Over thinking it will be the death of you.

You just need to relax and get used to the feeling of your mouths meeting. I would warn you that using your tongue doesn't mean "insert here"

What I mean to say is... don't try to shove your tongue into her mouth over and over again. A slight contact between your tongues is nice, but over using it just gets a little messy.

I wouldn't try anything that you weren't too comfortable. Like with sex, kissing between people is completely unique. You won't really kiss one person the way you kiss with another. You have to get a flow going, which will be discovered through body language and naturally getting into it.

There's no need to make it rocket surgery.

Just go with the flow mate. Youll pick up the idea pretty quick. There are no real do's or do not's because well, we all like something different.

So just relax, and go with the flow mate and just follow her lead. Its pretty easy to get your head around it.

yeah just dont think about it, you cant really go wrong with it, just try relax as much as you can and enjoy it, chances are shes not too experienced at 14 either :)

good luck hun x

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Here is a link that addresses your concern:

KISSING & CARESSING--a young person's guide to EXPLORATION
(Major revision added 12/28/07 to Part Two: "Kissing-beyond the basics--")

...and then this one:

Making Out--Knowing How Far To Go

Forget about "her friends". A relationship is between two people whether that is just a friendship, a date to go do something, or, an ongoing hopefully non-exclusive dating relationship.

You should also be practical. Everybody begins at Square One, whether this is your very first time or your very first time with this particular person. Do not let your Fragile Male Ego make unrealistic expectations or demands. Explore and learn together. She may very well know that this is your first time and even if she doesn't, it is the first time with her, so--expect that some awkwardness may occur. This is not a big deal. Just laugh off any oops moment and keep trying.

One of the most valuable classes I had in high school was Public Speaking. It taught us how to overcome nervousness when standing and/or speaking before a group. One way to overcome is to admit to your audience (or in this case, her) that you are nervous or uncertain. All of a sudden the angst will go away. Another approach that you may like is to simply act the part of a confident person even though you may be shaking in your boots. This is like an actor acting the part of a character. Behave your way to success.

Just relax and take it easy. If this girl has any character, she will be helping you even if you do not see it.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

-doc

idk about all women but what I love a guy to do when and before he kisses me is first its just a tender lip lock, no tongue, then just very gently brush your tongue against hers, dont just shove your tongue in there lol not sexy, then as things heat up just go with the flow, and if she has had quite a bit of kissing experience kind of try to learn from her if she seems any good. another thing, dont just have a limp tongue lol tongues can be extremely exciting move around a bit, me and my man call it tongue wrestling! lol

gosh can't believe it :P we too call it tounge wrestling XD :D
n btw i allways win ;)
loool