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[QUOTE=silverstar;201899]I have a situation. I’m involved with a new partner. Intercourse is great but I need to step it up a little with oral sex. In my opinion, I think he’s not enjoying what I’m giving.

[COLOR="Blue">Please read the following article:
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

Next, ask him what he enjoys and then to give you feedback, either verbally or non-verbally on how he is responding to your caresses[/COLOR].

1. I have braces, had them since June and they come off in March 08. I think getting use to having braces is one thing, but giving head while having braces is a completely different animal.

[COLOR="Blue">Braces shouldn't make a difference. The proper technique is to wrap your lips over your teeth so that his penis slips and slides between our lips. Doing so makes things slipperier and prevents scraping.[/COLOR]

2. I gag too much, so I very cautious on how much to take in.

[COLOR="Blue">Proper technique is the answer. Either raise your tongue to the roof of your mouth, or, the tip. Either way, one surface or the other will catch the semen and prevent it from flying to the rear of your mouth and contacting the uvula making you gag.[/COLOR]

3. He wants me to swallow. I think the thought of it is messing with my performance to make him happy.

[COLOR="Blue">Lady's choice, here. You can try it or not, or, do it or not. If your answer is not, then he has to live with this. The alternatives are to either spit it out or not have him ejaculate in your mouth at all. Again, your choice.

If you do wish to swallow then take a sip of water, soda, wine, or other liquid in order to wash it down with. Works like a charm.[/COLOR]

4. I do not have much experience with oral sex, I’m again cautious on who I giving oral sex to, especially being a widow of ten years. My involvement with oral sex was with my decease husband in my twenties and two other men within those ten years afterwards.

[COLOR="Blue">Oral stimulation is just another form of foreplay. Explore and learn together. Give each other feedback.[/COLOR]

I really enjoy my time with this man and do not want my performance in pleasing him be the cause of him straying. :confused:

Please read this article, next:
Chapter Five (also has its own separate link):
HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:
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I agree with the doc, braces shouldn't matter too much.

I never gag, simply because I take him in slowly, and if I have to I hold his hips down so he doesn't thrust in when I'm not ready.

Swallowing...well personally I love it, but it can taste a little overwhelming so usually I just swallow it quick, like you would with cough syrup. Another idea, is when he's coming pull his cock out of your mouth but keep licking and let him cum on your face/boobs/neck/whatever. He would love that just as much I'm sure. ;)

Most men enjoy blowjobs, but if the actual sex is good I doubt he'll leave you or cheat just because you don't give earth shattering oral. Besides, oral is sort of a "learned" skill in my opinion, just tell him you want to practice...he won't mind. :D

Doc...I dont think she is gagging because of taste...I think she is gagging because she is going too far in...thats why she says she is careful as to how much she takes in.

In order to get over the gagging from too much penis, you have to practice relaxing your throat...you can also try a position called the throat swab. You lay on your back with your head off of the bed so that it basically lines your throat up in a straight line, so there is less gagging involved.

Well I'm going to have to disagree with my collegues on this topic...;) Here is a video that shows the imminent
dangers of oral sex and braces..there is an age restriction, it takes about 9 minutes of your life, it gets good at the 4minute mark...ROFLMAO..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CB2ipdmtYuI

LOL
too much

[QUOTE=Ducy;201960]
In order to get over the gagging from too much penis, you have to practice relaxing your throat...you can also try a position called the throat swab. You lay on your back with your head off of the bed so that it basically lines your throat up in a straight line, so there is less gagging involved.[/QUOTE]

Ducy...this is NOT a good position to use to get over gagging. Unless your partner has EXTREME! self control he will go in too fast, and you cannot control him. Even the most experienced who can deep throat can gag like this, because hell I did. Was the only time I used teeth. :o

If you are having that much of an issue with the braces...talk to your dentist...I have seen bone wax applied & adding a temporary dental overlay so you cannot cut him....if this is that important to you....talk to the dentist/oral surgeon....do you think you are the first one? And haw many I have seen injured as a result of braces!!!!

You're trying to improve your sexual performance so he doesn't stray??!?!
Excuse me?? He should be with you because you're YOU not because you're some wild ****ing machine. Lady, you have what he wants. Else he wouldn't be there.

If you gag, you gag - I've thrown up on guys, literally, and they still like me. Embarassing at the time but a quick dash into the shower, a liberal application of hot water and soap - all neat and tidy. Swallowing is no big deal and it is Atkins approved.

What attracts and holds a man is being confident in who you are, sincere, fun, nice, full of joy at being alive, cute & adorable, as well as a woman who not only accepts but embraces her sexuality.

You should be communicating with him.