Hi, i am a 18 yr old male and i have had sex 3 times, but 2 of them times i had to use a viagra pill which i stole, because the 3 times before that i couldnt get hard enough to insert into her and the other just happend without anything but was very short like 4 mins or so, every since then we have tried and i can get hard but it does not get hard enough for penetration and i am getting very frustrated with myself and very depressed from it. but when im alone and masterbate i seem to have no problem it seems like it is hard enough then but not when it needs to be. my girlfriend who i love understands an doesnt know i took the viagra's, she says it doesnt bother her she loves me no matter what when it happens but it is not fair and its killing me inside because i cannot have sexual intercourse with the person i love. i do not know whats wrong with me and i wish to know and so does she PLEASE!! help me!
Thu, 04/07/2005 - 02:28
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is it mental or physical
1. Do not diagnose yourself as depressed and create a self-fulfilling prophesy.
2. Make an appointment and see a doctor. Tell him the entire story you've told here. Eliminate the possibility your lack of an erection is physical.
3. Stop stealing Viagra and definitely stop taking it!
4. Thank the gods (or whatever, no religious implications here) that you apparently have a wonderful, loving, understanding gf.
5. Remember that much of what is posted on these forums is opinion and might be right or might not be right.
If you are desperate enough to steal and take Viagra this is too big an issue for you to get it resolved in this form. GO TO A DOCTOR.
You need to stop stealing viagra. That is not some toy to get you hard. It is for a medical reason and should be given by a doctor that has made sure your not at risk for adverse side effects like a heart attack.
Since this only seems to happen with intercourse, I tend to think it's mental. Probably stress. Unfortunately, this can be a vicious cycle. You have a little trouble once, so the next time you are worried, so it's worse, and then you worry more... and so on.
You need to try to relax. I KNOW that's difficult. Concentrate on pleasing her... you can do that manually or orally (hey! lesbians do it that way and don't have a problem...lol). I'm betting if you quit worrying about it, things will get better.
It's totally in your head.Your only 18, so I highly doubt that type of ED.
Also,how often do you masturbate?I know from previous experience it can seriously numb the senses and you wont feel anything,especially if your wearing a condom.
dude, its probably all in your head.
i was having the exact same problem, i couldnt get an erection hard enough, or to last long enough to do anything. It took some time to basically pysche my self up and it finally happened, and now i have no problems. After thinking about it, im pretty sure i was just too worried about concentrating on what i was doing, and worrying about hurting her, but once i let that stuff go for a bit, it just happened.
after reading on here, it seems to be a fairly common problem, so i wouldnt worry about it. clear your mind, relax and have fun no matter what happens.