If you're ready to have a child and support them, then you're ready. Don't do anything unless you're ready for the consequences.

all these things to consider, you could wait...

or find other alternatives.

look around this site, something of this topic might have come up. Just know, you are not alone with this issue, especially as a male.

The answer Rouge gave, above, is correct yet incomplete. There is much to know and understand about having sex {stopping with an orgasm from Foreplay) and ending with an orgasm from intercourse.

I recommend reading the articles in this thread found in the Index.

I'm Ready for SEX! (or am I?) I really want to do it.

There are many things a young boy needs to know and understand before when considering plugging "P" into "V".
1. Are you prepared for possibly becoming an unwed father and to have the future course of your life forever changed? If the answer is "no", then you are not yet ready for intercourse.

2. Because teens and young women in their twenties are the most prone to becoming pregnant, we recommend three forms of birth control methods be used. It is simply not sufficient to use one, be it the pill or condom.

Looking out for and protecting A#1--you, it is strongly recommended that a couple use the pill (or other form of highly reliable form of contraception, plus a condom, plus a spermicide! If these are not available, then do not tempt Mother Nature because she has a way of surprising a couple.

3. Fooling around and making out is one thing; foreplay is another; intercourse is quite another, yet. I understand a young man's curiosity about first-time intercourse and seeing each other naked for the first time. What you must understand is your responsibility when indulging in adult activities and for possible consequences.

The teen years are a decade long as is the process of changing from being a child to an adult. Our bodies begin changing around eleven or twelve, sometimes later, with full maturity occurring around twenty one. Just because you have gone thru puberty and can father a child does not mean a person has the mental and emotional maturity, as well as the financial ability to care for a child that may very well result despite all precautions.

I also understand about male urges and raging hormones. Now is the time for you to understand, also. Every boy on the planet wants what you want and some give in to their hormones instead of manning up and doing what is the right and responsible behavior. Doing so is your first test at managing emotions and physical urges. It is also your first test at being a responsible person.

I can pretty much guarantee that having an orgasm from Foreplay activities {oral and/or hand job) results in a much more intense orgasm than intercourse. If you want to have sex then limit your activities to this. For more on the topic, please read the articles listed in the Index concerning the how-to's of making out.

If you have no girlfriend and want to enjoy more intense orgasms than from normal masturbation, either use a lubricant, or, use a pseudo vagina (do a site search for more on making a simple substitute for the real deal).

> i cant control it.

Yes, you can. Yes, you must. For more on managing your urges, please read this article:

Boys and Masturbation / Got questions?

> the problem is im not the kind of person to do that and also im religious and have a religious family so i have no idea what i should be doing.

* Abstain until you have the answer.
* Abstain until you meet the right girl, not just a female body willing to make accommodations to your urges.
* Abstain until you know more about responsibilities and consequences
* Abstain until you and a girl take equal responsibility for your respective protection.,
* Abstain until you can and are willing to support a child or have discussed and have alternative plans in place. Remember, using birth control does not mean you cannot have a child; it means that the chances are much less likely, and this is not a zero.

Sweet, you have some maturing to do, as did we all when your age, and will those boys younger than you sometime soon. It is one thing to be physically mature yet much more difficult learning to be an adult and all that this entails. Nobody said the teen years are going to be easy. Far from it. So too the twenties. Just think that if even a percentage of the guys in your school gave into their urges and had intercourse with a girl, a small percentage of the girls would become pregnant even using protection, and this means you would be seen many more expectant girls in your school. We all get thru this time. Time for you to learn how, also.

There is a sticky, Am I Ready? It was written for women but the lessons are quite the same for young men. The psychological and social factors are every bit as important as the physical ones.

Well, the right time is completely up to you. But I would say that before you do anything you need to become as informed about your body and about a woman's body as you possibly can. Dont go asking your friends because they are as clueless as you are. Go research and get online and check some credible websites. You say your religious so I would pray to be led in the right direction because sex with the wrong person or at the wrong time could lead to disaster.