Well it depends on many different things. If you two have been together for sometime and you both care for one another then the act of pleasing you is extremely arousing. If you are a new couple, it could go either way. New couples are still exploring one another and sometimes cannot read each other’s pleasures because you are too focused on the task at hand. It is not until you both settle into the relationship that you start to notice each other’s signs of pleasure (the real ones not just the moaning).

In addition, yes, sometimes we sike our selves out by thinking to much into the act. Remember you are doing this not to just please him, but yourself as well. It is ok to want to drive the other partner crazy, but do not forget to relax and enjoy that crazy train too.

Hope this helped.

Yes, it turns me on to hear a girl's noises of pleasure and see her moving around and twitching in pleasure.

It builds his sexual confidence to know that he is pleasuring you, too.

He likes to know he can, he likes to please you because he likes you, and he likes it because it is arousing - all three!

I love to see my gf in pleasure, its a huge turn-on. However, I certainly would still love to get somthing in return. :D

My guess is its kind of similar to the reasons us girls are pleased by pleasuring him. We care about him and therefore want to make him feel good, and we get this internal sense of pride or accomplishment from arousing him and finishing him. When my bf and I first started this phase of our relationship, it was like I set this personal goal of learning how to finish him without his having to step in. And there's something arousing about driving him wild :D

I think most guys like giving their gfs pleasure. There can be a macho side to it as well. I can give my gf 10-15 orgasms in any session. :D Makes me feel pretty good when I do that. It is pretty amazing to watch her have these powerful orgasms even after we are done.

That's pretty much the whole point. I'm pretty sure that's why I find paid women so boring. They generally don't enjoy it and can't fake it convincingly enough. Oh sure, some are better than others, but there are always doubts... Honest to goodness horny girls moaning and writhing is best. Now, if only I could figure out how to get such women, I would be on my way.... Sigh...

[QUOTE]amidst the heat of making out, touching intimately, or heavier foreplay, do you enjoy watching a girl you care about experience pleasure? [/QUOTE]
I'm answering this from a committed relationship so that may be different than just a one night stand sort of thing. I love to see her enjoying the pleasure and it also gives me feed back about what to do. The ability to give pleasure to each other is very meaniful in the relationship. It also gives me positive reinforcement that I am a good lover since she looses touch with reality for a little while and it is just her and me. It then also allows her to become less reserved and open herself up to recieve the pleasure which is part of what you wrote in the quote below. It becomes a win win situation for both of us.

Even back in my dating days, I enjoyed seeing a girlfriend enjoy and experience pleasure. I think I enjoyed it more for selfish reasons than just wanting to pleasure her like I do now since it would usually increase my pleasure. In otherwords, if she was enjoying the loving, it allowed me to get added pleasure by being able to do and feel more of her. If we were involved in a nice kissing session and she was feeling good about it, I was able to move my hand onto her breasts. This increased her pleasure and mine. The next step for me was to go under her shirt and release her bra which gave me easy access to enjoy her tits.

There were plenty of girls I dated that weren't very open to allowing physical touching. But if they were feeling pleasure from kissing and light touching, they would relax and allow me to touch and enjoy more of them. The first time I ever fingered a girl was just a natural reaction to her pleasure. It also increased my pleasure and enjoyment. Having kissed and fondled her breasts, see was really enjoying the kissing and touching. When I slid my hand down to her stomach, she reached down and unbuttoned her pants. so my hand just slid down and I felt her pubic hair which was just amazing. Then a little further and I felt how wet she was. On the way home I was so happy and I enjoyed the scent she left on my fingers. I think that is one reason I enjoy giving oral sex so much.

[QUOTE]I recently kind of "let down the fences" and firstly, allowed my boyfriend to caress me much more intimately and even finger a bit, and secondly, allowed myself to enjoy it. In the moment I kind of assumed that it made him feel emotionally and physically good to see me enjoy his touch.[/QUOTE]

I agree with this statement above and is part of what I was refering to above. If she is enjoying herself, it opens us up to more possibilities of extending that fun. It is always good to get positive feedback which is what I get from seeing and hearing her enjoying herself. Increases our emotional attachment also. I also enjoy watching her pleasure herself. In my committed relationship, it was very hard for her to touch herself and get pleasure from it. But once she is really turned on and I've got her into a high pleasue mode, she will become less reserved and then she is willing to touch and pleasure herself. I enjoy watching her do this also. It is very stimulating for me to watch her fingers rub her clit and go down and over her labia. The first time she inserted her fingers into her vagina was simple incredible. And to see the expression of pleasure on her face and moans is intense for me.

This really becomes a win win situation for both lovers. So don't be afraid to show how much you are enjoying it especially if it increases your pleasure. I think for most males, that want the feedback and love to see their partner enjoying themselves.

Hey Moontides,

Don't worry about asking, just do it. There is nothing like straight forward communication, especially if it is a question to your partner about what he or she likes.

As for me the movements, sounds, words, respiration, increased heart rate, flushed skin, dilated pupils and of course moist vulva of my partner are very enjoyable for me. It is a psychological boost. You know the old saying-the largest sex organ is the brain.

> A quick (more like long) question for the guys: amidst the heat of making out, touching intimately, or heavier foreplay, do you enjoy watching a girl you care about experience pleasure? If yes does make you feel good in a more heartfelt way or a turned on way?

In a word: Absolutely, positively, indubitably, yes.