Hey! i'm not very sexually experienced in general, only had sex with one guy. can't find enought detail on other posts to answer a few queations i have - so hopefully someone can help.
I've given handjobs to my ex before and it all seemed to go fine but i know every guy is different. i wanna giv my new guy a hand job and obviosly i don't want to hurt him.
Is there differents ways i should touch a guy depending on if they are circumcised or not? are there certain ways that will hurt a circumcised guy for example coz my ex wasn't and i wondered whether i should do things differenty if other guys are.
i've heard about holding the skin at the base of the penis while rubbing with the other hand, i never did this with my ex but when should i do this? and y?
should i always use lube. ive got some ky of my own for personal use but i don't know if to use it on him?
Any desciptions of effictive techniques will also be appreciated.
thankss
xx
Little imput. Get Ky massage oil .(walmart) Get him real lubed up and start slow going completly the full length of his dick.Use both hands. Do is balls too and below them . Listen to him and ask him hows it feel , he will guide you. Dont stop after he cums untill he says enough. Go slow.
[QUOTE=Quote (oberon @ June 25 2005,16:39)][QUOTE=Quote (HngLkAMouse @ June 25 2005,05:22)]- Death-grip = BIG no-no!!!
Speak for yourself.
ouch!
[QUOTE=Quote (HngLkAMouse @ June 25 2005,05:22)]- Death-grip = BIG no-no!!!
Speak for yourself.
Some tips:
- Don't use sand as lube
- Motion should follow shaft length - not side-to-side
- Do not talk about other things like shopping or friends
- Remove sharp jewelry BEFORE begining
- Do not say things like "Awww... it's CUTE!"
- Aim away from face (unless you'd rather not)
- Make sure he's fully clear from zipper contact (ouch!)
- Do not administer clean-up with steel wool pads
- Death-grip = BIG no-no!!!
- During climax, refrain from saying things like: "Oh god, that's gross!"
All joking aside... after a few-several times, it will be natural. Yes, we're all different, but not THAT different. The basic mechanics of masturbation are still the same. The nerve endings on the penis are stimulated by repetitive impulses passing-over them. You will quickly begin to find the right grip, speed, position and lubrication to be succesful at making him climax fully. Not to worry!
Peace.
all are good, if your going to use lube, lube up the entire shaft, i have never been hurt before while getting a hand job. like you said every guy is different, i personally love it when my wifes face is close by. it's a visaual thing i guess.
well from my experience i usually just took both of my hands and kinda jerked him off like how they did in the old days with turning butter, (its the best way to explain it) but i just turned my hands in left to right movements just each hand going a different direction if that makes since but do it slow, and ive also messaged his balls while i did it with my hand also,
I hope this makes since, all my ex's said that it was the best hand job that they ever had,
Yep, Rawbob and Dancingdoc are absolutely correct. The best way to learn is to let him show you.
Expanding on the idea of just watching him, let him actually show you. Let him place his hand over yours and guide you. You'll get the feel for speed, pressure, and rhythm.
Incidentally, you can do the same for him so can learn how to please you.
I agree with the reply that recommends that he shows you how he masturbates. The reason this is so important is that while each of us masturbates in basically the same way, there are as many variations to the "art" as there are men on the planet. So, learning how to mimic his moves, rhythms, and pressures and then practicing them while he providees feedback on how he is responding to your caresses is the proven way to success. The same is true for you when it comes time for him to pleasure you.
Ask him to teach you and then to provide feedback. Do the same for him.
I agree with vagabondprince.
If you are already good at handling an uncut man, you shouldn't worry about hurting your circumcised man. The uncut man is easier to hurt to begin with.
I am uncut myself, and it was somewhat difficult for my g/f to adapt and be gentle enough for me because she was only with circumcised guys in the past.
Ok...you really want to know the best way to give your BF a handjob? ASK HIM TO MASTURBATE FOR YOU!
Thats right..it may seem weird to say, but you'll learn more from watching how he pleasures himself then u struggling 3 or 4 times yourself!
Now, you can make it fun by you BOTH masturbating in front of each other....he'll watch you, and you'll watch him.
You can both see the techniques, speed, and what you both do with yoru free hands!
Trust me..you'll have fun, and you'll bothlearn alot....then the next time you'll both know what to do and relieve yourself from the kinda stress you are feeling now.
Good luck. Have fun!
You were wondering about hurting a circumsized guy in any way, and mentioned that the last guy you were with was uncircumcized. uncircumcized penises are more sensitive, so they would be more easily hurt, so you can translate your experience from your old bf somewhat to your new one. Stroking is the main technique, as in hold it and move your hand up and down. you don't always need lube. if you don't use lube though, hold it tighter and don't let it slip too much...that burns. with lube, just let the shaft slip through your hand up and down.
I recently started using a baby oil gel on my man for hand jobs and we both LOVE it! He loves for me to play with his balls with one hand and stroke him with the other hand. It is so much fun! As for what feels good to each man, you need to ask them as you're doing it, "Does this feel good? Do you want me to do more of this?" Use a naughty, whispery voice next to his ear while asking, if possible, and it's all part of the fun!
[QUOTE=Quote (HngLkAMouse @ June 29 2005,06:13)][QUOTE=Quote (oberon @ June 25 2005,16:39)][QUOTE=Quote (HngLkAMouse @ June 25 2005,05:22)]- Death-grip = BIG no-no!!!
Speak for yourself.
ouch!
LOL... I've lost count of the times I have had to say, "It WON'T break! I'll let you know if it's too rough." Geez!