So, I've been dating the same guy for about a year now, and I don't like giving him oral. However, he seems o be getting bored with the same old handjobs. so we've been tryingnew things and new positions, but I still feel like he doesn't enjoy handjobs as much as he used to. So if anyone could just say what they think I should do (other than "just blow him")...it would be appreciated.
Thanks.
Pull him off into a pair of your panties; use latec gloves with lube; use your imagination.
Gotta ask...what don't you like about giving him oral?
Well, it's not what about it, I just don't like the whole thing. Had a bad experience. But I'm sort of warming up to the idea of it more. :\
You can always vary the stroke in your handjob. With my last guy, he'd never had anyone do this swirly thing that I do with my hand and he loved it. Include his balls, if you're not already. Make sure there is lots of lube. A real gentle massage feels good on their balls, so I'm told, and you could give one long GENTLE stroke from the base of his balls all the way up to his head. You can also just give a little suck to the head of his cock while you're doing the handjob without going into a full-on blowjob. The head is very sensitive--run your tongue around the ridge and give it a gentle sucking motion while working his balls or the shaft.
Indeed, and I've tried that. Most of the time it's pretty fine...Like I said I'm warming up to the idea little by little. oh and one more thing that causes a problem, I don't like him to look when I'm doing it...So that sort of kills it because men are mostly visual. :\
Don't look up at him and you won't know he's looking =P
Are you opposed to a masturbator? Using one with a hole at the top will allow you to stroke his shaft with the toy and then you can just suck at his head. The masterbator will allow a different sensation to the usual hand job.
I got this one for my boyfriend and he LOVES it.
http://www.adameve.com/sextoys/masturbators/futurotic-pocket-pal-pc-4573...
I had to do something, he wanted head like 3-4 times a day and I'm sure other ladies out there will sympathize with me there. I like doing it but I am not wanting lock jaw. :P
Go to www.jackinworld.com
This is the formost authority on the matter of male masturbation.
Go to the tree index and then to the section on advanced techniques. You will find many different hand job techniques described and illustrated.
I too am interested in why you do not like oral sex. Wish to enlighten us? Maybe we can provide details and information that will change your mind.
Does he stimulate you orally?
Hrm...Why I don't like giving oral...It's hard to explain I guess, but I suppose my sister gave it a bad name before I became sexually active. That made me opposed to it before I could really have an opinion on it.
Now, I've been with my boyfriend for about a year (the first time I tried to blow him was at 5 months, but that didn't go well at all). Also, I wasn't really a fan of the scent of male crotch (female is probably much worse...)
But I'm getting more comfortable with it as time goes on, mostly because I love to make him happy, but also I'm realizing that it's not that bad and I don't have to take my sisters path, I can go ahead and make my own.
And yes. He does.
Well, let me say the following:
Male or female, whomever is expecting to be on the receiving end of oral should bathe beforehand. Shucks, most of the time this is just common decency, regardless of what the two of you do.
There is a lot of information on the Board on how to give oral stimulation that also includes how to info on whether or not to let him ejaculate in your mouth, how to, etc.
Make up your own mind about it after trying it a few times. You are correct to find your own way. No one should expect to be perfect the first few times. Did you ride a bicycle perfectly the first time?? Making love is a partnership activity; therefore, explore and learn together.
The tastes of semen and vaginal mucus are acquired. They do sometimes take some getting used to, yet both are safe and sanitary as long as the person is healthy.
:D Yes, bathing is very important. He's actually gotten better about it, as have I. I guess we just figured if we were going to do that, it'd take a little pressure off if the smell wasn't so offensive. Thanks a ton for the tips, by the way; they really help and I appreciate it.