last night, he did the same to me. And I have told him multiple times that i did not want to ever do this because with my last boyfriend, it hurt so bad, I actually blacked out and hurt for a few days there. I was pretty shocked and upset when he started putting his finger there; I pushed his finger away, but he kept doing it. What can I do to "wow" him and make him forget about this area and focus on another?
Mon, 10/16/2006 - 11:49
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Lame in bed
Aparently he needs to learn to listen first. Especially if you are telling him not to do something... and he does it anyways...:mad:
Sounds like he is the lame one.
YUP. Perhaps you should grab the proverbial bull by his horns (or maybe his balls!) and say listen here, Buster.....
I have written extensively on anal play including at least one post today. Please do an advanced search of the board using my name and any of these key words: sphincters, press, push.
Anal play should never be painful. It is enjoyed by a large segment of the population in one form or another because the area is richly endowed with very sensitive nerve endings that bring great pleasure to the person when stimulated.
When anal activities cause pain it is usually because a couple do not know how to properly do it and thus do it roughly. I do encourage you to have an open mind about it because touching and massaging the anus, sphincters, and prostate (in men) are all exceedingly pleasurable when done properly and with good hygene.
[QUOTE=needmorechocolate;154613]Help! I am still "new" at this. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now. He has shown me many new things, but there are things that I can not do for him. First, I absolutely can NOT and will not let him cum in my mouth. I feel sick at the thought of it. Second, last week after a night on the town, we had sex and he wanted me to finger him anally. I did not want to, but did it anyways. Last night, he did the same to me. And I have told him multiple times that i did not want to ever do this because with my last boyfriend, it hurt so bad, I actually blacked out and hurt for a few days there. I was pretty shocked and upset when he started putting his finger there; I pushed his finger away, but he kept doing it. What can I do to "wow" him and make him forget about this area and focus on another?[/QUOTE]
Do yourself a favor and dump him. If he can't respect you then there's no reason to continue a relationship.