Hey everyone, my girlfriend is in town for Thanksgiving break, and I'd like to do something kinky and sexy for her. So far my plan is to blindfold her, lightly tie her hands behind her back, then walk her out from the bedroom into a room where I've set things up like candles, a sheet on the floor, some toys laid out, etc. The first thing I think it'd be sexy to do is massage oil all over her body, but beyond that I'm not sure what else can be done with the oil. Any tips?
If you have any suggestions for other fun things we can do, feel free to share those too. I was thinking about setting her down on her knees and backing her up to where I have a dildo or vibrator attached to the furniture at the right height, then guiding her onto it. Once she gets going on that, I could hold her up by her shoulders from the front and take advantage of her sexy mouth, she loves it when I do this.
Other ideas?
Hmm how about greeting her at the door naked, erect, and on your knees? Sounds much more appealing that what you have in mind.
Oh my god, what a fantastic idea! That's amazing! I mean,
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[*]a) it's totally creative. Location, situation, costume, all of it!
[*]b) it clearly shows effort. I mean, not only did I have to buy the supplies and set things up and make time for it, I'm actually answering the door, not just letting her walk in by herself, which is what I would have done without your advice.
[*]c) you clearly read the post. Not only did you give an answer to the questions I asked, you looked into the subtleties of the text to see that despite the clear evidence to the contrary, I am very submissive and my girlfriend is completely comfortable taking control. She won't find it awkward or sudden, she'll leap at this opportunity!
[*]d) you gave it that personal touch. Why bother trying to think about other people's desires when you can just impose your own? I mean, it's not like this is an advice forum or anything, hahahahaha! Oh man... wouldn't that be awful?
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...so... any other ideas?
Does your girlfriend actually like bondage? Make her run around the living room taking off her clothes one by one...It's like a gradual thing.
have you tried/thought of hot candle wax? some girls love that feeling of it dripping on their skin, dont need to use alot normally 3-4 drops is enough~ but from my experiences it gets those who enjoy it really hot and steamy
Glad to see you're so very open minded, jj.
"it's totally creative. Location, situation, costume, all of it!"
Are we talking sex or theatre? Sounds like 3 hours work for 20 minutes of maybe fun. Wake her up when its over.
"I was thinking about setting her down on her knees and backing her up to where I have a dildo or vibrator attached to the furniture at the right height, then guiding her onto it."
You haven't actually done this before have you? It isn't all that easy.
Hun, I am a domme. Been there, done that. My point is that unless you can take it, you have no right to dish it out. Fair being fair. Think about it. What can you do with oil? Really. Drink it? That would be kinky. Drip or pour or spread is about it, jj.
Hey guys, it went great. The oil we ended up using was this sexy stuff by Kama Sutra that warms when you blow on it and tastes delicious when you lick it. We both had a lot of fun with that. She loved being bound while I ****ed her with her vibrator, and rather than using a suction cup to attach it to a piece of furniture, I set it on the floor and lowered her onto it so she could ride it while she sucked me. Tips for anyone who wants to do something similar:
1) If you use an edible oil, make sure you have a separate lubricant nearby. The edible oils are more sticky, and I'm pretty sure that because of their sugary composition, they're not hygienically safe to be left in some areas if you don't wash thoroughly enough afterwards.
2) Have lots of pillows nearby, with covers you don't mind getting sticky. If your partner is bound, you'll need pillows to prop them up or make things more comfortable.
3) Make sure you have enough time. Besides preparation, using oil effectively requires lots of teasing and slowly working up to more and more pleasurable sensations.
That's all for the topic, the rest of this post is just a response to double-evil kitten:
1) "Are we talking sex or theatre? Sounds like 3 hours work for 20 minutes of maybe fun. Wake her up when its over."
If you, or your significant other, could only manage to get 20 minutes of fun out of 3 hours of work, I feel sorry for your sex life. Even so, if you have a partner who isn't willing to put in 3 hours of work for 20 minutes of fun, I feel even more sorry for your sex life. I love my girlfriend, and I'd put 30 hours of work into 20 minutes of fun for her, if I were convinced the 20 minutes of fun would be fun enough. As it is, besides the time it took me to buy everything, setting up for everything I did took maybe an hour. And we didn't get finished with our space on the living floor for at least the next 2 and a half hours.
What you suggested would have taken 2 minutes, if I'm slow at taking my clothes off, and if she and I were both feeling energetic and improvisingly creative, maybe we could have gotten the same 2 and a half hours out of it. But it wouldn't have had half the effect. My girlfriend appreciates the time I take to make things special for her. You expect her to be thankful or consider it a special effort that I took the time to take off my clothes?
2) "You haven't actually done this before have you? It isn't all that easy."
Nope. And I ended up not doing it since I didn't have time to figure out the logistics of it. Maybe you could have offered some insights or tips on how to accomplish it, rather than replying with a useless, snarky post.
3) "Hun, I am a domme. Been there, done that. My point is that unless you can take it, you have no right to dish it out."
If you want to rant against people who enjoy being submissive being treated submissively, maybe you should do it on a forum that is titled "My Way Is Right" rather than "SexInfo101 > Pleasing Her". The control and submission relations of my girlfriend and I are something we have great communication about, and obviously a lot of trust in each other. You assume that because I dismiss your lazy and useless reply as lazy and useless that I wouldn't be okay with my girlfriend taking control. Sorry, you're making wrong assumptions, and possibly arguing with someone who isn't here because you really like arguing about that subject. Do it somewhere else.
A responsible dom/domme only goes as far as the sub permits. We discuss all scenarios beforehand, esp if its something new, and he's given time to consider the concept. That being said, I refuse to treat any submissive to anything I myself would not be willing to endure/enjoy. I have my own self-respect to consider so no I will not inflict pain, abuse, or humiliation upon anyone no matter how much they beg for it or 'think' they will like it. Because, like a drug, what once thrilled becomes commonplace and you have to go further and further to catch the thrill. What begins as fun ends up being far more than you ever dreamed: spanking becoming whipping becoming beating her with a pipe because she cannot ogasm unless her bones are being bruised or broken. This is why elaborate scenarios aka 'theatre' can be a problem as they tend to mask what is going on especially in a submissive's mind.
What is your goal for this relationship? How far are you willing to go and when will you say no to her? Is there a point beyond which you won't go? Rather than sneer you should try thinking this through and reading up on it a bit more - see The Black Rose. They are one of the most reliable sources of information.