Ive been seeing my new girfriend now for 3 weeks, and we have great sex. Except when it comes to me going down on her. She just wont allow it, i mean wont even let me try. She says it just doesn't feel good to her. I personally believe she is self concious about her body and that is the reason *(wich is dumb she is sooo beutiful)* and i constantly tell her this, and show her that i think that as much as possible. Please help me out here, i feel like she is missing out..well we are missing out, on something that i always thought everyone enjoyed. Now i will never pressure someone into something they don't want to do, its just that i would do anything to make this women feel good. Any advice>? figured id come to the right place for this, oh and ive read most of the sticky's and everything, if i missed something and posted for no reason...sorry.
Mon, 07/02/2007 - 01:09
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lady friend wont let me go down town....
Some (very few) are too sensitive for it; most likely she is too self conscious about the taste or smell.
Yeah it could be that she just isn't comfortable yet letting someone down that way... I mean she's only been w/ you 3 wks?!?
She might let you the longer you are together.
As has been recommended on other topics, take the opportunity to have a shower or bath with her. Make this a part of the foreplay and see if she is still reluctant to accept your advances.
She may feel more comfortable having just bathed, if not see the above two posts.
[QUOTE=demonbuttercup;185185]Yeah it could be that she just isn't comfortable yet letting someone down that way... I mean she's only been w/ you 3 wks?!?
She might let you the longer you are together.[/QUOTE]
should clarify,been dating...."again" for 3 weeks. Known her for 5 years.
Ok, that makes a difference lol
So have you guys dated before? been b/f g/f?
Whether you are the new guy in her life or a friend of long standing whose position has been increased to that of a boyfriend, the fact remains, many people, men and women, are hesitant about letting someone see, touch, perform a hand job, or oral until s/he is comfortable with the relationship at this new level of intimacy, themselves, and have then have become comfortable with each stage of this new intimacy.
So, expect that while she may let you explore her genitals, she may or may not let you see her in the light. If not, most likely this will change as noted. The same goes for oral. If she is not yet comfortable with this new level of intimacy, then give the relationship time to get to a point where she trusts you, has self confidence, and is ready for this new level of intimacy. It may also be that she is, yet as Sera and Lerning mentioned, if she is not fresh as a daisy down there, then while she will most likely let you finger her, she will stop at having your face there.
I recommend that you wait to stimulate her orally until she is very very aroused. Too early in the process does not contribute much and if she is timid, she will be more so early on than later on.
Thanks for the advice!