Friends, I am in a deep trouble:(. my age is 23 and my Girl friend's age is 22. we are in a relationship with last 8 months. Our everything is running well except that my gf have a strong desire of sex.. But I can't do anything with my penis because she has a fear that if I put my penis in vagina she will get pregnant anyway :confused::confused:( even if i wear condom or we take any other forms of protection!!). More importantly she doesn't like any kinds of toys or masturbating herself. NOW, ALL I CAN DO FOR HER IS TRYING WITH MY FINGERS.. PLEASE SHOW ME SOME WAYS SO THAT I CAN SATISFY HER WITH FINGERS OR GIVE ME SOME LINKS TO YOUTUBE VIDEOS TO ORGASM HER.
Thanks.. :)
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From your description it sounds like your girlfriend lacks a lot of information on several matters.
As for becoming pregnant, there are articles listed that discuss contraceptives and their reliability, singly and combined with others. No birth control or combination is 100% effective; however, there may be some percentage that she would be comfortable with, combined with having intercourse during her less fertile days.
As for masturbation, ask her to read the article that discusses the benefits of doing so. In addition, masturbation is a requirement if she is to ever climax. We do not give orgasms away, all any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve them, once she connects the proverbial dots (sensitive nerve endings in the skin with the pleasure center in the brain along the autonomic nervous system). She absolutely needs to know and understand about his aspect of her physiology.
As for stimulating each other and pleasuring, continue reading the articles that discuss ways to accomplish this. Videos might show, although, not tell. This requires some reading.
If your girlfriend is resistant to learning about herself, you, and your loving relationship, then it may be that she has cultural or other taboos that are playing in her head. If this is true, there is not much you can do except to encourage her to explore and learn and challenge what she ideas she has. Failing to do so means you will eventually have a decision to make.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
-doc
Any time a penis is in a vagina, pregnancy is possible. A part of becoming a mature woman is learning to deal with this low level of uncertainty. We use what we consider appropriate protection and accept that the small risk remaining is part of the beauty of being a woman. Else, we avoid heterosexual contact. Maturity issues? There is some fear of sex, or its possible outcome, that has been deeply planted in her mind.
Don't forget oral sex, there is more way than just your fingers