My husband and I have been together for 10 years and I still can't have an orgasm from him fingering me or from oral sex. The feelings just get to become too intense and I get very sensitive and we have to stop. Some women are like that. One thing that we have tried is to rotate pleasing each other. Before it gets too intense he stops and then I start giving him oral sex and this tends to help for me. Well at least it gives me stronger orgasms during sex and I'm usually able to cum because I'm so turned on.

She is probably scared of the intense feelings and the loss of control a true orgasm has on a woman.

How long you been together? Does she have orgasm alone?

I know for me that it took along time before I became comfortable enough to really let go and let my partner see me that out of control while having an orgasm.

Also buy her a vibrator. Nothing better in the world for having an orgasm. Just my opinion. But its true.

Did you ask her why?