Yup, what they said. Talking is key--what's more, feedback is crucial. It is important to know how each of you is responding to the other's touch and caress and for what you need now.

Have you made the transition from pre- to an orgasmic person? In other words, do you masturbate and have orgasms? If not, at some point you should learn. If so, then you know that each of us establishes a certain pattern of rhythms, motions, and, pressures, that we pretty much rely upon for the rest of lives. Oh, sure, we may vary the method from time to time, yet if we stray too far from what works to trigger an orgasm, it either will not happen or it will be less than desired. This is particularly true for us guys.

Vaginal stimulation feels different than being stimulated by hand; so too does oral. These differences in feeling can take some getting used to.

Also, a lot of couples, particularly guys, nowadays are under the misguided misconception that lots and Lots and LOTS and LOTS of stroking is the way to reach and achieve a climax. WRONG. This is the why of Foreplay and all the making out that has gone on before and during. Intercourse should generally not begin until the guy is at the ragged edge of maintaining control, especially in a situation like this. Once he adapts, then you can change the timing of when intercourse begins.

> and I had stopped because it was awkward, we were doing it for a while but he didn't get off, is it something I did or is he just not really attracted to me,

a) do you really think he is not attracted to you? This could be true if the woman and the situation were opportunistic to put it politely.

b) with more experience you will learn that "awkwardness" does not mean you have to stop--just change things.

c) when you stopped (intercourse) and I presume everything else, did you attempt to finish him by hand and/or mouth, or did you leave him to possibly suffer from a case of Blue Balls, exasperation and frustration? Here, too, with more experience, the two of you will seek other ways of reaching a climax for each.

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums, Daisy. I hope you enjoy participating. Your concerns are common ones and working together will help to make things better. Please keep in mind that making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other. A relationship is a partnership.

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Just the way nerves can make a guy cum too quick... nerves can always do the opposite.
You guys are still fairly new to each other and may just take more time to feel comfortable.

Don't worry about it!! It's not you!!

What DB said is completely right plus..
Penetration is a different form of stimulation.. not every guy finishes too quickly.

You guys should be more open instead of it feeling awkward you guys should talk.. laugh... communication is the key!! Talk to him... ask him what happened