Hi all,
I just had a chat to someone about the size of my boyfriend's penis, and they said that I wasn't getting any feeling or pleasure out of sex, because he had a small penis. I'm not even sure what would classify a penis as being small, but is it true? can smaller penis' give less pleasure if it doesn't reach a certain way into the vagina?
and if so, is tere any way to improve this? Any position we have tried I either feel only the "presence" of him inside me, or hurts me
hey emoney,
hows it going man. well i would just like to say that i am impressed by your size. i want to ask if you have ever called guiness book of world records. i ask this because the word record for the longest is only 15 in. which is considerably shorter than your claim. i hope to see a change on the record. good luck with that.
hey demon,
in reply to ur msg, I haven't gotten off with vaginal stimulation before because I literally don't feel a feeling when anything is in htere, i can only feel like, a slight expanding feeling and a presence. We've tried a lot of positions already, and its all the same feeling for me, unless it starts to hurt.
I think over time I've been looking for answers to why i don't feel anything during sex, and over time, and even during our first time (becuse i don't really know that much about guys size and what not) i've noted my bf isn't that big, i think hes a fair bit under average in length and girth.. i know ur thinking I've put myself into the mindset that hes not big therefore i won't come, but through the first times we'd had sex i never took this into account, and i was not one step toward coming myself through the duration of sex back then as I am now.
And to reply to Lady,
I totally agree it has to be equal on both accounts for anything to happen, and it has been on every occaision, because it is somewhat rare for him to sleep over at my place these days.
I guess I'm just wondering and yearning for us to reach that point for me, lol guys are easy to bring over the top, but i can't figure myself out eh..
i used to feel that way, i still do.. honestly it depends on the person you are with, i was with someone a year and half.. and just felt used.
BOTH have to be into it equally. or thats how i feel.
Most women can't orgasm from just penetration alone. I usually need penetration w/ some clit action.
I can also get off w/ 2 fingers and when you think about it... thats smaller than a penis!?!
Are you trying different positions to see which ones feel better?
Have him or you rub your clit during or I have a small vibe I sometimes use.
Besides, did you feel this way BEFORE you and your friend had your lil talk? be honest...
I wouldn't say you are being "used" for sex. I mean if you and your b/f are trying.. what else can be said?
Just keep working at it!
good luck
Hey again, thanks for your replies,
Yes, I'm quite inexperienced at sex and I have only had my current bf as my only sexual partner, we've been together for a year and a half and i haven't orgasmed through sex. We've talked about it before, and he knows I don't feel anything through it, even he acknowleges it may be him.
I'm not saying I don't enjoy sex with him at all, I love him more than anything and hope we never part, i enjoy everythign else he does during sex with me but I'm getting to the point where i feel like I'm just being used fr intercourse in a sense. I can make myself orgasm, and I've directed him as well, but no cigar.
so.. I don't know, it's not like we only started sex a week ago, we've been doing it for many months..
I indeed believe that the size of a mans penis isnt as important as some folks make it out to be.I also believe that sex is as enjoyable as the connection between the folks involved.If it is a deep,passionate relationship then any size should do,unless there are some special circumstances.But I dont have that problem because I have a 17 incher and all the women all get involved with love it!
Mind if I go psycho-analytical on you?
You write:
"and they said that I wasn't getting any feeling or pleasure out of sex, because he had a small penis."
This statement tells me you're guessing as to why you're not getting any pleasure out of sex and that you're looking for someone else to tell you.. which strikes me as being inexperienced on your part, that you don't know your own body. You write:
"I either feel only the "presence" of him inside me, or hurts me"
.. which honestly strikes me as not necessarily having anything to do with his size. Could it be you're not into it? .. or don't know your own body well enough yet? That isn't to say it's not him.. but I would explore all possibilities. Do you have any previous relationship with which you can compare? (I can just see guys cringing for miles at this statement. lol) The reason I ask is that if this is your very inexperienced it could be your own emotions/lack of experience/lack of letting go that is shutting off the feeling of him or making it hurt.
I once had a relationship with someone who could be termed small, but we had the most phenomenal sex. He wasn't bent on trying to make up for some supposed disadvantage so that he was over-aggressive. Instead, he was bent on pleasing me, and wanted me so badly that he put every bit of his assets to good use. I was highly impressed, highly satisfied and if I'd had any preconceived ideas as to what sex would be like with a small man, they all went out the window.
In other words, it truly can be all in how you use it, but I suppose it's a matter of preference and your own definition of what makes for a small penis. Point is it might not be him. It might be you. I would try discussing it with him, but don't bring up your suspicions involving his size as that certainly isn't going to help matters. He can't change that but together you can make some changes so you're both happy.