Depends what you mean by "spend the night"- as at the end of my first "date" with my current boyfriend i said out loud "i wish u didnt have to go" and he suggested staying over (it was way past midnight). Off we went to the 24hr shop to get him a toothbrush, and stayed up most of the night talking, dont remember when i feel asleep, but i woke up in his arms and thats when we had our first kiss
Wouldn't having sex on a first date when you barely know the person be considered a "one night stand"? I've had many women in the past that had asked me if I wanted to have sex with her, some random chick I don't know.
Back when I used to work at a resturaunt doing dishes, the cooks were trying to get me hooked up with a blonde bartender who was a little petite but she's very cute, she then asked me if I wanted to spend the night with her at her house but I declined the offer 'cause I barely knew her. True story, happened several years ago. She was very willing to have sex with me that night. I just never felt comfortable having sex with random women.
But I do agree that a quick light tender kiss on the cheek or lips won't hurt anything though.
Well on actual dates, I've only kissed the guy like a little peck on the mouth or cheek, depending on the guy really. But thats different from "first meeting someone." I once met a guy and hung out with him all day and ended up going for a walk and making out/fooling around in the woods. It really depends on how I feel about the guy.
Im in the UK too, and i would say the majority of girls i know just kiss on the first date (sometimes not even that). Obviously i dont know how far people go with the groping as "ladys never kiss and tell"
Well I'm in the UK. I hear very few ladies here admitting to sex on the first date. But, personal experience tells a different story. Nearly all of my gf's kissed on the first date. There was minor groping (breasts that is) with most. Mutual masturbation and or full sex with at least half of them.
I can't claim to be shy these days, but i used to be... painfully shy. Two of my eary girlfriends actually asked me to make love to the.
I'm not sure this actually proves anything though. I talk to friends and I have pretty much decided that i am just one of these guys that people aren't intimidated by. Anyway, you won't hear me complaining!
I don't see anything wrong with kissing on the first date... I've done it many times before, and no one looks at me as a ho or anything... However, I would never have sex on a first date... from a girls point of view here, i like to know whether this is really worth it, that me and the guy will be together for a while.. Guys who do the whole screw and dump thing get themselves a really bad name really fast, where i'm from.. lol
It's an intresting question cause there are several ways at looking at it. In England(as most where I live still call it) or the UK, I've read that traditionally a couple will be introduced formally, date for a while and perhaps hold hands, and if she chooses to let him know she is ready to be sexually involved....she will kiss him.(it symbolizes sexual relations will occur soon) I don't know if that custom is an old way that is long forgotten or not. But, sex doesn't come quickly.
With young school aged kids in the USA, a chance meeting may lead to a kiss or even a make-out scene but sex rarely comes on the first date. It may be by the third or more before sexual contact takes place.
With older couples in the USA some will meet kiss and go somewhere for sex within the hour. Perhaps it is driven by their situations in life by this time....work the next morning...
single mom has a sitter for the kids for a few hours and if she
wants/needs sex she no longer has the luxury of time as she
once did living at home before she had kids. Many adults will meet, kiss, have sex and all the first night and become a couple if they sense they could make a functional partnership, but by this age they know what they are looking for and are seasoned with experience.
Only a few people go for one night stand sex for some reason
cause the problem with that is it isn't productive for either party involved. Sex in whatever form is something that is thought to bring two people closer together. Yet there are
those who want the sex with a variety of people and not the closeness with a single partner.
I've met a few in my time who say they met and spent the night together the first night and have been toghther every since. But they are few. Some still want the thrill of the chase and drama of the first seduction and maturing of the
relationship. Just a matter of what you feel will work for both of you.
Actually, kissing is how I got my first boyfriend. We were hanging out one night, and i just, kissed him... After a few minutes, he asked if I would be his girlfriend, I smiled and said yes, and we continued kissing. Hehehe.
I kissed my second boyfriend on our first date. I really wanted to, and I knew we were both genuinely interested in each other.
Now, I dont see kissing a little on the first date that big a deal. But if it goes further than that, I would not be comfortable. I too do not engage and am not interested in casual sex. Just not for me I guess.
[QUOTE=Quote (Greendale @ Dec. 10 2004,08:18)]Ever kiss or did sex on a first date? Opinions? Good or bad?[/QUOTE]
im a guy and i recommend to go light and easy. just a hug and a small kiss on the check. thats it. u dont want to be known as a 'player' or a 'ladies man.' at least for me im not. but do flirt and put your arm around her. ;)
I usually would not get physical with a guy on the first date. They would get a peck on the cheek, or if really lucky...a peck on the lips. And I could never do casual sex. BUt thats just me, and not everyone thinks like me in that regard.
Depends what you mean by "spend the night"- as at the end of my first "date" with my current boyfriend i said out loud "i wish u didnt have to go" and he suggested staying over (it was way past midnight). Off we went to the 24hr shop to get him a toothbrush, and stayed up most of the night talking, dont remember when i feel asleep, but i woke up in his arms and thats when we had our first kiss
Wouldn't having sex on a first date when you barely know the person be considered a "one night stand"? I've had many women in the past that had asked me if I wanted to have sex with her, some random chick I don't know.
Back when I used to work at a resturaunt doing dishes, the cooks were trying to get me hooked up with a blonde bartender who was a little petite but she's very cute, she then asked me if I wanted to spend the night with her at her house but I declined the offer 'cause I barely knew her. True story, happened several years ago. She was very willing to have sex with me that night. I just never felt comfortable having sex with random women.
But I do agree that a quick light tender kiss on the cheek or lips won't hurt anything though.
Well on actual dates, I've only kissed the guy like a little peck on the mouth or cheek, depending on the guy really. But thats different from "first meeting someone." I once met a guy and hung out with him all day and ended up going for a walk and making out/fooling around in the woods. It really depends on how I feel about the guy.
Im in the UK too, and i would say the majority of girls i know just kiss on the first date (sometimes not even that). Obviously i dont know how far people go with the groping as "ladys never kiss and tell"
Interesting question....
Well I'm in the UK. I hear very few ladies here admitting to sex on the first date. But, personal experience tells a different story. Nearly all of my gf's kissed on the first date. There was minor groping (breasts that is) with most. Mutual masturbation and or full sex with at least half of them.
I can't claim to be shy these days, but i used to be... painfully shy. Two of my eary girlfriends actually asked me to make love to the.
I'm not sure this actually proves anything though. I talk to friends and I have pretty much decided that i am just one of these guys that people aren't intimidated by. Anyway, you won't hear me complaining!
Spend the whole of the first date talking, and at the end of the evening share a tender kiss
I don't see anything wrong with kissing on the first date... I've done it many times before, and no one looks at me as a ho or anything... However, I would never have sex on a first date... from a girls point of view here, i like to know whether this is really worth it, that me and the guy will be together for a while.. Guys who do the whole screw and dump thing get themselves a really bad name really fast, where i'm from.. lol
It's an intresting question cause there are several ways at looking at it. In England(as most where I live still call it) or the UK, I've read that traditionally a couple will be introduced formally, date for a while and perhaps hold hands, and if she chooses to let him know she is ready to be sexually involved....she will kiss him.(it symbolizes sexual relations will occur soon) I don't know if that custom is an old way that is long forgotten or not. But, sex doesn't come quickly.
With young school aged kids in the USA, a chance meeting may lead to a kiss or even a make-out scene but sex rarely comes on the first date. It may be by the third or more before sexual contact takes place.
With older couples in the USA some will meet kiss and go somewhere for sex within the hour. Perhaps it is driven by their situations in life by this time....work the next morning...
single mom has a sitter for the kids for a few hours and if she
wants/needs sex she no longer has the luxury of time as she
once did living at home before she had kids. Many adults will meet, kiss, have sex and all the first night and become a couple if they sense they could make a functional partnership, but by this age they know what they are looking for and are seasoned with experience.
Only a few people go for one night stand sex for some reason
cause the problem with that is it isn't productive for either party involved. Sex in whatever form is something that is thought to bring two people closer together. Yet there are
those who want the sex with a variety of people and not the closeness with a single partner.
I've met a few in my time who say they met and spent the night together the first night and have been toghther every since. But they are few. Some still want the thrill of the chase and drama of the first seduction and maturing of the
relationship. Just a matter of what you feel will work for both of you.
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Actually, kissing is how I got my first boyfriend. We were hanging out one night, and i just, kissed him... After a few minutes, he asked if I would be his girlfriend, I smiled and said yes, and we continued kissing. Hehehe.
I kissed my second boyfriend on our first date. I really wanted to, and I knew we were both genuinely interested in each other.
Now, I dont see kissing a little on the first date that big a deal. But if it goes further than that, I would not be comfortable. I too do not engage and am not interested in casual sex. Just not for me I guess.
[QUOTE=Quote (Greendale @ Dec. 10 2004,08:18)]Ever kiss or did sex on a first date? Opinions? Good or bad?[/QUOTE]
im a guy and i recommend to go light and easy. just a hug and a small kiss on the check. thats it. u dont want to be known as a 'player' or a 'ladies man.' at least for me im not. but do flirt and put your arm around her. ;)
I usually would not get physical with a guy on the first date. They would get a peck on the cheek, or if really lucky...a peck on the lips. And I could never do casual sex. BUt thats just me, and not everyone thinks like me in that regard.