hey
im not a virgin, and i havent been for a few months, but my boyfriend and i dont have sex very often (you may have read my other posts about how i dont like that fact lol..) the thing is that everytime he initially like gets inside me it hurts like crazy. i dont get it. after hes inside its fine.. and i am wet when he trys to get in... but it still hurts so bad that it feels like its my first time all over again, sometimes i think maybe im too small for him, but at the same time if that was the case then it wouldnt feel so good when it got inside... and it would hurt more when he pulls out. am i just too tense? i really dont know what to do or why this is a persistant problem.
thanks
jo
well considering u haven't dont it very often i would say that it is the opening stretching more upon entry and after a period of time should fix itself. though do not quote me on that
yes u have will have to get used to his dick coming and going.
try to widen your openings(like fingering, fisting(dont use whole fist at first)
use one finger, 2 fingers, 3 fingers, just till the opening gets big enough so u can have sex without it hurting so much
again if its more upon entry you might not be considerably wet enough. u may think u are but you are probably not... try a water based lube to help and see if that makes a difference..
If not try 30-60 mins of foreplay to really get the opening quite wet upon entry.. see if any of this helps... (you can even do the extended foreplay and use lube as another way to see)
thanks all.. i think i figured out what the problem is.. a thing called vaginismus.. im going to see my doctor about it.
thanks for your responses :)