Hi and Welcome... I am sure you find the answer to your question in the INDEX .............http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/index-sexinfo101-board-topics/22777-begi...

have a read and then if you have further questions comeback and ask

and NO i have never had a problem getting a guy off with hand or mouth:p;):D

Hmmm 2 weeks and he's demanding "help me to finish?"

Look, guy, what have you done for her lately? Does she ever get to finish? All she gets to do is say "I have a bf" and then she gets to play with your penis.

Please, think of the other person's perspective BEFORE you begin asking questions the begin "how can I get her...?"

In only two weeks you are lucky to be getting handjobs.

Yes, this is common.

Please read thru the Index as it contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles. The one you want is on how to give each other h/j's and b/js.

Key to you success is to have you show her how you masturbate and then to take her hand and guide her movements over several sessions until she learns to mimic your movements. Next, comes feedback. Both of you need to let the other know how you are responding and for what you need now/next.

Only two weeks! Sounds like she is desperate to be loved. Sounds like he is an opportunist. Makes one wonder what sort of foundation they are building for a relationship.

Both have poor attitudes.

i have to agree. Two weeks in, and you're already wondering when the oral and sex will happen??? You're not just lucky, you're DAMN lucky to be getting it by hand. You're trying to move this WAY too fast. All that pressure will do is slow things down, intimidate her and make her feel inferior for not being as 'developed' as you in terms of experience and skill. Just chill.

Mike? Where are you? What comment do you have? How 'bout some discussion so you can broaden your knowledge?

> (heartbreaker haha)

If you are heartbroaken, why the "haha"?

> The only thing she will do is give me a hand job. She gave me a pretty good one recently but it was very hard to finish.

Asked and answered, above. Also, learn where your hot spots are if you do not already know (The Frenulum and one or more distributed around the Corona Rim) and show her how and when to tease them. Use a lubricant, even if only saliva.

> I have had girls in the past give me hand jobs for a couple minutes and then give me head to help make me finish.

OK...how long into each relationship did all this happen? Less than two weeks?

What do you want from your burgeoning relationship with this girl?

It is important for guys to understand how each gender views relationships and more importantly, sex. While it is true in some situations that girls want sex for sex sake, most having a relationship want to be valued, appreciated, loved, and as part of all this will participate in sex. Guys more often than not will say and do just about anything in order to get their rocks off. "Love?" This may or may not come along later to keep the flow of orgasms coming.

This begs the question, Mike, are you only looking for this girl to put out regularly, or, do you want more from your involvement with her? If so, what?

Another important fact to add to your knowledge base is that while orgasms are a necessary part of a male's physiology, not so for a woman's. Females of the species can get along very well without having an orgasm as long as their other needs are addressed--their emotional needs.

Such being the case, our recommendations, above, are for you to slow down and work on developing a meaningful connection between you. This will take time and effort. Think months. When a woman feels secure in the presence of her man, has trust in him, feels valued, loved, desired {for more than just her body), then you can begin to expect that sex will become a part of this as these acts are the outward expression of the emotions between you.

In the meantime help her to be comfortable in your presence, develop trust in all that you say and do, and be able to build a level of intimacy. As these develop, she will very likely expand upon what intimate acts she participates in.

In addition to the many helpful articles listed in the Index, please read the section in Chapter 3 regarding boundaries.

Even though we have been a bit critical of your expectations, above, I do hope all this helps you maintain the proper perspective.

Good luck. Got questions?

Intimidated? Okay. Disgusted, yes, I can understand a girl becoming disgusted at the "I only want sex from you attitude" but intimidated? When all she has to do during the handjob is SQUEEZE?

Speaking as a formerly shy and inexperienced female, being with a more experienced male who's pressuring you can be intimidating. He wants it so bad, and he's already got so much more experience, one can be afraid of messing up, doing it wrong, appearing foolish, God forbid causing pain because of poor technique. First time he asked if I minded if he grabbed the lotion bottle during a hj, I had to ask him what I was supposed to do with it. He and his buddies reportedly had a good laugh behind my back.

First time I tried simultaneous hj's, it was so intense that not only did I stop my hand in place, but I inadvertently took a 'death grip' on....it. I couldn't focus on what my hand was doing, and well....I'm sure you've heard me say before that sometimes I need something to hold on to :D But I was incredibly embarrassed that I'd hurt him. Which can't help but set the tone for future, shall we say lessons.

Int - as soon as you found out that he and his buddies had a good laugh about your inexperience you should have dropped him.

Seriously, women, please do not think you have to 'take it' - ever. Begin a relationship as you mean to go on. Fairness and mutual respect should ALWAYS be part of the deal and if you do not get it - to hell with being intimidated - drop him and walk away. IF you stay - he will lose all respect for you and his treatment of you will only get worse each time to give him a 'free pass'. BTW and vice versa - if you treat him badly expect him to be gone.

You're right, hindsight, I should have. He's another one of those experiences that i value because it helped me figure out what I want and deserve.

[QUOTE=Brandye;241995]In only two weeks you are lucky to be getting handjobs.[/QUOTE]

Yes indeed Brandye, you are right, but these are modern times. We are in an 'instant' world. One is reminded of the comedy series in uk called 'The Likely Lads' from about thirty years ago where girls were classified by Bob and Terry as 'Upstairs Outside' 'Upstairs Inside' Downstairs Outside' etc according to whether the lasses would allow feeling breasts outside, inside or whatever.
You have posed an interesting thought though Brandye; what are the modern expectations of male/female on first date, second date etc?????:confused:

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;242106]Int - as soon as you found out that he and his buddies had a good laugh about your inexperience you should have dropped him.

Seriously, women, please do not think you have to 'take it' - ever. Begin a relationship as you mean to go on. Fairness and mutual respect should ALWAYS be part of the deal and if you do not get it - to hell with being intimidated - drop him and walk away. IF you stay - he will lose all respect for you and his treatment of you will only get worse each time to give him a 'free pass'. BTW and vice versa - if you treat him badly expect him to be gone.[/QUOTE]

Wise wise words EEK

Mau - and there are women who will want to 'test' a fellow out before thinnking about a relationship with him but they are few and far between and usually older women.

I'm afraid doc did nothing more than answer your question with wayyy more questions than you needed lol. But i have the same problem, and we've been together two YEARS. She gives blowjobs, but i was looking in this forum for a way to relax to cum more easily while getting a handjob- and YES- i return the favor for my girl. any help??

Why aren't you relaxing during manual?
Answer that and there's your answer!

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;242147]Mau - and there are women who will want to 'test' a fellow out before thinnking about a relationship with him but they are few and far between and usually older women.[/QUOTE]

Yes indeed, and even given my situation, I would have to LIKE a lady before entering into a relationship.

mau - I am fairly sure that an attractive woman wanting to get you into bed would find very little resistance.

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;243025]mau - I am fairly sure that an attractive woman wanting to get you into bed would find very little resistance.[/QUOTE]

Nahhhhhh EEK. Older values prevail.....now mebbe a few years ago!!

Sure, mau, sure - I believe you.