I would definately agree! Go see a gynocoligist. There maybe some underlying problem that the may be able to find. I know that certain times during the month certain positions really hurt me, and that's usually about 1week or so before my period.
She could have a small vaginal canal, her uterus could be tilted, you could actually be hitting her cervix during sex which can sometimes cause pain.
I would go in and be total honest with a gynocoligist and hopefully they'll be able to help.

[QUOTE=Quote (snp0079 @ May 16 2004,11:11)]Thank you all for writing in the replies.. we have been trying various things.. but nothing seems to work.. so all we do is engage in foreplay (enjoying it to the core) and climax. Suprisingly, we're not missing sex at all!! We haven't had sex since about a month and a half and its been 3 months to our wedding.. is it normal?

Ultra guru, I'm NOT such a gigantic fellow..nor is my wife extra petite lol.
i'm an avg 6" (height 5'11) and she's 5'6. I guess it seems to be more psychological than anything.... any other inputs wud be greatly appreciated.

Thanks once again for ur helpful suggestions.[/QUOTE]
My advice would be to go with your wife to a good gynocologist and have her get an internal exam. It's quite possible that the problem is internal to her, in which case no amount of lubrication or desire will help. There are certain cases (though very rare) where the vaginal walls on the inside haven't properly "separated" and so the vaginal canal isn't allowing any real penetration. If this turns out to be the actual problem, the good news is it can easily be fixed in a very minor surgical procedure that can be done under local anasthesia.

OK, i'm 19 years old with 2years of constant sexual experience.  My man and I have had sex nearly every single day since (disregarding those days when it's not really practical eg. periods).

We're women, we suffer the friction.  Even now, sometimes the friction is just too much, and i get sore, and i noticed that if we use lubricant that can also somewhat make some more irritation.  The reason i have come up with (as it started happening to my partner - not as often as I, though) is that when we have sex at night and dont shower after (rather we just go straight to sleep) the lube tends to irritate the skin and the lips and surroundings of the vagina.  Also, us women are wetter one day, dry the next, depending on how our cycle works.

I can say that as time goes on, the pain just keeps on slowly ceasing.  Obviously it depends on how often you have sex.  But even when i am sore, i still encounter in sexual play and when it's been sore for too many days in a row (say....a week?) i dont have sex for one night then i feel so much better the day after and i'm ready to go.

So it just depends on the person, i guess.  I get sore at different times still, sometimes its bad, sometimes i dont get sore at all - sometimes we have sex up to 3 times a day and i dont know whether i'll be sore or not. Not to mention when the lube gets irritating, it can be a hassle.

So get your wife to REALLY try washing well and wash a couple of times "down there" when she's showering, not just once.

There's only so many little tips we can feed, i hope these help!  

I'm a bit concerned over your statment "Still hurts like hell."

If you both are totaly in love, have alot of foreplay, etc....then a reasonable person could assume that during arousal, her vagina is secreating fluid in preparation of intercourse, and the blood is engorging her vaginal canal..and all the other cool thing the body does in preparation for intercourse.

Ok, that said, i'm kinda stumped about why it would HURT LIKE HELL. Unless you are 6'6" with a 12" cock thats as thick as a beercan, and she's 5'2" 99lbs, i think it may be more psychological.

The female reproductive area is designed to accomodate the VAST majority of penis' - both lenght and girth. So, if she's having alot of pain.....there's something else at play.
Areyou using only condoms for BC?
Is there a significant difference in body size? Cock size?

Please fill in teh blanks so we can offer more specific help!

i agree completely w/what was said..
although i dont have enoug "girl-friends" to have actual sex convos with them..and my guy friends sure as hell dont talk to me about their 1st time lol

but i can tell you from personal experience..it hurt the 1st time (4 me), it hurt the 2-like 10th time for me. it eventually got to be pleasurable..

maybe yall want to look at buying some toys? clit stimulator? umm gspot thingy...dildo..i dont know. actually id recommend a dildo to see if that hurts her also..

was she sexually abused as a child? i was raped and i had some reservations about sex--which put some funky ass thoughts into my head..

but i dont know. what kind of lube are you guys using? i know that if the KY gets too old (personal experience lol) it tends to get somewhat sticky & gross...

but check out some toys..maybe that will help to i dunno--do something

I honestly can not speak on behalf of everybody, but by personal experience, the situation you and your wife are in is very possible.
Even now after 2 years of constant sex, sometimes i still get sore. It just depends on what position/angle/speed you're going at. If you switch positions often during sex, you will find that your wife may become extremely sore.  Even if you have sex once per day yet change positions once per day, this is enough to counteract upon pain.  The only way to heal the process is time and care.
I suggest you keep up the lubricant for a start.  If possible, reapply the lube during sex to keep the flow comfortable.  Even if you feel it's wet, inside of your wife could be starting to get very irritated and painful.  Lubricant is very different to water/cum/spit, whatever.  So when you cause a lot of friction, the lubricating substance starts to 'wear and tear' so to speak, and although you still feel the wetness, the lube might not be doing its job.  So apply more!
Another thing i can suggest is taking it very slow.  Dont jam into her.  Let your wife take you in and let her set the rhythm.  Try not to pump harder until your wife directs you otherwise.  As you mentioned, even figering can hurt her, which is highly possible. Take the time to let her heal before getting rough again. Go down on her by all means, but dont use your fingers and dont insert anything into her. Also, be gentle on the open area where the vagina begins. The edging of the hole can get very painful.
One more thing, let your wife know to shower often, particularly after sex.  If you have sex, try and fit in a shower straight afterwards if possible.  Assure her to clean herself properly a few times down there, not just once.  Make sure she targets more painful spots when washing and concentrate on that area.

Awesome to hear you guys are still getting off, there's nothing that should ever come between you to destroy that! I hope my advice was helpful for both you and your wife. Let me know if you have any other questions.

Good luck!