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Is it possible to give a woman an orgasm while she sleeps?

I woke up this morning around 3 AM. My wife was lying beside me, on her back. So I put my hand on her thigh and started gently massaging it, while trying to get back to sleep. As I moved my hand up and down her thigh very gently, her legs opened up just a little bit. She wasn't snoring, so I thought she was awake. So I very gently started massaging her inner thigh, getting slowly closer to her genitals. I started teasing the area and her legs opened up a bit more. I could feel her sexual responsiveness. So I put my hand on her mound (over her pyjamas) and gently rubbed her there with my whole hand. She then started snoring. I was confused because usually when she sleeps, she does not react when I cuddle her. But she was being responsive to my stimulation while being asleep. Now at this point, as you can imagine, I was extremely horny. So I continued to stimulate her in the hopes of waking her up for some action, but very gently not to startle her. So, still over her pyjamas, I'm very gently rubbing her, her legs slowly open up more and more, and I can feel her becoming wet. All along she's still snoring. This lasted about 5 minutes until suddenly her back arched and she yanked away (the same way she does when I normally manually or orally stimulate her, cause she's very sensitive after a clitoral orgasm), and turned to her side. She never moaned, never made a sound, just kept on snoring. So I decided not to push any further and just fell asleep while holding her.

So my question is: Is it possible that I gave her an orgasm while she was sleeping? Is it possible she never realized it? This morning she was in a great mood :) though and she said she slept very well all night. I haven't mentioned anything to her, not sure if I should...

Yes it is possible, I once had a lover who could orgasm in her sleep without ever waking up. In fact, during the 5 months we were together, on several occasions we woke up making love--both claimed neither started it, we somehow BOTH began to stimulate one another while asleep and ended up joined--but we never wore pajamas, so that was much easier to do! The conversation the next morning would go something like this; "What time was it you woke me up for sex last night?" "I didn't wake you up for sex last night, you woke ME up!" No, dear, when I woke up, I was already inside you..." "NO, dear, when I woke up, you were already inside ME!" "Oh, well somehow we were both asleep and we started automatically..." It became sort of funny, because it did seem that neither of us had started it! A few times one of us would awaken but the other would remain asleep, not remembering anything specific but sometimes having some sleepy recall sort of like a sex dream.
Michael

Not this woman. There's something decidely creepy about a guy who would do that a woman.

a good lawyer might be able to argue that as rape, since you knowingly advanced sexually while she was not able to consent or not. as soon as you realized she was asleep you should have stopped because implied consent assumes consciousness.

[QUOTE=weasel;266013]a good lawyer might be able to argue that as rape, since you knowingly advanced sexually while she was not able to consent or not. as soon as you realized she was asleep you should have stopped because implied consent assumes consciousness.[/QUOTE]

So if I follow you correctly, I should sue my wife for all the times she's played with my shaft in my sleep to wake me up for some lovin'? Come on! She's my wife. We've done far worst things together and to each other than fondling each other in our sleep...

Now back on topic:

I asked my wife if she remembered that night, and she didn't. It got her curious, and wanted me to try again. So a few nights later, I woke up again, and started doing the same thing, until she orgasmed. This time though the orgasm woke her up. But I tried again, a few times, and yes, there are times where she did not wake up and had no recollection of it. Yet it seemed like she was awake and having a powerful orgasm. So like mikkiji stated, it is possible to give a woman an orgasm in her sleep.

Yes, you could but being male, you probably wouldn't.

Awww EEK that's not fair. Unless you are trying to imply that as a male you cannot give the other sex an orgasm, but you can helpt the achieve it.

And interesting about it being considered rape. What if the "victim" has asked for it. My girl is so sexually aroused by the thought of me having sex with her in her sleep, that just by talking about it she will attack me. She has made it quiet clear that if we ever spend the night together and I awake before she does I am to have sex with her. So even though she is not awake, since she has said she wanted to (specifically while asleep) would it still be a crime?

[QUOTE=sebasc955;266045]So if I follow you correctly, I should sue my wife for all the times she's played with my shaft in my sleep to wake me up for some lovin'? Come on! She's my wife. We've done far worst things together and to each other than fondling each other in our sleep...

Now back on topic:

I asked my wife if she remembered that night, and she didn't. It got her curious, and wanted me to try again. So a few nights later, I woke up again, and started doing the same thing, until she orgasmed. This time though the orgasm woke her up. But I tried again, a few times, and yes, there are times where she did not wake up and had no recollection of it. Yet it seemed like she was awake and having a powerful orgasm. So like mikkiji stated, it is possible to give a woman an orgasm in her sleep.[/QUOTE]

no i said it could since not all women might want to be advanced upon sexually while not conscious, it could go along the same lines as someone who sleeps with a chick while she is passed out drunk, if she can't say yes or no then that means no unless verry specifically stated otherwise and even then who knows. like i said "A GOOD LAWYER COULD ARGUE IT"

also EEK stated it beter than i could and provided the female point of view, this is what she said in Another thread

"Oh great! So make a plastic doll out of her? Yeah, that's showing her how much you care about her as a person. By all means, fuck her when she's not participating, not enjoying, and may not even be aware of what you're doing.

That will really make her feel safe with you.

"How can I trust him now?"

To make the point even more clear to you, think about how you would feel if you suddenly awoke to find her anally doing you during your sleep with a strap-on."

another person on that thread also stated that she had this situation happen to her and it was most definitely rape. like i said earlier which you would have grasped if you read my post, implied consent is assuming the other person is in the right mind to consent. if a girl is under the influence of alcohol, it can be prosecuted as rape, if she is drugged it is rape, and if she is sleeping then it could be argued as rape. I'm not saying you are a rapist but look at the concept of what you are doing, you are knowingly making sexual advances on someone who cannot at the moment stop you or give consent, if it is explicitly stated that it is ok before hand then you would have to ask a lawyer or judge because that situation is out of my knowledge.

OP be carefuly cuz there is a fine line here. Similar to a man being raped by a woman. Ya he may get an erection he may even have an orgasm, but its a human response. It doesn't mean he wanted it (this confusion causes many men to never come forward about being raped). Your wife may have an orgasm, she could be as wet as niagra falls. She could have mind blowing multiple orgasms. But it doesn't necessarily mean she wants it.

And just because she's your wife doesn't mean that its okay. Marraige doesn't give you the right to make decisions for her body (except for some medical decisions if I'm not mistaken like in case of a coma). You can merely say things like "I would like to have sex with you, we are married and I would enjoy having sex with my wife" you cannt say "your my wife you will have sex with me now" its not how it works.

EEK I am sorta surprised by that comment.

Yes most men are more than willing to "do" any girl who is willing. But your statement seems to aim at discrediting men who have been forced into having sex with a woman.

If this is the case why is it wrong for a 17 year old male to engage in intercourse with a teacher? It is considered sexual abuse yet he could easily have wanted it since evey 17 year old boy is a raging sex machine.

And correct me if I'm wrong but a "slut" is a term used for women who are easy and sleep around. So then would she not really be raped because she is much more likely to say yes than no?

Men aren't raped by the millions. The number isn't as high as women. But at the same time the number of men who are raped is suprisingly higher than that reported. This is all based on the same thought process as your comment. "Well she was attractive so I guess I wanted it" or " I am a man so I should have wanted it". Does this mean married women who are raped by husband should "want" the sex since its their husband? Or if their attack is sexually attractive they should want it? Because that right there would nullify all the "We were at my apartment fooling around I said stop but he didn't" rape cases.

Please feel free to correct me if I misunderstood your comment, but I can't really see a reason other than trying to discredit cases of mens rape.

Ducy- men having faced rejection for so much of their lives are usually more willing to say YES to anything a preferred sexual partner has in mind than to say NO, get away from me you horrible woman!

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;266061]Ducy- men having faced rejection for so much of their lives are usually more willing to say YES to anything a preferred sexual partner has in mind than to say NO, get away from me you horrible woman![/QUOTE]
Hmmm... not in those harsh words, but have heard it quite a few times with the same intention :rolleyes:

Apart from Michael's story, in which both are sleeping, I don't see any fun in either receiving or giving... And I can even imagine it could be very frightening to wake up like that; since people are usually a little disorientated :eek: If it is indeed a fantasy, then it should be discussed prior and consented to. If it happens to not be much fun waking up, you'd at least know the intentions were good and trust is not violated. I can also imagine that there's a difference to be made in what sexual acts you'd allow...

What I do like is him waking me up slowly with soft breathing in my neck and little kisses. He likes the same wake-up done for him, depends on who wakes up first ;) I guess the best wake-up was when he repeatedly softly whispered "strawberry" in between kisses. I thought I had received a new nickname, but then I indeed smelled fresh strawberries and got to enjoy the taste a little later :)

Ducy - just what it said. Men are more likely to say yes to sex than no. Not considering rape in that statement.

Ok I apologize for my previous statement. I misunderstood.

Back to the topic at hand. I would be happy to wake up to my current partner riding me. Would I want to wake up to any other girl? Most likely not simply because I do not have any trust with them.

This is something I would like to study and experience both giving and receiving. Clearly in the story the wife's subconscious enjoyed the stimulation. I guess this ok if the person doesn't wake up ever. That would be annoying when you are trying to sleep. I wonder if a person is having sex in a dream when this is happening.

Yes there needs to be consent before doing this but after that this seems to be fun for both parties

As I stated earlier, my wife is ok with it. the first time was by accident, but now she's curious about it, and it's something we are now both experimenting with. We are both consenting adults who like to explore different things sexually speaking, and this is something new for both of us. No penetration of any kind (not even fingers) happens if my wife doesn't wake up.

So when I do stimulate her gently in her sleep, one of four things happens (for those like big916 who are curious about this matter):

-She doesn't wake up, has an orgasm without knowing it, but in the morning she feels even more relaxed than she usually does after a good night's sleep.

-The orgasm wakes her up, which she really enjoys if I'm being really gentle. She says those orgasms tend to be stronger because she is relaxed, and her mind is empty (nothing is stressing her at the moment). Sometimes it leads to more, but usually, because she's still a bit sleepy anyway, it stops there.

-It doesn't work. I try to stimulate her but get no reaction whatsoever. So then I stop.

-She rolls away from me, or pushes my hand away. When that happens, I stop and do not try again. One time I was not gentle enough while stimulating her, so she woke up startled. She did not enjoy it that time.

I haven't tried doing it when we've had sex the night before, so I din't know if it would make a difference. Because when we have sex, after that I'm out like a light all night through.

I repeat. We are both consenting adults. I am not molesting or raping my wife. I fact I think her subconcious is enjoying it alot because now it's at the point that if I wake up in the middle of the night and just put my arm around her, she automatically rolls on her back (if she's lying on her side or her stomach).

seems you have your answer about acceptance or rejection of your advances here, your first two examples are her saying ok, the latter two are her saying no. She is your wife and presuming that she is ok with having sex with you when awake on most occasions, I would think she would have a hard time making rape out of this.

but... that's not what you were asking about......

It is possible for her to have an orgasm in her sleep and not remember it, women have them all the time on their own just like men do, but it's not as obvious because they don't make a mess. It's just that on this occasion you helped her get there.

Interesting turn for an old post so I had to register so I could throw in my all knowing and always right opinion xD.. I would go so far as to say first of all... It is most certainly possible to give her an orgasm while she is asleep.. Before I proceed I want to say that the intent in answering questions and curiosities on here is not to make pointed comments about morality because we all know that every one and every couple is different in their needs, wants, and desires.. In a comfortable relationship that has open lines of sexual communication such as mine; (14 year marriage) it drives her wild when I wake her up in a sexual way and I've never been turned away.. If you enjoy doing this then you like to make her feel good and she knows that hence the trust and comfort level of her allowing you to do about anything you want which produces some amazing sexual encounters :) anyways.. A couple routes that I take is not necessarily to wake her in order to fuck her but like the original question; to potentially induce a wet dream complete with orgasm xD.. Be careful that if she's a sleep talker that anything she may speak in a dream state shouldn't be used against her because who she is with in her dream may not be you so you really have to be all about her.. We always sleep in a close embrace with her back to me unclothed which definitely helps lol.. The starting physical contact helps to ensure she remains asleep otherwise if you just reach for the cookies you would definitely wake her up lol.. Also the same as in love making, some very lite hot breaths to the top of her back or where ever her sensitive breathing area is you should already know.. Extremely slow and extremely gentile touching will get her body ready.. Just like in typical love making; don't jump right for clit city or you won't get your intended result.. You should expect to spend at least thirty++ minutes working on her and it just takes patience and practice like anything and worst case cenario.. If she wakes up.. She is going to want fucked really bad so have all your toys, condoms, fresh batteries ;) whatever you use standing by to put a smile on her face and she will thank you and be back to sleep happy with a fresh orgasm and another notch in your belt of fun experiences :)

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;266061]Ducy- men having faced rejection for so much of their lives are usually more willing to say YES to anything a preferred sexual partner has in mind than to say NO, get away from me you horrible woman![/QUOTE]

I find that facing rejection for much of your life teaches you not to ask.

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;266075]Ducy - just what it said. Men are more likely to say yes to sex than no. Not considering rape in that statement.[/QUOTE]

I think that depends on which men, and who with.
Also people might agree to sex when they dont really feel like/want to do it.

Whoa

Personally, as a female, I enjoy a little sleep loving. the whole talk about RAPE however kills my spirits. It is one thing to have a "Sexprise!" session with someone you already sleep with, and it is an entirely different thing to rape your lover in their sleep. thanks for including that lawyer fact but... I think that phrasing just cause a huge stifle.
Again back to it. One the best orgasms I ever had was in sudconscious territory. This worked out well because I am a very heavy sleeper. Oh gosh just thinking about it now it was amazing. Ha when I had later awaken, Blake was on an completely different level. He claims it was from seeing my "reaction."

Yeah, us men ARE pitiful creatures indeed...! In my 40 years of sexual experiences, I have never once said "No" to a woman. I have several times had sex with a woman when I did not really want to, and one time, I went over to a girlfriend's apartment to break up with her and ended up having sex with her. You have got us pinned (to the wall!) EEK--we are basically desperate and weak, we lack self-respect and self-control, and are ruled by our biological imperative to spread our seed. Oh well, Vive la différence...!
Michael

I think that there is nothing more relaxing than to wake up with my partner inside of me! I have given oral consent to him doing this even though he thinks im crazy as mentioned above it leads to the best orgasm because your mind is clear of thought and your body is totally relaxed. Im a light sleeper so i wake up every time but iove it!!!