I made a horrible huge mistake. I'm 16 and a father of sextuplets. My girlfriend ditched me and the boys and I'm in way over my head. I have no idea what I'm doing. Someone HELP!!!
Sun, 10/07/2007 - 13:20
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Kids at 16.HELP!
Where are your parents? Grandparent? Her parents? Her grandparents?
My parents sometimes help, along with my twin brother and little sister, but they cant always help, and I'm working 2 jobs and trying to buy diapers when you go through about 40 a day isn't easy
[quote=16yearoldDad;195249]My parents sometimes help, along with my twin brother and little sister, but they cant always help, and I'm working 2 jobs and trying to buy diapers when you go through about 40 a day isn't easy[/quote]
Have you looked at people with in the community to help you? Try your local church? Go to the local priest or minister (look for a Baptist Church) they are very responsvie...tell them your situation; you will find people will come in & help with bathing, feeding, etc. And they can hook you up with services financially...6 babies? How are you going to do this alone for the next 18 years? You need help, try these first.
You do not have to be a church goer or involved in any Church; however, for example people locally know me & what I can do & will call for help. I am not affiliated w/a church but I will reach out for such issues. Have done so when a Mom had three (triplets) and just lost her 2 y/o son to an accident. She could not function, we took shifts, many of us. Other's helped build around the house...other's cleaned a room out.
Also see if you can find a case worker through social services in your County....and get them out to do an evaluation to see what assistance you can get...
When Social Services comes, have ALL of your family there because if they see you "in over your head" they may decide that you cannot handle it and they may take the children into foster care. Your family will demonstrate that you are not entirely alone. This is very important so do it!
Also, and this is difficult, keep up with your schooling! Go onto welfare if you have to but graduating is very important. You MUST get qualified for better paying employment with a company that offers decent family benefits. Look into sponsored day care for your childen as this will help them when they're
ready to enter school.
Get good at entertaining yor friends at home. Make your home THE center of your activities. Outreach to co-workers - perhaps they have a teen who would be a good babysitter. You're going to have to set up a reliable network and support system. If you know any new mothers- chat with them about their network and support systems - get some references.
Good luck!
[QUOTE=16yearoldDad;195243]I made a horrible huge mistake. I'm 16 and a father of sextuplets. My girlfriend ditched me and the boys and I'm in way over my head. I have no idea what I'm doing. Someone HELP!!![/QUOTE]
Was the girl/woman that you got pregnant on fertility drugs? Is it even possible for sextuplets to occur naturally? Is this a joke thread...me thinks it is!:D If not, you are really screwed! Sorry dude.
Hmm...this story seems fishy to me...sextuplets are extremely rare, and when they do happen they are on national, sometimes INTERNATIONAL news. I'm sure, especially with someone young as 16 it would be all over and he would already have the support.
*Shrugs* Just seems really out there to me.
I went out of my way to keep it off the news. If the boys want to go on the news when they'll older sure but until then I think they should grow up like normal kids...well as normal as they can be.
Strange... I mean any guy would be saying this w/ 1 kid... so w/ 6 it's pretty much insane.
I mean I dont think there is a way that a 16 yr old CAN provide and take care of 6 kids... its not realistic. You could always seek child support from the mom and her parents?!? for the monetary stuff.
Plus I am like CJB... can this even happen naturally??? I am sure there are cases that it can.. but most times.. its due to fertility drugs. and if not.. then it would be in the news no matter what happened!!!
Also, how does a family "allow" their young daughter to have sextuplets... that could probably have killed her?!? and if they didn't want them... should have given them up for adoption.
How old are the babies now??
How is it their mother was able to even ditch you? do you know where she is, can you even get ahold of her? No offense but this just seems a little odd...I would think that your parents would put a lot more in to help you....even if they are against it, I would think they would at least feel like they were still raising you, and should help you through this.
For some reason I believe what has been stated; perhaps she was older & took fertility drugs--35? And he admits he is a twin. No one stated her age was the same as his & her family has no options in forcing her to terminating any of the multiples, regardless of her age. This is why I feel she may be older. There are ways to keep info out of the media, especially given the new Health Care Acts.
Why would he seek info here, on a sex board, if this was just to gain attention? I doubt it, seems to be looking for help quietly.
Follow as I suggested & Evil did...as far as Mom, leave her out of the picture for now. Demonstrate you ARE the better parent and the more responsible. In time if you choose to find her fine, if you wish have her sever her maternal rights, assuming she is alive. But seek some help as suggested.
[QUOTE=sera300;195379]For some reason I believe what has been stated; perhaps she was older & took fertility drugs--35? And he admits he is a twin. No one stated her age was the same as his & her family has no options in forcing her to terminating any of the multiples, regardless of her age. This is why I feel she may be older. There are ways to keep info out of the media, especially given the new Health Care Acts.
Why would he seek info here, on a sex board, if this was just to gain attention? I doubt it, seems to be looking for help quietly.
Follow as I suggested & Evil did...as far as Mom, leave her out of the picture for now. Demonstrate you ARE the better parent and the more responsible. In time if you choose to find her fine, if you wish have her sever her maternal rights, assuming she is alive. But seek some help as suggested.[/QUOTE]
I hope that you're right Sera, but tons of knuckle-head dummies do things like this because they think that it's funny.
For some reason I do believe this is a 15 y/o who got caught up with someone older...look at all the court cases younger men w/older women.
maybe thats why he wanted it out of the media...i mean a 35 year old mother who has kids with a 16 year old....does make a lot of sense
[QUOTE=sera300;195250]Have you looked at people with in the community to help you? Try your local church? Go to the local priest or minister (look for a Baptist Church) they are very responsvie...tell them your situation; you will find people will come in & help with bathing, feeding, etc. And they can hook you up with services financially...6 babies? How are you going to do this alone for the next 18 years? You need help, try these first.
You do not have to be a church goer or involved in any Church; however, for example people locally know me & what I can do & will call for help. I am not affiliated w/a church but I will reach out for such issues. Have done so when a Mom had three (triplets) and just lost her 2 y/o son to an accident. She could not function, we took shifts, many of us. Other's helped build around the house...other's cleaned a room out.
Also see if you can find a case worker through social services in your County....and get them out to do an evaluation to see what assistance you can get...[/QUOTE]
No, you dont have to be a church goer, but they'll try to indoctrinate your children & then they'll try to convert you.
I wouldnt go to a church if i were you, they'd abuse your kids & then try to guilt trip you into attending their services at church.
Would you trust someone that places their life in a "god" that doesnt exist that has a terrible history of child molestation?
[quote=Sirene;195545]No, you dont have to be a church goer, but they'll try to indoctrinate your children & then they'll try to convert you.
I wouldnt go to a church if i were you, they'd abuse your kids & then try to guilt trip you into attending their services at church.
Would you trust someone that places their life in a "god" that doesnt exist that has a terrible history of child molestation?[/quote]No Sirene, there are compassionate & non-judgemental people out there who extend a helping hand expecting nothing in return. I do not try to convert anyone, I merely wish people to accept me for what I can do for them and not force their ways upon me. I am a "Cafeteria Catholic".
That would be really sad if that was the case, an older woman ditching a young kid who has 6! of her babies... geesh.
[QUOTE=sera300;195554]No Sirene, there are compassionate & non-judgemental people out there who extend a helping hand expecting nothing in return. I do not try to convert anyone, I merely wish people to accept me for what I can do for them and not force their ways upon me. I am a "Cafeteria Catholic".[/QUOTE]
Yes but there are also many religious people that want to just convert you & to poison your mind with guilt.
Is it really worth taking the risk just for a bit of false hope from "god"?
If they put half as much energy into doing something good as they do praying, they might get something done!
OP- btw these are your parents' grandkids too.
Keep that in mind when negotiating.