Hey,
Recently when my g/f and I get intimate, we get into it and she loses the feeling of being turned on, almost like she experiences a climax and therefore, the feeling of being horny goes away. We are waiting for marriage to have sex, so the most we do is the foreplay, giving and receiving oral, and handjobs and fingering. The other night for example, we were alone in my house, started to get sexual, and we were both turned on BIG TIME!! I started to go down on her and after a minute or two, she said it tickled and she "lost it" --it refering to the feeling of being in the mood, and the feeling you have of being horny before you achieve orgasm. So the next morning, we woke up and she was in the mood, so we got into foreplay, and I started fingering her eventually. I was rubbing her clit as well and she was moaning alot and getting into it, and then she started kissing me and took my hand away from her pussy..I asked her if it was good, and she said yes, but that it gets to the point where she like can't handle it and the feeling is lost again. She always says that I've been really good at pleasing her, it's just that lately she looses that feeling of the urge of being sexual, as though she's climaxed but she hasn't.
So my question is: has this happened to you ladies out there, and what can I do to make her not lose the urge, and hopefully to orgasm. We're very open about talking with one another and I always ask her what feels good, and everything like that, so it's not a problem of communication. She herself doesnt' know why this happens, and she is frustrated, and I want nothing but pure pleasure for her cause I love her! So if you could give me any advice or share your experiences and what has helped, I and more importantly she would be so thankful! Thanks!!
Keitht
something similar happens to me sometimes if it is taking a long time for me to reach orgasm. i think it is because i feel pressure to hurry up - i want to but can't yet, and i get frustrated.
I never responded, cause, well, I don't know why it's really happening.
Stress could be a factor, but then, it couldn't.
I really don't know.
All that really comes to mind is possibly something like, she had an orgasm but didn't know she had one...which is not unheard of really. Some women do not get the big overpowering orgasm. Some only small ones that aren't really noticable. And some don't really even leak any fluids or ejaculate so they aren't aware they had one.
That however is just a thought. Again, I really don't know.
Hmm ok see if it was me.. and i was waiting to do it.. its like.. i'd feel no urge to go further.. than what was happening.. like it would be pointless. maybe the marriage thing is putting pressure and stress on her?
jamie
Hey mate,
I'm not sure why some of the veterns of this place haven't posted here already but I think it might have to do with the problem that they don't truely understand fully whats going on. I mean I just read your post and I must say I'm still a bit confused. This isn't a problem that you hear about often.
Unfortunantly I really don't know what to say mate. Has she been under stress lately? Is there something on her mind that maybe bothering her? Alot of times I've noticed when a girl is stressed she doesn't really have the ability to be intimate, where as guys usually take care of stress by being intimate (speaking purely on the physical sensual level of course). But then she seems to have no trouble with getting in the mood as you might say so I question if this may be the problem.
There are so many others here that could offer so much more but unfortunantly they don't seem to be posting. The best thing I can offer you is to set her down and have a serious talk about her life, her job, how things are, if there is anything thats causing her stress or bothering her. And see what happens from there. And by no means bring up that you think this might be the cause of her sensual discrpency because then she might feel bad and deny that anything is wrong because she doesn't seem to be telling you whats going on right now... well she says she doesn't know, but subconciously, she just might. So ask her k? take care and keep us updated