Hello everyone, I've looked around the forum (not extremely hard) but I couldn't seem to find a thread discussing this question.
When my girlfriend and I have sex, she describes her feeling of pleasure as being too intense. Almost as if the pleasure is too much to orgasm. Is there anyway I could be going to fast and providing too much pleasure for her to orgasm? Like going past the threshold of pleasure for the orgasm.
I am in no way disappointed about not being able to give her a g spot orgasm. I was just curious if this was possible or common. I just make up for it with clitoral stimulation anyway :D Oh and she has never had a g spot orgasm before.
[QUOTE=Shake-n-bake14;215697]Hello everyone, I've looked around the forum (not extremely hard) but I couldn't seem to find a thread discussing this question.
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When my girlfriend and I have sex, she describes her feeling of pleasure as being too intense. Almost as if the pleasure is too much to orgasm. Is there anyway I could be going to fast and providing too much pleasure for her to orgasm? Like going past the threshold of pleasure for the orgasm.
[COLOR="DarkSlateBlue">What is probably happening is that she is becoming hyper-sensitive at a point along her arousal curve just prior to the trigger point of her orgasm. The female of the species sometimes has this occur before, while for us males, it happens immediately after the climax. Either way, the sensation only lasts a few minutes. It is caused by the release of a hormone by the brain. For women, there is a work around and that is to stimulate the clitoris indirectly. Fold the inner labia over it and massage the clitoris through them.[/COLOR]
I am in no way disappointed about not being able to give her a g spot orgasm. I was just curious if this was possible or common.
[COLOR="DarkSlateBlue">To correct you, we do not give orgasms away, each of us is responsible for our own. All any of us can do is to help our partner achieve his/her own. That said, if she has made the transition to an orgasmic woman and can have orgasms reliably and consistently then she can work on having G-spot stimulation.[/COLOR]
I just make up for it with clitoral stimulation anyway :D Oh and she has never had a g spot orgasm before.[/QUOTE]
Has she had any type of orgasm? I suggest reading the articles listed in the Index. If she is pre-orgasmic then she has to learn how to have orgasms and there are several articles listed that discuss the ins and outs of the female response. In addition to what is listed in the Index, I've pulled several of those articles and inserted them into a couple of today's threads.
I have answered this many many times.
Extra stimulation is perceived by the brain as pain.
You get through this, she does, by RELAXING and BREATHING deeply and calmly and riding this period out - why should she do this? Because an orgasm of almost mythical proportions await her on the other side.
Train her brain and this "pain" goes away - never to return.
This is how a woman becomes multi-orgasmic.
Please find the sticky post The Program and do it.
You might be going to fast for her and over-stimulation of the clitoris can be annoying...it can be used slow and to tease, later proper penetration and stimulation is good. Try different methods or perhaps you are pushing/stimulating the clitoris to hard or too fast????
Follow what the other have suggested. The most aroused/sensitive part of the body is the skin. Find out what she finds enjoyable as well. Experiment!
Sorry I haven't responded sooner. I've been swamped with finals. Anywho, thank you tons for the suggestions guys. I'll definitely try going slower and more steady.
To clarify things a little more, my girlfriend has had clitoral orgasms but its the mythical "g spot" we've had trouble with. She says the feeling is so intense she feels she can't orgasm. I'm pretty sure the feeling she gets isn't pain. She describes the vaginal stimulation as almost being overwhelming...if thats possible. Well I'm still open for suggestions. Thanks again for the responses!
The G-Spot orgasm usually takes a lot longer to build up to an orgasm. And yes, for me as well, the feeling is almost overwhelming, but it is a good feeling. If she is wanting you to stop, then perhaps you can just go a little slower or take a few steps back. I find that g-Spot orgasms are incredibly satisfying.