my wife do not get sexually aroused and that makes me very tough to insert my penis into her vagina...I am not able to give strokes ....Once I insert my penis in to her vagina ..I push my penis hard to go inside her vagina and I try to ejaculate by streching my legs and thigh very hard ....Her vagina do not have proper lubrication and it won't be in swollen state....more over we don't have sexual pleasure by doing this type of sex..we are doing this from past 3 years just to have a Baby but no luck ....Before her periods she will get disturbed a lot and loss confidence that she will get pregnancy ...
Should I use KY jelly before I start inserting my penis in to her vagina..
Iam 33 yrs old and my wife is 31 yrs..we are badly looking for a baby from past 3 yrs,,,Please help
--Martin
Yes by all means, use additional lubricant! I personally prefer K-Y Jelly because it's water based and used by more Dr's offices and medical facilities than any other brand. I trust it's gentleness and purity but it's important to apply it before penetration since may burn and/or sting if her tissues are irritated. If she's dry, manual stimulation can be very irritating as well so using a lubricant will often be beneficial for that too. Another option you didn't mention is oral sex performed on her to help her become physically aroused. Oral stimulation will help bring blood flow to her genital region, which adaquate blood flow is necessary for for both partners to reach an optimal level of arousal.
However, from reading your post, your wife's inabillity to become physically aroused may be linked to the pressure she's put on herself and the resultant failure to conceive. Many couples, both male and female, trying to conceive (TTC) put so much effort into trying to get pregnant that when they repeatedly become disappointed start to feel like failures. This is especially true for the woman and it leaves them feeling worthless, inadaquate, and unloveable. When a woman feels like this, it's hard for her to see herself as desireable and wanted by her partner since "she" can't seem to get pregnant. Also, when the main goal is pregnancy, not intimacy and connection to your mate, she's not in the proper frame of mind to allow her body to become aroused. Then each month when her period begins, it perpetuates the negative feelings she has towards heself and her body. Being in your 30's, I know the pressure of getting pregnant is mounting, especially for her. My suggestion would be to see a Dr if you've been trying for a while with no luck. There may be medical and hormonal causes preventing her from conceiving. Secondly, stop trying so hard and allow yourselves to reconnect as a couple. Make love to each other because you love each other and want that intimate connection, not because it's supposed to make you pregnant. Take that pressure off yourselves for a couple of months. Many people in your situation have given up on fertility and opted to enjoy each other and please their partner found that with less pressure, they could get pregnant! Good luck to you and Mrs Martin, I hope the two of you can work on this together and eventually get the baby you both so desperately want.
[color=green]u know....there isn't enough information to truly know what's the deal.....do you attempt to arouse her before hand or is it "wam bam thank-you ma'am?"[/color]