So here's a weird "problem" I'm sure most guys will envy: My girlfriend faints when she has really intense G-spot orgasms. I'd love to take the credit for this, but apparently that's just how she's wired.
When I say she faints, I mean she really faints: eyes rolled all the way up, deathly pale, out cold, completely unconscious for a full minute or sometimes longer. She's assured me she's told her doctor, that there's nothing wrong with her physically, that "la petite mort" is rare but some women are more susceptible to it than others.
When she faints, I stop what I'm doing and wait for her to come to - sometimes lifting her legs and lowering her head to get the blood back to her brain if she's unconscious for more than a minute. When she wakes up, it usually takes at least another five minute before she's coherent ... and by then she's so worn out that I just want to let her sleep. Generally I finish myself off after she goes to sleep, which doesn't take long ... and I don't mind this. I love it that she faints.
The problem is that she wants me to keep going and finish myself off while she's unconscious ... and I can't do it. I've tried, but it feels wrong - to me, there's nothing sexy about screwing an unconscious girl. A couple of times, I've cum at the moment she fainted, and that's awesome, but usually I'm not that coordinated.
Has anyone else been in a situation like this? Guys, do you keep going if she faints? Girls, do you want the guy to keep going if you faint? Like I said, it's kind of a wonderful problem to have ... I just wondered if anyone else has it.
She really needs to see a doctor. The rush of oxygen to the brain isn't supposed to be knocking her out.
And if it were me - he damn well better just STOP.
EvilEvilKitten, I felt exactly the same way, but she actually is healthy, has discussed this with several doctors over the years, has undergone various tests and has always gotten a clean bill of health. She got so annoyed by my repeated expressions of concern that I finally backed off.
Also, while the idea of making her faint is sexy in a sort of weird erotic-fantasy way, the reality of fainting isn't sexy at all, which is why I do just STOP. I'd never seen a person faint for real - it's not like the movies at all.
So, yes, I'm conflicted about it, but there's really nothing I can do but make the most of it.
"La Petite Mort" is intended more as a metaphor than a real experience. Sure, orgasm makes many light headed and giddy and likely gave it the name. But passing out for five minutes? Not normal, healthy nor desirable. I respect your desire to not be screwing an unconscious woman. Everything else about your description bothers me, as a woman and as a physician.
Fainting is a result of lack of oxygen to the brain. The oxygen is gotten there by the blood pumped through the arteries. She is dealing with a vascular problem, not a sexual problem. Possibilities:
1. You exaggerate a bit.
2. She is being less than truthful telling you she has discussed this with "several doctors over the years.
3. The doctors are not taking her description seriously.
This could be as simple as her being chronically dehydrated and lacks the blood volume when she goes off. Typically, however, the body will protect the critical organs even if that trumps the orgasm. This happening once in a great while would be no big deal but happening commonly is concerning and deserves a real examination and history. Yes, you can do something about it: Tell her no more sex unless a cardio nurse is standing by the bed.
Thank you, Brandye. Orgasm sends oxygen to the brain but I couldn't for the life of me remember what caused fainting but knew this fainting of hers wasn't "a good thing". BTW, buddy, women will lie to lovers, doctors, priests...almost anyone just to avoid confrontation and/or pressure to change. You cannot control that but what you can control is what you do. If you feel uncomfortable,and this applies to all situations not just this one, then you have the right to "say no".