hello all
im new here and i look forward to communicating here. i need advice. i dont think i've had that ultimate sexual experience yet and im in my 30s. i haven't really been having much sex this year. i wanted to slow it down a bit and wait until i am in a committed relationship. im dating someone now and i think he's my sexual just by our convo's. dont laugh at me but i've been so absent with sex that i think i've forgotten how to do it,lol i really need some kinky ideas. i think he's probably done just about everything that i have. i.e. sex in the car, oral while driving, undressing while driving, oral in a traffic jam, sex in the movie theater, balcony, shower, hanging out of a window..different types of positions...i dunno. i'm just trying to list what i've done to see what i missed. please help with some kinky spicy ideas for the bedroom that dont involve me with another woman or me sticking anything in his anal area....thanks alot.
Wed, 10/01/2008 - 03:44
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kinky stuff
I am confused. You are dating a guy...but you have been very sexual in the past and wish to begin a sexual relationship w/this guy & need good, new ideas?
First and foremost...just try it with him. Let how wild unfold after you get to the starting point.
Agreed. Let it flow and see where it goes. This is all a learning process. The more you come to know about what he likes and responds to, the better your so-called 'skill' will get. I say so-called because skill just feels like the wrong word there-its more like adaptation of your current skill to the particular person involved. Sex is about a connection between the people involved, about spending time, and about paying attention to their wants, needs, likes and dislikes.
the whole super kinky thing on the first time is for the good ole "hook up" or one night stand. i agree w/ the other 2 cats, save the kink for a little further into the relationship especially if you 2 haven't even been intimate yet.
Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating.
Unless you've only done it once, I am surprised that you think you have forgotten how. Like riding a bicycle, you might be rusty--but forget? Let nature takes its course.
That said, there is a first time for everything: first time ever; and, first time with a particular person. Here is an article that you should read about this that will hopefully calm your fears:
HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:
This is Chapter Five of a larger article. Just scroll down until it comes into view.
If you look at the Board Forums at the top of the main screen you will find the Index. I recommend reading most if not all of the articles listed. There are some great How-To pieces and all are helpful.
--BEGIN HERE--w/a Partial INDEX of Sex Info 101 Sex Ed. Topics
I do not recommend having kinky sex for the first few times with a new partner or relationship. These first few times should be about getting to know each other more intimately, both physically and emotionally. Once you have established a good sexual relationship and are "tuned into one another" you can explore the kinky side of things.
Got questions? Please feel free to ask.
thanks alot for the advice you guys.
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