My boyfriend and I have had sex about... nine, ten times now. He lost his virginity to me, I had had it twice before. Never in those times was it completely orgasmic. Not... at all.
My boyfriend fingers my G-spot, and it feels really, really good, but I know what it feels like to come close to an orgasm, and when it comes to orgasms, it doesn't seem close.
Before we have sex, we kind of grind against each other in bed, and at that moment, I AM turned on. But once the clothes are off and the condom goes on, I just... totally lose it. Him inside me feels good, but... never NEAR an orgasm.
It's not that I'm not sexually attracted to him, because I am, very much so. And he's trying so hard to pleasure me, but it just... doesn't work.
Before I lost my virginity, I used to masturbate and orgasm easily. Now I can't orgasm anymore. At all. I don't feel that sexual feeling that I used to.
I mean, I'm sixteen years old. Is there something wrong, here?
Any advice? Anything that could give me more pleasure? I bought some warming lube, which was also a good idea because I become dry really easily, and we're gonna try it the next time he comes over.
Anything to set the mood as well? It's kind of in the confines of my room... the other people in the house aren't... supposed to know. Which puts a little stress on us. I understand that could be a part of it. But nobody ever comes into the room, so, you know, it doesn't really bother me.
Thank you in advance.
One reason why he can't cause you to orgasm is that he doesn't know your body as well as you do. People can't get off because of stimulation, we orgasm because of individual rhythms. You'll need to practice and show him the specific pressures, motions, and rhythms that cause you to have an orgasm.
There could be a number of psychological reasons why you can't orgasm anymore, depression, you simply might not be sexually interested at this time, the stress of being caught (maybe you should rent out a hotel room or go on "camping trips").
The Doc or Brandye should post within a day or two. They know a lot more about this.
I would venture to say that you're feeling "guilty" or "dirty" because you have had sex, kinda sorta; that whole fear of discovery and now I'm not orgasming thing you have going rather gave the game away. Stop it. Sex is GOOD!
Why are you going around with inexperienced males? Just because he does A, B, or C does not make him good at it. You need to slow down a trifle and become re-acquainted with your body and yourself.
You're both right. I really need to find myself... to see what makes ME feel good, before he becomes involved, I suppose. Because then HE gets upset because he didn't pleasure me.
I've found many good sites that I've sent him, and though he's inexperienced, he's learning, and studying. I'm very proud of him for that.
Yes, I have been diagnosed with depression. I'm on Lexapro for it right now. I'm pretty sure that's a big part of it. And it's horrible... because I want sex to be this spiritual, deep, amazing feeling, and I'm trying SO hard to get it right, and I get nowhere.
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Why are you going around with inexperienced males? Just because he does A, B, or C does not make him good at it. You need to slow down a trifle and become re-acquainted with your body and yourself.[/QUOTE]
ah the eternal curse always the guys fault if it went your way every teen girl would have to run around with a 25 year old
Sure NewtoLove or at least two of them until she learned the ropes and then could teach them to her more age compatible guys. Either that or get more practice in!
Sure NewtoLove or at least two of them until she learned the ropes and then could teach them to her more age compatible guys. Either that or get more practice in!
Relax and let both of you learn to enjoy this.