I've been reflecting a lot on my past sex life recently. So I want to take advantage of the net to ask for other women's views.I've been fairly lucky with my partners, the one complete dud I hooked up with about 6 years ago. As a person he was fairly tightly wound a little aggressive (which I like) I'd known him for about a year and I would have said he was a good guy or else I wouldn't have brought him back to my room.
We had hooked up at a function and one of the reasons he'd managed to pull me was that he was fairly sober and coherent. Anyway in my room we stripped off I went down on him I put a condom on him then it all went tits up. Even though he'd gotten hard when I went down on him I could see he was struggling to keep his errection he was trying to maturbate himself with his hand and the condom was putting him off.
He wanted to do me from behind which was fine but he kept using his fingers on me which was starting to become uncomfortable. Anywho when he did try to penetrate me he was only semi hard so I stopped him. Anywho he insisted he was up for it so we tried again he went down on me for a while (which if you're gagging for a shag isn't what you want) wanking himself while he did it. He put another condom on and tried again. He lost his hard on again but kept trying to put it in, then he lost his temper ripped the condom off and gave me an angry look. At which point I just flipped, I hit him told him to get out and just started screaming. He kind of hesitated at which point I hit him, he looked pretty enraged so I shouted to the girls next door that he was kicking off, and he got shown the door.
Anywho I know as you go through life you have some shitty sexual experiences and I actually count myself lucky that that's as bad as mine have got. So anybody else ever had to ask/tell a guy to go away
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Yes, I have had to show men the door as the expression goes, but I didn't need to scream to get it done. I merely offered them a choice. "You're going - either through the window or through the door - your choice." And then I stood there waiting and watching. Men can say what they want on their way out but I've stopped listening or caring by then. "Yeah. Yeah. Whatever."
Guys - if a lady is going to throw you out, for whatever reason, just go with as much grace as you can. I know it can be difficult to do but you will only hurt yourself (and your image) further if you say anything or linger. Just hop back into your clothes and walk away.
Yes, I have it was not during the actual sexual encounter but during the beginning of a planned evening of dinner & spending time together [sexually].
He apparently had more to drink then I noticed since I had been cooking, became angered at my lack of attention on him, was nasty, I told him time to leave now, firmly. He shoved me, I backed away, and locked the door after he walked.
There were some unpleasant "threats" from him but he did leave without me using any defensive measures.
Sera, I think that's the plus of being comfortable cooking for a man.
I don't get what feminists are saying - it's a submissive role? Hardly.
First of all, if a women is providing my empty stomach with food, I'm puddy in her hand. She's the boss.
But let's say we get in a situation similar to yours, where you're being very kind and cooking for an oaf. He gets a little rowdy. You're the one handy with the frying pan and the cutting knives.
The chef wins again.
The feminists say it is subservient when he gets upset when the dinner is not on the table when he gets home - that whole mentality thing of a certain type of man in which case I'd agree with them. However, much of subservience comes from within; if you think you're being subservient, then you most likely are. But this is not something I suffer from. Either we're equal or you're gone or if the house is in your name, I'm gone.
In addition to cast iron frying pans and large knives, a chef has the weapons of the various sprays available in the kitchen. Pam would work wonders on a raving lunatic. Should the chef be boiling water, heating up oil in preparation to frying, or boiling sugar water to make candy, or indeed in the middle of basting - hot grease.
Then we come to the chemicals normally stored under the kitchen sink. A bit of Windex in the face perhaps? Hmm.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;231977]I merely offered them a choice. "You're going - either through the window or through the door - your choice."[/QUOTE]
I was in a very similar situation many years ago, In my case, I couldn't put it all the way in because it would hurt her. I tried to give more foreplay to loosen her up, but she wasn't interested. She kept saying she just wanted me to fuck her. After an eternity of that nonsense, she gave up and yelled at me to just leave. Fine by me, it's not as though I was enjoying it. But when she thought I wasn't getting dressed fast enough, she gave me that exact threat. I would leave through the door or the window. After a night of sexual frustration, (which she laid all the blame on me for) I was not in the mood to be threatened, whether she intended to follow through or not. So I stood up, stared her right in the face, and said "You know what, I'll take the window.". She just stared back at me for a good 10 seconds and then backed down, thankfully getting the message. After that, I finished getting dressed and left without another word. I would never do something like that today, but MAN did she piss me off!
Getting thrown out of a woman's room/apartment/house for not performing sexually is incredibly humiliating for any guy. To say that he feels like less of a man is an understatement. He doesn't feel like a man at all. He wonders if it will happen again, if she's going to tell everyone about it, and whether or not he will ever live it down if she does. It's a lot to think about. But guys, you have to be the biggest man you know how to be, and just walk away quietly. Nothing good can come of you doing anything else.
[QUOTE=PsychoSexual Madman;232005]I was in a very similar situation many years ago, In my case, I couldn't put it all the way in because it would hurt her. I tried to give more foreplay to loosen her up, but she wasn't interested. She kept saying she just wanted me to fuck her. After an eternity of that nonsense, she gave up and yelled at me to just leave. Fine by me, it's not as though I was enjoying it. But when she thought I wasn't getting dressed fast enough, she gave me that exact threat. I would leave through the door or the window. After a night of sexual frustration, (which she laid all the blame on me for) I was not in the mood to be threatened, whether she intended to follow through or not. So I stood up, stared her right in the face, and said "You know what, I'll take the window.". She just stared back at me for a good 10 seconds and then backed down, thankfully getting the message. After that, I finished getting dressed and left without another word. I would never do something like that today, but MAN did she piss me off!
Getting thrown out of a woman's room/apartment/house for not performing sexually is incredibly humiliating for any guy. To say that he feels like less of a man is an understatement. He doesn't feel like a man at all. He wonders if it will happen again, if she's going to tell everyone about it, and whether or not he will ever live it down if she does. It's a lot to think about. But guys, you have to be the biggest man you know how to be, and just walk away quietly. Nothing good can come of you doing anything else.[/QUOTE]
Thanks for your post, I didn't think to ask for guys experiences in my original post and I should have. Screaming and threatening someon if they're already complying with your wishes is wrong and its obvious she was on a bit of a power trip.It's one of the problems with have sex with people you're not entirely comfortable with.
Incidently if she flat out told you she was ready for you to go into her, then she probably was and you should have. Something similar happened to me years ago, with a new bf that wasn't used to me. He was under the impression the he was huge (and while he was big he wasn't that big) I kept telling him to move into me, but he wouldn't and kept fingering me which was killing my mood and I didn't find comfortable, it's not a nice feeling when you're got your legs splayed and theres a bloke looking down at your foo foo with a puzzled expression on his face. Then he started to go down on me but again wasn't what I wanted at that moment.
So I got quite verbally insistant and finally he did, and everything was great. What I'm saying is she probably had a better understanding of her body than you and she was probably horny as fuck and getting frustrated.
[QUOTE=sarah_rsl;232010]What I'm saying is she probably had a better understanding of her body than you and she was probably horny as fuck and getting frustrated.[/QUOTE]
Well...yes and no. Normally, I would take all my cues from her, but looking back, it seemed she really didn't know her own body. I would get about 2 inches in, then she would feel pain and want me to pull out. I would go back to foreplay to get her loose until she couldn't stand it anymore and wanted me to penetrate her again. But everytime I did, it would still hurt. We just went back and forth like this for a long-ass time before she just got too frustrated to continue. The worst part was blaming me for it, especially since we were moving at the pace SHE wanted.
I never said I yelled or screamed. I didn't. I was very calm about the entire thing. There's no need for histrionics even if he did push his way into my place making demands. Tsk tsk tsk. Guys should not tempt an evil woman like that - it isn't good for her to that much ...fun?
[QUOTE=PsychoSexual Madman;232012]Well...yes and no. Normally, I would take all my cues from her, but looking back, it seemed she really didn't know her own body.[/QUOTE]
I think you should be slow to make psychological dianosis based on one incident. A more like explanation is that you just weren't sexually compatible, it happens, from what you've said she could have been more mature about it.
Something you should realise in a situation like that it's important that theirs no ambiguity about asking a guy to leave, especially if you don't know him that well. A mate of mine told me when I was young if they look any way hesitant or look like they're considering their options then start shouting and screaming, you can sooth their ego the next day if neccessary.
I once had a girl tell me to leave all pissed off because I was unable to orgasm. We did it for hours and she must have came 10 times or more. I think she was insulted by me not cumming, like she did not turn me on. I told her I have this problem all the time and it had nothing to do with her. Oh well, no one else complains. :)
Yes, she was insulted and embarassed that you could not orgasm. Women do like to please those who have pleased them. She may also have had to deal with this issue before with someone else and now - doesn't want to go there again.
I've wanted to, but never did.
Met a guy in a night club, kissed him, invited him back. Got back to mine - worst sex ever although he was super hot. Guess the saying's true that no one's good or bad at sex, but that it depends who you're doing it with. Anyway, I was quite drunk so asked him to stop, we had a bit of a conversation about how we both reckoned we're quite good at sex but that what we were just doing was no good, he asked if he should go and I kind of wanted him to but let him stay the night and he left pretty much first thing in the morning.