Hey Everyone, its been a long-ass time since i've posted or even looked at this site, but a new relation and new concerns... Well here it goes.
My g/f and I have been dating for... aww 1 1/2 months, not very long, but she is quite... umm she is desiring sex... even though her only penis-experience has come from ME and thats like hand-jobs and what not. No oral, but thats irrelevant. ANYWAYS, we BOTH have this Infactuation with one-another, like we are both about to rip eachothers clothing off as soon as we start kissing, BUT we (more or so HER) is TOTALLY paranoid about getting pregnant. NOW, Here's the problem... I've been a complete stupid moron in past sexual-relationships and i didnt use a condom in ANY of them... SOOO im accustomed to liking unsafe-sex, hence im kinda spoiled, i just dont like the idea of a condom... HOWEVER she DOES have Access to "The Pill", Name-brand im sure, but she STILL Wants me to wear a condom EVEN IF she is on the Pill; see when she said she was going on the Pill, i was like, "WOOHOO, i dont have to wry about a condom!" but then she's like, "your ALSO going to wearing a condom".
SOO my point is... AM I being a selfish-prick for not wanting to wear a condom even WHEN she's going to on the Pill? Or is SHE being unsure and paranoid, i dont believe she knows EVERYTHING about the Pill SOO, some OPINIONS and INFORMATION on Effectiveness OF the Pill, would be VERY VERY VERY much appreciated. Also feel free to call me names if you DO think Im a self-centered SOB 
Thanks a Bunch,
STDs aren't heriditary... thats why they are called sexually transmitted diseases.
Some can be passed to the fetus tho, but thats different.
Although nothing is ever 100% I would say a condom w/ extra spermicide is very effective...her on the pill too would make it pretty much impossible for her to get pregnant... of course there are always the chance it could happen.
I would probably check planned parenthood for info on the tests maybe and about BC methods. Im sure they have seen sexually active kids of all age, so that doesn't matter. They are more concerned about your safety and the fact that you are being smart to get tested and protect yourself.
I think you can get spermicide at Rite Aid. I thought i saw some but i am not absolutely positive. You will get used to using condoms. Think of the alternatives. lol.
-Mariah
ok.. cool, yeah no kidding...
HEY its been like... 4EVER haha, i dunno i feel SOO strongly for her i think i might just suck it up and go with the condom, i mean, it's NOT just for me, its for her too... soo i guess lack of skin on skin contact during sex will make my sex sessions last from 4-5 hours to 8-10 hours LOL... I want her to enjoy herself........
NICE TALKING TO YOU AGAIN!
OH and is that stuff like over the counter? like? i mean the gel/foam stuff? would i go to an adult toy store? LMAO OR is that stuff like at a pharmacy? (ex. Rite-Aid, Savon, etc.)?
Look i know it may not seem MUCH reassurance that i AM HIV and STD free, BUT, (i know this doesnt ALWAYS Count) but my PAST relationships have been with a Virgin... i know that doesnt mean that they havn't gotten it heriditarily<> ALSO, each of those relationships have lasted MORE than a year, Soo this POSSIBLY ((sarcasm)) would mean that i kinda would know if they had some sort of STD of HIV, or at least it would have been affirmed, I know HIV positive people dont show it.
i would appreciate it if i got a little more FACT, on <> than the opinionated sort man-bashing im getting from the "WHAT KIND OF GUY AM I" i think that is for HER to decide.... No offence to anyone, i know u are ALL heere to help.
OH can anyone give me some information as TO WHERE, i can get HIV, STD tested just to make sure i dont wanna ruin my g/f's life because of my ignorance, Also, is it confidential? Do i need like parent/guardian consent? what kind of tests are involved? and will i be taken seriously since im a minor? i KNOW there are some medical Doctors out there so PLZ POST.
WOW it has been a looooong time! Do u remember me? LOL
AAAnyways...OK lets see...facts? Use spermicidal gel or foam. Brandye recommends it in her vagina and in the condom i believe. Condom of course, (if it is really that agonizing to think of using one, think about how the day will b when you hav to make a decision regarding a baby.) TALK TO HER ABOUT IT. And i don't mean just talking about how hot it is gonna be. Talk about the emotional effect it will have on her and you. Talk about the risk of getting pregnant. Soooo many people that try sex think "ME? that would never happen to me!" But no matter what, it can happen. Talk about what you would do if she DID get pregnant?
Please be safe. And discuss with her what may happen if you are not safe.
Let me know if you want some more iiiinfo!
-Mariah
Put yourself in the place of the woman. Would you be ready to go bare with someone with your background. STD check? HIV check? Is this really serious? Why is this guy unreasonably demanding? The more you push, the longer you will be sheathed or the shorter you will be around. Six weeks is a mere fling.
Hehe, Im like kind of experiencing having a child to rear cause my youngest brother is like... my son, lol i kinda have to do everything for him (my mom helps) but my dad has little to no interest of ever helping out... i have a life and a career goal which leaves NOOOO room for mess-ups.. So AS SOON AS IT becomes Availiable to me IM snipping w.e, so i can to obtain sterility...
I doubt any doctor would do it on a minor. Just hold out for a few more years, cause the male pill is on the way....or it better be
LOL i know... some "people" believe that WE ((guys, MEN, W/e)) arnt concerned about our partner's and if they get pregnant or not.... Geez, i would KILL for Sterility, i never want kids LMAO.
[QUOTE=Quote (JustTrying2BeAGOODBoyfriend @ July 06 2005,00:34)]LOL i know... some "people" believe that WE ((guys, MEN, W/e)) arnt concerned about our partner's and if they get pregnant or not.... Geez, i would KILL for Sterility, i never want kids LMAO.[/QUOTE]
See, I'm at the disadvantage of actually wanting kids.....eventually. So a vasectomy is not an option, but if I didn't want kids then I'd be at the doctor tomorrow. But you also have to consider STD's so condoms are always a great option, especially if your not in a steady monogamous relationship. But, yeah, my gf was surprised when I talked to her about birth control, she figured no guy cared, but I think that alot more do now because of all the child support issues and everything. I actually think that I'm a little more worried about it than my girlfriend since she is sure that she wants me to father her children while I still have questions, and want to wait a bit longer than her.
Ouch that kinda hurt.. NAW jk i appreciate the... umm... "slap-to-the-back-of-the-head" reality check, yeah but for sure... i WANT to get more permanent Birth-Control for MYSELF (ie. Visectomy)<
I'm in the same situation actually. My gf is on the patch, but we both decided to still use condoms. Nothing is 100%, and the condom will keep both of you from having nightmarish fears around that time of the month. Recently we have discussed not using the condom, and we even tried it once, but if one of you feels that you should use it then you need to use it.
Well, I won't go so far as to call you names... but SHE is right and you are wrong.
No form of birth control- including the pill- is 100% effective. Neither are condoms, spermicides, etc... The more redundant (extra) forms of protection that you use the safer you are.
If I were female not only would I be on the pill (or patch, whatever), the guy would wear a condom and we would be using a spermicidal gel or foam.
In addition to the fear of pregnancy, you have stated that you have had unprotected sex. Now, I'm sure you think you are free of STDs, but caring for someone else dictates that you always think of their safety. So a condom plays a dual role of protecting her.
Have fun... and take care.